family problems. what should i do?!?

Question

my mom used to verbally and physically abuse me
and now all we get is into arguments. its been this
way for three years now. she's called counsellors
and meetings.. but they don't help.

all i want to do is to leave for a boarding school
or something. but she won't agree to it. i can't
stop thinking of leaving... even running away
i can't rent an apartment or anything. i'm only 15

what should i do?!

Answer 1

Is there another family member you can live with? If you're mom is really abusive you can call child services on her. Or call the police & they will know where they can send you.

Answer 2

Please do not run away w/ no safe place to go. It is a very hard and delicate situation you are in, and running away might make you feel worse. Now, your mom has tried counseling which you must note is a worthy attempt to help the two of you understand. If the physical abuse has stopped she is growing and learning from her mistakes. If it is safe, you should try to talk to her about why you think you need to be away from her. Be sure to listen, too, because it sounds like she doesn't want to let you go- That's a sign of her love. Sometimes it's hard to see the truth because adults have hidden and become numb to so much of life. You are young and still willing to fight battles that may never be won, and that's okay. Just try to see where she comes from. If the abuse is still going on, you need to find a friend's mom that you can confide in, stay with, and eventually confront you mom with. She loves you and you'll make it through if you just keep your head high.

Answer 3

U mention that U are now get into argument with your mother. Why ? Why must U argue with your mother? That is the reason why U felt that U had been verbally and physically abuse by your mother. As a parent, they do not like the children to talk back when ever they say something to their children. As such, U make her angry and that is why she did that to U. So, from now on, try not to argue with your parent. Be patient. and sooner or later, U will realize how much your mother appreciate U. As a parent, they want their children to respect them and will not tolerate when their children talk back. Respect them and get close to them. I think, the situation will be better and harmony.

Answer 4

Beleive me just deal with it cuz it life hold on and stay strong. im lie that with my mom too but you cna tbe selfish you gotta think of her sometimes too even though she hurts you. come on noe she is still your mom dont you love her. all you ahve to wait is three more years then your and adult 18 considered an adult have to live on you own cant go runnning back to mommmy. jsut hang in there. you wnat to jsut up and leave your mom liek that run away stress her out worry her dont do that jsut F Tha World is what im saying im in the same boat you are in but im hanging on by a thread if i can do it youi can do it so what you should do is keep your head up and keeep the faith and look for them better days. Maybe all your mom gots is you

Answer 5

Well this is what makes us who we are when we are adults.. The crap you have to deal with growing up.. If your mom isn't mentally ill you should talk to her.. Try not to be a smart mouth teenager and listen to her as if she were a friend of yours and you cared about her. Thinking of running away is a cop out and believe me, I know from experience. You think you have it bad now but out there it is much much worse for a fifteen year old girl.
Always treat your mother with respect and always listen to her. She loves you and perhaps doesn't know how to communicate to you how she is worried aside from complainging...
One thing that is a neat trick..
If she smoked get her to get a prescription of Zyban to help her stop. It's actually Wellbutrin and will swing her right out of her depression and make it impossible for her brain to be upset...
try it... Oh heck see if she will get on some Wellbutrin, but do not take advantage of the situaton..
You are very naieve and do not realize that things could be much much worse and you have it pretty good with only a nagging mother to contend with.
it takes two people to argue... How about not participating and agreeing with her for once.. See how that works.. Sometimes people can become addicted to the negativity of arguing as our neurons tent to take the same path over and over that they get lead down with negativity

Answer 6

Try to work the problems out with her. You are to young to be on your own and let me tell you it is not easy. There has to be a solution to this problem. You may have to compromise because you are living in her house until you are 18. Unless you want to go into a home.

Answer 7

I use to be like that me and my mom ,,, but I let god in my life and it say that you should love your parents no matter what and that is what im doing and you should forget the pass no matter how painfull might seen because it does not matter how many counselors you two guy go to ,, if you dont find it to forgive her then the pain is always going to be there,,,,, is like when you cut your self and you keep scratching it,, it will never heel... so if you stop scratching it then it will scarf ,,,, some times we have alot of pride and we are scared of saying I love you please forgive me ,,,

Answer 8

Does your mom know how you feel? Maybe you should sit down and talk with her like adults. And maybe trying to do more things with eachother like go shopping or go out to lunch or something. Offer to treat her to a movie. I had a lot of problems with my mom and after we tried to become more "friends" than mom and daughter it got a lot better.

Answer 9

right now you are too young to be moving out on your own
and if your mom had to tan your backside earlier in life you should just shut up and accept the fact that YOU NEEDED IT

Answer 10

It sounds like you have a problem. But please dont run away, maybe call the Department of family services. You sound like maybe you suffer from depression. call your minister, or a friends mom.