ok . . . my gf broke up with me back in march and said she wanted to date around and see whats out there and all that good stuff after a 2 year relationship. . she starts dating this kid i went to high school with 2 weeks later . . . i hate the kid so its obviously a bad situation for me . . . so i try to get her back for about 2 months and in the middle of june i went NC . . on our 2 year anniversery at the beginning of july she send me a text that says . . "today was two year" just to remind me of it i guess . . . and ever since that text she has been calling/texting/leaving voicemail/or emailing me once atleast ever 2-3 weeks . . . a few times in was 2-3 times in a week . . . i have not responded to her or anything . . . so its been 5 months and its still going on .. .she is still with this same guy so she obviously knows we cant be friends be cause of the situation.. . . . . .so why does she keep trying to contact me?. .
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when they first started dating she even admitted part of the reason was because he was there and she hates being alone
2006-11-06 04:34:14 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe she stills loves you and wants you back but dont kno how to deal with it...
2006-11-06 04:35:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's using him and you. She likes being with him, 'cause he's there' but your friendship/relationship has many good memories so she continues to relive those. She likes him, unwilling to leave him for the fear of being alone and doesn't want the memories or the thought of you to fade.
She's gonna be with anyone who will pay her the attention she needs and will be at her every beckon call. You need to get over her, let her go and ask her to quit texting/calling/voicemail you.
If she came back in your life, she'd only leave again when someone else whom was more convenient came along.
2006-11-06 12:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by Betty Boop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a girl, i was in the same situation. my boyfriend and i brok up after a year-long relationship. afterwards i started dating this guy that i knew my boyfriend didnt like. but i wasnt dating him to get back at my boyfriend at all. i just liked him and i was attracted to him. i couldnt help the way i felt, so therewas nothing i could do. i still kept calling my x boyfriend tho because i didnt want to completely loose him. one year is a loong time to be with someone (and two years is a really long time). so i didnt want to just throw away everything we have had.
soo, i think the reason why she is still calling you is because she still cares about you and she doesnt want to throw away everything you guys have built in two years. and just beacuse you dont like her current boyfreidn, doesnt mean that she has to dislike him too.
2006-11-06 12:54:58 · answer #3 · answered by spicyangel8 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is trying to feel you out! Checking your pulse ... women do play games you know. Breaking off just to play the field, then remind you of your anniversary ... sounds like games. But guys, sometimes, can be so clueless. Just ask her, "what will it take for us to get back together" let her tell you. If she says she "does not know". Ask her to call or text you when she does know.
2006-11-06 13:12:29 · answer #4 · answered by FAYRELIA R 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
obviously she doesn't know that you cant be friends with her because of the situation. otherwise . she wouldn't still be trying to contact you via the phone, emails, text messages. you should call her,email her, text her to find out What she wants with you?Why she is trying to contact you? Then you will know, instead of standing here wondering WHY?
2006-11-06 13:15:48 · answer #5 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look, if she wanted to be with you she would have dumped the other guy and made the decision to be with you. Instead she's with the other guy and playing mind games with you. This girl seems confused and has not worked out the things that needs to be looked at. You have your life to live and she has hers and unless she can sort herself out and make up her mind don't get involved.
2006-11-06 12:38:39 · answer #6 · answered by dsd 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly you need to tell her to leave you alone. it is obvious she is playing mind games with you and probably is doing the same thing with the other guy to. stop answering her calls, her texts, her emails, everything. if she mentions the "anniversary date again". let her know that this is not really your anniversary anymore, thanks to her.
botton line, if you love her , (and why would u if she treats you and the other guy like you are **** to her) then just get used t it. if not, let her know that you deserve the space that she said she needed and that at just leave you alone.
2006-11-06 12:42:39 · answer #7 · answered by lasalle_1986 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are on the right track keep ignoring her, she is trying to play games with your head, and wants to make sure your not happy, I would change everything cause that is stalking you, and she can be charged for stalking, so take one step ahead and change your e mail address, your phone number, and they will change your number for harrasment with no charge if you tell them you are being stalked, good luck, and you are on the right track keep ignoring it and she will give up on you, maybe one day!
2006-11-06 12:39:54 · answer #8 · answered by Sassy H 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont go back! She lost you and is the kind of person that can not be alone. Find somebody that will appreciate you not use you for not being alone.
2006-11-06 12:41:27 · answer #9 · answered by only me 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
F*ck her. She is playing games. Dont reply to her messages. The grass isnt always greener on the other side of the fence.
2006-11-06 12:37:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, sounds like you need to call this chick and outright ASK her why she keeps texting you and e-ing you. If it's because she's missing you, then you two need to talk further.
2006-11-06 12:37:42 · answer #11 · answered by his_scarlett_ohara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋