How do you deal with a family member who gets everything?

Question

I am in a situation where I have to live with family and I am grateful, but there is a family member who just got married later in life and she gets everything. Her everyday china is lenox, her furniture is ALL brand new, her and her husband make more in 3 months than my husband and I do in a year she is a christian but she has never really had to suffer for the Lord.

My husband and I on the other hand struggle we are obedient to God, we have no furniture at this point to call our own, we have been persecuted and stepped on even in our own church. Money is very tight even with budgeting and giving when we can.

We are married 13 years and in many ways are like stuggling newlwedys my realtive as a home that could be placed in a home interior magazine.

I prayed many years for this person to get married and I am happy she found a nice man who also loves the Lord, but I am tired of struggling. How do I deal with the envy and go on? I dont even want to talk to her that much anymore

Answer 1

You mentioned you're a Christian, then you know you're being attacked. Why give into him. STOP! THINK! READ! Psams 31:24 Galatians 6:9 Isaiah 51:11 John 14:1 Must I give you more.... BELIEVE, stop the jealousy.

Answer 2

I feel exactly what you are going through! I have been married for 11 years and we are still struggling like newlyweds! I too love the Lord but until a couple of years ago, I kept the Lord at arms length, if you know what I mean. The key here though, is that you can't look at someone else's life to be happy with yours. You don't know what that person has truly gone through or is going through. Usually, what you see on the outside, is nothing compared to what is really happening behind closed doors. And perhaps, it seems that they are being blessed right now, but trials will come, and the only thing that we can be sure of and the only thing that is real, is our relationship with God. There may be areas in your life that God has been trying to be God in and until you trust Him, He can't bless you. He gives us charge over little so that we can receive all that His word says we can have. Overflowing, pressed down & shaken together. Try to see what God has given you and thank Him for it. And inquire upon Him. Seek Him out and what His will is for your life. And blessings will seek you out and overtake you. Sometimes, we ourselves, can sabotage our own blessing by envy, doubt, etc. Line yourself up in the Word and hold fast to your confession and the rain will come. It might not seem like it, but there are others that have it worse. And there are those who admire you and are looking at you in the same light that you are looking at your relative.

Answer 3

I'm sorry, but you sound like a whining little child who isn't getting what she wants. You need to grow up and face reality. You don't know what this other person's finances really are. This person you are jealous of could be tied down with heavy debts that you know nothing about because they want it kept secret...making people believe they can afford their lifestyle when they really can't.
The grass isn't always greener on the other side of the fence.

Answer 4

I am sorry you are living in this situation.