Okay...heres the deal, my parents and I and my sisters all moved to the united states from Mississaga, Ontario and we're better off here becuase we are making money here (we weren't making a lot over there in canada) and my moms dad (my granfather) wants $5000 from us! He boguth some peice of land with a partner and his so called "partner" wont give him any shares so my grandfathers gonna take him to court but to do that, he needs $5000 and he doesn't have it and he's asking my dad for it. But, when we had no money...NO ONE helped us....my dad came all the way to the U.S to make money and give his family a good life...do you think my dad should give him $5000 or not?
2006-11-06 04:25:26 · 16 answers · asked by xoxoxo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
i think that's something that is between them. if your father feels he should, then let him. If he's worried about not seeing the money, have him get something in writing so if he doesn't get paid back, he can take the grandfather to court.
2006-11-06 04:27:53 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes you have to reach past feelings to do the right thing. If you have the money to spare then loaning it to your grandfather would be the nice thing to do in spite of him not helping you when you needed it. You sound like you are still mad at your extended family for not helping your family out when you needed it. Are you sure your parents asked for help at that time? Or were they trying to take care of you without turning to the family for help? We have never asked for help from our parents even when we faced bankruptcy...and it was hard. But we figured that we had to make our own way...and still do. It is not always easy, but that is the grown-up way to handle things...you can't depend on other people...you have to take responsibility and take care of your own no matter what. That was how we were raised. It may not be the best or easiest way, but it is the way we are comfortable living. Maybe that is the way your parents feel. You should ask them. You might be surprised with the answer and be even more proud of your parents and all they do/have done for you. I hope you enjoy being here in the States...and have a great life here!
2006-11-06 04:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Barbiq 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
frist of all that is not your business if your dad whats to give your grandfather $5000 . Your dad is a grown man. He can do what he wants with his OWN money.Stay out of it.And why doe's that bug you. What your needs are not taking care of and or you are worry your not going to be able to buy something U what. It's your dads money not yours.
2006-11-06 05:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH geeze... this is a hard question to give an answer too. It would all depend on the situation your grandfather was in (at least to me). Was in a position to help when you needed help? Because to me if need to borrow money now, then he probably wasn't. If he wasn't in the position did he want to help? I would ask myself those questions and decide what to do from there. OH and does he want this money give to him or does he want to borrow this money??? I guess if the answer is yes he would have helped if he could, and if your father can afford to help then yes I think he should help. Good luck!
2006-11-06 04:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by melodi_jean_99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
loan him the money legally and tell him to pay back with interest...so that way you have some kind of legal security and paper saying you (your dad) gave him money and get it back later....after all he is your dad's dad...who else is gonna help him.. You dont have to be like him and not help when family needs it. You are different and helping him is not gonna make your family grow apart...may be your grandpa will realize that you guys really care about him...and are there for him.
2006-11-06 05:08:39 · answer #5 · answered by Ashi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's up to your dad but if I were in that situation, I would give the money to my father. However, my father has done a lot for me and I would be more than happy to help him if I could.
It sounds like your father's father has not done much to help your father. So maybe he does not deserve the help and you should cut off contact from him.
2006-11-06 04:29:48 · answer #6 · answered by Fluorescent 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Giving $ is a major deal--It is either a gift of free will--and thought of that way, A loan-and talked of that way Basically, can your family afford it? Does G.F. give & take back? Can your famiy afford to give this gift of money without jeopardizing yourselves now? Do you all WANT to give/loan, etc. the money.
These are questions you all have to ask...noone can do it for you!
Good luck,
2006-11-06 04:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Polly S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I donno. To me 5,000 dollars is a lot of money. Maybe your dad and grandpa should talk more about it. Because, maybe if your grandpa thinks he can win the case against that other guy, you wouldnt have to pay the court costs right? Then you'd get your money back. I just dont know any more of the details than that to offer any more advice than that.
2006-11-06 04:32:42 · answer #8 · answered by Casey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let your dad do what he thinks is right. If you didn't think it right when nobody helped you, how might it be right if you do the same? Do you want to try and help make the World a better place, or a worse place?
2006-11-06 04:29:58 · answer #9 · answered by Barbara Doll to you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hard question.
I'd say NO WAY JOSE!
your fathers responsibility is to provide for his family and his father failed to do so. Now he must pay.
It's not fair to ask of your father that much money when your father made the ultimate sacrifice to provide you with a better life.
2006-11-06 04:29:10 · answer #10 · answered by curiosity_kills 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋