i have qualifications but cant find work my family put me down alot and dont help the only person i care bout is my child can i jus leave with nothin and start all over again
2006-11-06 05:03:47 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
First off sweetie, you really need to start building your self esteem and self respect. Trust me from experience, the poor me's and life was hard growing up will get you NOWHERE! Do not be a victim of your life, move on to Survivor and you can eventually find yourself as a Thriver. There are social agencies that can help you with making a plan to be successful when you leave. Catholic Social Services is one that can put you in touch with groups that can help you find living accomodations for your child and you, help you gain some education so that you do have qualifications, etc. It will not be easy but if you have a little faith in yourself and are willing to do the work, not expecting handouts you can make it! You owe it to yourself and your child to give both of you a better life then what you were raised with. Trust me please I have been there, I did just what I advised you and I am successful, happy and a great mother. I also have mended the painful past and have a great relationship with my family now. Good luck I will say a prayer for you!
2006-11-06 05:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by Needingsomeadvice 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone has a value and should live life to the fullest. It sounds like you have lived your life without a plan and waited for things to happen. Take a hard look at yourself and see where you want to be in a year, 5 years and 10 years. Set out goals both small (fill out college application) and large (college diploma). If you need education or financial assistance seek out a social worker to help you.
You have a child and that should be a motivator to lead the best life you can.
Good luck.
2006-11-06 13:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not just leave and try to start over. Get a resume' and put it out on the internet. Maybe you can land a job before you leave and will be okay to pay your bills instead of leaving with nothing and ending up with nothing. That would not be good for your child. Good Luck with everything!
2006-11-06 13:06:50 · answer #3 · answered by Manna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you need JESUS.......don't know if you believe in the higher power, but @ this point it doesn't sound like you have a lot of support at home, so i would say it's ok for you to take your child and start over in a completely new city......for the time being you may have to find work in an area that would not normally be your first choice, you know it's easier to get a job when you've got a job........i know sometimes life throws use a curve ball that's out of this world and we just want to give up, believe me when i tell you that it's a trick of the devil.....god is real and god is able you just need to find the strength to start over every time you feel defeated.....keep praying and seeking his face and you will be delivered from your troubles.
2006-11-06 13:19:25 · answer #4 · answered by sunshine 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think you should give up you have to keep going for your child. if your family puts you down look at your child for motivation to keep going up. it is hard to find work out there but you could sign up at an agency or something to find temp work until perm work comes for you... it would at least give you some money to do things with your child and help you get a break from all the negative people you have around you. you know what i mean?
2006-11-06 13:10:09 · answer #5 · answered by jaz.... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you wouldn't be leaving with nothing. You'd be leaving with the guilt of leaving your child. This time in your life will pass. Things will get better. You may have to take a job that you don't like or don't want that isn't what you are qualified for.
Nothing else in the world matters except your child.
2006-11-06 13:07:31 · answer #6 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My life motto...
When you are not happy only you can change it.
Dont make things worse for you and your child if you can not handle it.
keep looking for a job. And keep looking.
When you find one:
Put your money up and save.
If you are a single parent- you should be able to get your own place with Assistance. Go to the health department and let them know whats up. Ask for help its out there.
2006-11-06 13:10:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mia l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for it. I am a single mother and I have no help financially or love from the father of the child or my family and I made it. I am 20 working, taking care of my kid, and paying all my bills myself.
2006-11-06 13:06:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should go for it, you can apply for some kind of county aide to start off with. here in california they pay for your child care and that helps alot. call your local county office. they even have places you can go if your emotionally, physically, and or verbally abused. good luck and just think about the best thing for you and your child and stay strong.
2006-11-06 13:29:17 · answer #9 · answered by juicy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well your gonna need some chips to play the game of life.
id just hang in there.
keep looking and youl soon find something where you can make enough money to go on your own.
try something new maybe.
but dont leave with out enough money for your baby.
-)
2006-11-06 13:07:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋