Please give me some Advise:
Ok so I'm going through a hard break up with a guy who I was really attracted too but treated me badly. Recently I met this guy who treats me really good, but he's just not my type and I'm not attracted to him at all, but he's very atracted to me. My question is ...Can you have a relationship with somone your not attracted too.
2006-11-06 04:36:26 · 27 answers · asked by KerryAnn 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes you can. The relationship might not be the best relationship, but it is possible. If you have the privilege of encountering a man who thinks the world of you and he treats you well, you can grow to love that person. On the other hand, if you are with a man who is fine as hell, but he treats you like dirt the whole relationship is meaningless. Everything that looks good is'nt good for you. So you have to decide what you value most.
2006-11-06 04:41:33 · answer #1 · answered by rain_stars_clouds 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Though physical attraction is not the basis of relationship it will contribute to the sustenance of the relationship. Love can develop because he is caring but he must at least be attracted to you as a source of strength to build love. Watch out that you do not get yourself into trouble. Better still you can resolve your differences with the other guy that you love and move on. It will depend on what he did to you. Best wishes
2006-11-06 04:54:38 · answer #2 · answered by ufan2020 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You won't be satisfied. You have to find out what it is about you that allows you to be in a position of being mistreated. Until you figure that out ; you will just keep being with the same sort of loser over and over.
Tell the new guy the truth and let him go. He deserves to be with someone who will truly appreciate him and give him the kind of love he is willing to give. You shouldn't settle for less and neither should he; which is exactly what a relationship with you would be.
2006-11-06 04:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by AVA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not take offense, because I am going to be straight up with you. Do not be shallow. You stayed with a man who dogged you because in your opinion he met your physical standards. But you meet a man who treats you like gold but you are not sure if you can be with him because he doesn't meet your physical standards. Where is your mind?!?
You do not really like this man if you are not attracted to him because of his looks. Personality and way of life is all that matters and looks is just the cherry on the top, believe that. You are attracted to the positive attention he gives you and that's it. Because if you really liked him, you would be able to overlook his physical shortcomings. Let this man go and let him find someone who will love him as a whole. If he is as nice as you explained, he deserves better. Because if you are not totally satisfied all you will do is dump him later or cheat. Let him move on.
2006-11-06 04:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, this is tough. You can have a relationship with someone you're not attracted to. Looks arent everything, although they do make up a majority of your decision on whether or not to go out with that person, but personality means something. Would you go out with a guy who was SOOO hot, but dumber than a light bulb? No. If someone is ugly, or not very attractive, by them having a really goood personality, it can MAKE them seem more attractive because you are attracted to their personality. It is basically all up to you. If this guy isnt your type, and your not attracted to him sexually, then i would consider not dating him. If you like his personality and he is a real nice/sweet/genuine guy, he sounds like he would be better as a friend. But, you never know, give it a chance if you'd like, and you might become more attracted to him. Good luck, hope everything works out!
2006-11-06 04:40:22 · answer #5 · answered by Ricki M 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't try to create sparks! If the physical attraction isn't there...it isn't there. If he's a nice guy and you like him as a friend then let him know how you feel and don't string him along. In the meantime, don't look for someone because your lonely. Take this time to get over your past relationship and work on yourself. Join gym, take a class and enjoy time with friends and family!
2006-11-06 04:42:39 · answer #6 · answered by evesmystique 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its not a good idea to start a loving relationship with someone you are not attracted to. If you can be friends with him, than start that. Sometimes its hard to make things work when the person turns you off.
2006-11-06 04:39:54 · answer #7 · answered by JB 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't suggest it. Sex is a big part of a relationship. You can always continue seeing him & maybe an attraction will develop but then you run the risk of hurting him. Probably best to let him know you just want to be friends as you are still dealing with getting over your ex!
2006-11-06 04:38:30 · answer #8 · answered by Nunya 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You sound exactly like me! I'm in the same situation! The thing is he's so nice I'm having a terrible time with actually bringing myself to break up with him! I don't personally think you can have a relationship with someone your not attracted to...just from my experience...I don't want him to touch me,kiss me or anything & the thought of him doing it makes me recoil from he when he attempts this! I know its harsh but for me its true.
2006-11-06 04:40:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I so agree with rain_star. Too many modern girls are looking for the "high" in relationships ... after that disappears what is left is a really nice person or Dirt bag !.
2006-11-06 04:51:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋