My boyfriend broke up with me b/c he feels that he can not be the person I deserve and that he needs to focus on himself right now, i.e. get a job, move etc. He was very upset, told me that he still loves me and that he wants me to be in his life, told me that when he is ready for a relationship he wants it to be with me. Not sure what to do. I love him very much, but I cant put my life on hold for him. How do I get him to work things out with me? Right now I have just been ignoring him and pretending that I am happy. What should I do?
2006-11-06 05:02:53 · 25 answers · asked by Jenny S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to keep living your life! Go out and meet new people and have fun. Don't wait around for him. Good Luck.
2006-11-06 05:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Lt 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How long were you going out for? And I wonder how long it's going to take him to be ready for a relationship. Did he say that you should date other people besides him? Because if he wants you to wait for him then he really needs to have an idea of how long it will take. I think if it were me I would want to find out how long and make a decision based on that. If he doesn't know then I would suggest focusing on yourself for a while and seeing what happens, if you meet anyone else, etc. I do have to give the guy some respect for being honest though, it's a lot easier to stay in a relationship and feel secure.
2006-11-06 13:09:49 · answer #2 · answered by rainmonster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that you both are very young. If he feels that this is what he needs to do, then let him go. And for the love of God!!! Do not put your life on hold for a man. If you try to work things out w/him, you might push him away and he could resent you for it. If you are under the age of 25, then let time run its course. Go on with your life and have fun. You don't need to ignore him either. Staying in contact w/him and being there for him will make him love you more.
2006-11-06 13:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by Brina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay, girl: here is the deal:
he has dumped you i.e its over, which means that u have the right to move on which i think u should do, and that too ASAP, he means 2% of what he says, he does not love you, and he wanted u by his side just incase he cant find someone else quick enough. either that or he already has someone, please dobt buy into this crap and plz do move on to another guy who treats you like ur his no.1 girl
I wish u all he bestm, dont be a love fool, words are usually empty promises that will leave u heart broken, save urself the heartbreak, and i suggest u pick up pices of ur broken heart and move on
thats the bitter truth, but i hope that i have helped
2006-11-06 13:08:45 · answer #4 · answered by Franky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him a much as you say, then respect his path and let him be. You don't have to PRETEND to be happy about it.
If and when he's ready and the same with you, it may work out. But life throws us all kinds of things at us so there never any guarantees.
If you'd like to learn more, read about Boundaries. Great relationships are built on strong boundaries.
2006-11-06 13:06:56 · answer #5 · answered by adrian_biccum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take a break up as a "break-up", meaning no communication at all. If you keep communicating with him in anyway he will definitely not have the idea of your importance in his life.
When you completely move away from him and he need you, he will come back to you.
My suggestion is to cut off completely and tell him about it. Wait for a month, if he doesnt come back then be sure that he is happy to get rid of you and move on.
2006-11-06 13:11:34 · answer #6 · answered by snip3r_scorpion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it, but you need to move on. Be a friend for him, but don't put your life on hold. Experience life, go out with other people, and sometime down the road if he ever gets his act together you can decide if you want to revisit that relationship or not.
2006-11-06 13:05:42 · answer #7 · answered by McB 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, he's told you he can't be with you right now. So let him go. And don't put your life on hold waiting for him to get his act together. He wants to focus on him....wonderful. Now its time for you to focus on you and moving on with your life.
By the way, his excuse for breaking up kinda sounds like a cop out to me. But thats not your problem any more, move on girlie.
2006-11-06 13:09:54 · answer #8 · answered by creepingfuzzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should tell him how u feel and you should also respect his decision for wanting to get his self together and be the right person for you if you love him very much then you will give him the space he need he said he love you and you do know you is the one that he want to be with so you just go about your business and he will come back when your not expecting it
2006-11-06 13:08:55 · answer #9 · answered by Mz.Tweety 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well technically you guys are broken up, so that means that you are...SINGLE!! I sugest that you date other guys, to see if it's not that you are "attached to him". You know? To know the real value taht he was worth to you. Also if he sees you around with other guys that will make him realize that he loves you too! Also this serves as a way to see if he liked you back or if he just dumped you for another chick. Guys are such jerks and you never really know if he did like you or not unless you try it. Plus if you are dating and it does turn out that this guy didn't like you like that, then too bad for him! Because you have already began your life anew and are happy!!! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-11-06 13:07:42 · answer #10 · answered by Stefy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not try to force him to get back into a relationship with you, it will only lead to problems. Sounds to me like he is being very honest with you, if he needs some time to find himself etc then give it to him. If you dont feel like he will come back to you soon enough for your liking, then move on.
2006-11-06 13:06:38 · answer #11 · answered by Allinwiththenuts 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋