This is shallow, but is it possible to buy another engagment ring if you don't like the one you have? I always wanted a ring with lots of diamonds, but mine is just a band with one diamond on it. it's very plain, and i even shy away from showing people it. i have the money to buy the one i want, but how could i do this without hurting his feelings?
2006-11-06 05:11:15 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't buy a new engagement ring. Go to a jeweler and buy what's called a chevron ring. This is a 'V' shaped ring that you can wear on top of your engagement ring. I did it with my engagement ring, which was my Grandmother's. They're very pretty, full of lots of diamonds and merely accent the ring your fiance gave you! In the sites listed below, you'll see the rings. Put your engagement ring on, then just turn the chevron ring upside down so instead of the point being towards you, wear it with the point away from you. I absolutely love mine and I hope you'll try it.
2006-11-06 06:08:26 · answer #1 · answered by loyerd6 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you brought another ring it will just hurt his feelings. Some men go to a lot of trouble choosing a ring to surprise women and changing it will show that he has not done the job well. Not showing your ring off suggests that you are embarrassed about getting wed. If you want a big ring buy on but done use it as an engagement ring, it's not the size of the ring and how many diamonds it's got etc, it's the thought and the effort that counts.
2006-11-07 04:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by emmalp75 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many people on here that are so ungrateful for the rings their fiances have chosen, it makes me embarrassed to be a woman. Diamonds are not the law for marriage. There is no way to do this without hurting his feelings, imagine if you had bought him that ring and he hated it or was embarrassed of it. How would you feel if he wanted to change it? You will just have to be honest and say that you are more interested in showing off to people than accepting the ring for what it really is, a symbol of your engagement to him, obviously your priorities are different. Guaranteed he will be hurt, but it's up to you if you really feel it is worth it.
2006-11-06 21:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is the thought that counts...if you are really that concerned with what the ring looks like, then you should reconsider marriage. Instead of getting a plain wedding band for the ceremony, you could also get one with a channel of diamonds going all the way around it. That way you won't be returning your engagement ring and you'll still be getting the band that you want.
2006-11-06 07:36:37 · answer #4 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee, I hope your fiance is reading this. It sounds as though you don't deserve the guy you have.
Obviously a woman should be flattered when asked and given a ring. You certainly were not. Give the ring back and don't marry him.
However, for most people I would say, keep the ring and smarten up. Nice that you admit you're shallow, but this is gross. Buy the biggest and brightest diamonds you can and wear it on another finger and lie to all your friends. AARRGGGGHHHH!
2006-11-06 06:31:03 · answer #5 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun don't even think about getting married if you don't have the balls to tell him you don't like the ring.. marriage is very difficult and full of turmoil and tough times... They aren't shitting you when they say for better or worse. If you can't speak up now about something so simple you my dear should not be married.
Also if there is one thing I learned about men, they need to be told exactly what you want because hints and pussy footing around problems do not work on their brains..
be upfront and tell him in a nonchalnat way that does't make it a huge deal. The bigger deal you make the more he will react.. If you bring it up while he is doing something else or something he enjoys it will float right over...
Now if he asked you for suggestions on the ring before hand, and you didn't show him exactly the one you wanted that is your fault LOL
Also usually there is an engagement ring and a wedding ring.. Yo ucould say hey honey how about this be my wedding "band", or say honey i love it but you bought a wedding "band" not an engagement ring. Im old fashioned and its bad luck to not have an engagement ring first..
Good luck
2006-11-06 05:16:51 · answer #6 · answered by blonde_n_brilliant 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you really want a ring with a lot of diamonds, then buy one for yourself but don't call it an engagement ring. It's a friendship ring or something.
I'm worried that you shy away from showing people. Is it possible there's other things about him that embarass you? Is it possible you don't want to get married?
2006-11-06 05:21:31 · answer #7 · answered by hawkthree 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not possible. The ring is a symbol.... The symbol of that ring obviously has no meaning to you whatsoever, so your best bet is just to give it back to him and save him from marrying you. If you truly love him and want to marry him, it doesn't matter what the ring looks like! Just keep it and get a wedding band with lots of diamonds in it.
2006-11-06 06:53:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, Thats pretty bad. First if u can't be honest about the ring what happens when something else pops up later are u gonna be able to tell him then. Second, thats really shallow i'm sorry but thats what he could afford and thats what he thought you'd like and if u can't get over yourself long enough to show people you sign of love cuz its not "big enough" or lacks the appropriate amount of diamonds my god, i feel bad for whoever is marrying you!! Who do u think your marrying Hugh Hefner???
2006-11-06 07:39:11 · answer #9 · answered by Peaches 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly...it is a bit petty, BUT after all..YOUR the one that has to wear the thing you might as well be happy with it.
lots of ppl have said some really ugly things to ya, and ya know what...half those idiots would be asking the same thing if they got a ring they weren't happy with (a ring that just wasn't "them" or "their style"). so just ignore it.
you husband to be should have done his homework about a ring...instead of poping one on you w/out knowing what you like.
and if HE had asked whether or not he should get a ring sight unseen or ask what you would like more than likely all these rude ppl would have told him to check w/you first or if he wanted it to be a surprise...at least ask your friends to give him some inside info on it.
i think right now though..it's too late. and telling him will CRUSH him. think of the time he probably spent in agonizing over which one of the HUNDREDS of choices out there would be perfect for you. he put a lot of thought into this purchase...most men do.
just be happy that he loves you, and that you will be together.
besides there are always anniversaries...*wink*
2006-11-06 05:50:21 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋