I tried to post this question earlier but Yahoo deleted it. I'm not sure why but I guess I have to rephrase it. As your kids get older and you have to discuss things with them: Fact of Life or what I am trying to get at THE BIRDS AND THE BEES..Would you
A) Talk to them about safe $ex
Or
B) No $ex??.
I had to put it with dollar signs for S because for some reason I think they are thinking I am being dirty when I am not. I would like to just know your opinion...Thank you!!
2006-11-06 04:28:01 · 18 answers · asked by Rican Princess 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i say talk to them. The more information they have the safer they will be when they do decide to take that step. Be honest with them and trust that you raised them well enough to watch themselves and the people the sleep with...
2006-11-06 04:30:49 · answer #1 · answered by :)*taurus tease*(: 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As a mother, I would have to say you need to talk to your children about sex. Especially when they start asking questions. But definitely when they are older. The responsibility, the consequences, and the facts. You never ignore something this important. I think sometimes children misunderstand or get the wrong information. So, it's important that they are fully aware of what it's about and know all the facts before someone else tells them the wrong things.
You can't make your child not have sex. They will find a way to do whether you want them to or not!! So rather than forcing the "no sex" issue and having them doing it anyway without precautions-then ending up paying for it. Let them know that you'd rather they didn't have sex, but if they do, they should ALWAYS use a condom. Tell them why it's so important to practice safe sex if they are going to do it. I hope this helped.
2006-11-06 13:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absolutley (A)
We are all human, and there will come day when your child will engage in a sex.
These days children are way ahead of there time, and there is no time like the present , I urge you to have your talk today.
I have a 12 yr. old girl, and she knows alot, we have talked alot , but, she has learned a alot also from others, and the computer. Something you might take into consideration, is that, if you don't talk too your children, and they find out on there own, they may wonder why you , didn't go there, that could also deliver a message, like it's something to be ashamed of or bad. So speak freely open the lines of communication. after all , think about, aids all the other diseases they could contract,
2006-11-06 12:47:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should start talking to them about sex when they are young. All small children have questions about it, they all want to know what their penis is for. Why not tell them? Would you rather them get their information from the media and from other children? Be open about it so that they can lead healthy and productive lives. A great book about this is Dr. Bruce King's textbook, Human Sexuality Today. It covers everything and even has a whole section dedicated to helping you talk to your kids about sex. If will also help you educate your kids about STDs and methods of birth control, so they can make an educated decision themselves about whether to wait or not.
2006-11-06 12:47:14 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of Marley 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My kids are still way young but when the girls are older I will talk to them about A. safe sex. I think the more someone is all "don't have sex, wait til your marriage" or something along that line the more problems you are asking for! I would rather talk to them about safe sex, tell them when they are ready and want to be put on birth control that they can talk to me I won't get mad or ask any questions and all of that..
Reason behind it- my foster parents did the whole "no sex" thing.. So I totally felt like I wasn't allowed to have sex.. So I couldn't ask them for birth control.. Which yeah.. I'm very thankful that I got pregnant with my babies.. I love my kiddos, but I would rather my daughter finish college or so before they have babies.. Heck I didn't even get to finish HS.. lol
2006-11-06 12:35:12 · answer #5 · answered by Hot Mom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son is five and I have already began to tell him that he can come to me with anything and that I will always be there for him. With all the diseases out there and things that can happen, I think it is important for parents to be there for their children. I hope to have a very open and honest relationship with my son. I never had it and learned from my friends and lots of my info was wrong.
2006-11-06 13:01:41 · answer #6 · answered by raspberryflavr 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would talk to them about safe sex and also how people use people. i would talk to them about molestation, aids, pregnancy, and responsibility. my kids are 5 and 2 and the 5 year old already knows that "someone touching the bathing area" is bad.you have to tell them everything or else they cant protect themselves.
2006-11-06 12:48:08 · answer #7 · answered by atahsina 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Our children, are much wiser, than we'd like think. They've already made their opinions, toward the subject. Our best efforts as parents, are to be positive in their choices and not so much ridicule their decisions.
2006-11-06 12:37:00 · answer #8 · answered by ~Jessica~ 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
We will be up front & honest with our son from the very beginning because we want him to learn from us & not his friends or tv. We will stress no sex and safe sex both.
2006-11-06 12:47:26 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When my son asked questions I answered as truthfully as possible.
When my daughter asked questions again I answered honestly but as the old adage goes: with a son you worry about 1 prick and a daughter you worry about hundreds.
2006-11-06 13:41:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋