Going from one to two children was totally different. Is it really that different between two and three? We will be trying soon for the third, but just curious how different, if at all, it is between 2 and 3... Is it hard to divide the attention and make things fair? What things have you (those of you with three or more) come up with to solve that?
2006-11-06 04:34:25 · 10 answers · asked by Luv2HelpYou 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I had the most difficult time going from 1 to 2 but 2-3 was easy just more expensive lol.
2006-11-06 04:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by Jody 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Answering as the third child in the family - the dymamics of squabbles between siblings changes. With 2 it's one-on-one, with 3 it ends up (alot) as 2 against 1. Not always the same two, but...
Also if one of the three is the opposite gender of the other two the dynamics of the interactions change depending on where the single gendered is in the birth order.
In my family we are girl, boy, girl. It seemed like my brother got special priviledges - new clothes, less restrictions. I got hand-me-downs from my sister, we shared a room, and got stuck with inside cleaning chores. But my brother & I were close in temperment, so my sister felt like the odd-man-out.
I've heard that the middle child of three of the same gender feels less special. The youngest tends to get more "spoiled" if it's the opposite gender of the first two especially if it's much younger than the others.
Financially, it was harder to get financial aid for college as the first of three for my sister, while as the third of three I had no problem.
2006-11-06 05:08:35 · answer #2 · answered by Carol G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on you and your husbands personalities. I know people who struggled with 1, so 2 was crazy. We have had wonderful experiences with all 3 and now we are expecting our 4th...BOY. We are both type b, pretty laid back, we roll with the "punches" (pun intended).
One thing we really inforce is family importance. We encourage them to be great friends and defend each other to the end. Not that they have to do everything together, but it is a rule they have to include the other one if they are together. Such as the playground, there is no leaving the other one out. We have some fighting but fot the most part they are very close and love each other.
I also think it helps having more siblings because they keep one another occupied. You do not have to entertain all the time because they have each other.
But you are going to have a great time.....and remember it really is different for everyone!
2006-11-06 04:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by Ashley C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi - I don't have kids - yet, but I am a number three child.
I did and do feel like I got the short end of the stick. I feel like I was kind of ignored as a child, and it's because my mom had to move on and go back to work, wasn't planing on three kids, and all that kind of stuff...
but what I wanted to say is it was her who made me feel this way. Plenty of mothers have three or more children and work one or more jobs and still make sure they find time to love all of their children, resolve conflicts... If you are really wanting to have another child then I am sure it won't be any kind of a problem for you, ie, if I ask for a horse and receive one why would I then think it difficult in any way.
If you want to have a third and you do then it's a blessing, go for it!
2006-11-06 04:49:22 · answer #4 · answered by Feather 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 2 and am trying for a 3rd so this is a question I have been wondering about. Im not too concerned though because my kids are spaced pretty far apart. My oldest is almost 13 and my youngest is 6 so I dont have to have2 in diapers all at the same time or fighting for my hip and such.
2006-11-06 07:24:14 · answer #5 · answered by pyxiegyrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I had my third baby it was a much less stressful experience. The first 2 kids pretty much keep each other busy playing because they find newborns to be boring because they sleep all day. Just make sure you focus on making the older 2 more self sufficient by learning to dress themselves, help clean up, make simple snacks when they are hungry, etc. It will help when the new baby gets here, believe me.
2006-11-06 04:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by blazenphoenix 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was just about to post the same question. My husband and I are not trying for our 3rd and your right about going from 1 to 2, but I have heard that 3 isnt really that different, just more work
2006-11-06 04:38:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it also depends on how they are spaced out, like having more then 1 diaper to change at any time would make 3 more difficult then having a 8, 5, and newborn.
2006-11-06 04:48:10 · answer #8 · answered by David W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was a little over whelming the day I came home from the hospital but every thing is just like it was before.
2006-11-06 05:59:29 · answer #9 · answered by lisamarie7901 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it really is not that different
2006-11-06 04:38:48 · answer #10 · answered by angie f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋