My parents recently decided to get a divorce. I live on my own, but they both want me to visit them for thanksgiving, in two different states. My mom is going to spend thanksgiving with her mother and grandmother (my grandmother and great grandmother) and my sisters are going to be spending thanksgiving with my dad. I don't want to hurt either of their feelings...but I do want to spend thanksgiving with at least half of my family...Opinions and advice from parents who are divorced would be great. Would you be offended if your child spent a major holiday with your ex-spouse instead of you?
2006-11-06 04:35:58 · 7 answers · asked by Mom of Marley 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Tough choice, by all means don't appear to have a "favorite" parent. It will only cause hurt feelings. Ask each parent whether or not they would have hurt feelings if you spent the holiday with the other. You may discover that this situation can be worked out without any hurt feelings at all. Good luck!
2006-11-06 06:04:10 · answer #1 · answered by what can i do 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Welcome to the world of divorced parents, Dear. And try being married to a man with divorced parents. Then you have 4 families expecting you spend every holiday with them!
I learned a very long time ago to stop worrying over it. We just go where we want to go, where we are going to be happy. We stopped trying to please everyone years ago because it causes too much stress.
You have a lot of years ahead of you with this so you need to make a plan now about how you're going to handle it. Thanksgiving with one, Christmas with the other.....
Good Luck!!
2006-11-06 04:45:07 · answer #2 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If i was in your situation i would spend thanksgiving with the parent who raised me more... I mean like growing up who do you have most of your memories with.?
Im sure that the one that you don't choose will understand because you have an understandable delima. Which ever parent you don't choose call them and wish them all a happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-06 04:43:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm. i've got have been given grown different than for my relatives good right here in California and something are in Florida . My boyfriend invited me to his familiy residing residing house yet i in my opinion did no longer experience like being around a collection of persons. It'a basically my 4 3 hundred and sixty 5 days previous and me. I did practice dinner a typical thanksgiving meal for my son even although. i'm a homebody so i in my opinion do no longer suggestions. i'm attending to residing room around ,drink wine and be extremely joyful approximately the topics that I do have:)
2016-10-15 10:52:01 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In this situation you are most likely going to have to switch off every year... This year stay with your mom, next year spend it with your dad! That is the only fair way to do it. You obviously cannot do both, so just talk to them and let them know what you plan on doing!
2006-11-06 04:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend Thanksgiving with one parent and spend Christmas/Hanukkah/other with the other parent
2006-11-06 04:40:02 · answer #6 · answered by Penguin Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
who ever has the least amount of people. that way yuo can tell the other yuo dindnt want any one left out.
2006-11-06 04:45:30 · answer #7 · answered by Redneck Midget 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋