I'm seriously thinking of marrying my boyfriend Brandon. He lives in Texas and his mother is in California, but they have a very close relationship. We have been discussing marriage, and he told me a few weeks ago that he would like to give me a ring that was his great-grandmother's ring as my engagement ring. Of course, I was very touched that he wants to do this but at the same time I have mixed feelings about it. I haven't met his mother yet (She's coming to visit this week and we're all having dinner together). Brandon tells me a lot about what his mother has advised him concerning our relationship. He even betrayed my confidence once by telling his mother something personal about me when I asked him to keep it to himself. He and I are very much in love and want to be married, but I am concerned that his mother may cause problems. I don't want to have to feel like I'm competing with his mother for Brandon. Any thoughts?
2006-11-06 04:11:09 · 6 answers · asked by Mysti1000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My husband is a mommas boy also.It was very hard in the beginning but I figured that the way to my husbands heart was thru his mother. So instead of resenting her I let her into my life and heart. She and i are very close now and we talk on the phone way more often than they do. When they have get togethers she says that she doesnt care if her son goes but that I better make sure I make it so she can see me.. Dont push his mom away.That puts a big strain on the relationship.Start talking to her before he gets a chance.His mom will appreciate the effort on your part and it will work itself out. Best wishes and Good Luck.
2006-11-06 04:17:38 · answer #1 · answered by IamMuslimah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since he cares for his mother he will care for you. If you want a cowboy that prowls and is a rough guy then you have probably chosen the wrong one. Him betraying your confidence is not good. Hopefully, you told him you didn't like that and don't do it again. Why do you feel competition with his mother? Are you jealous? If you have these worries now then either get out of the relationship or seek a marriage counselor before you tie the knot. Good luck.
2006-11-06 13:11:29 · answer #2 · answered by timespiral 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OH BROTHER!!! just cuz ther close doesnt mean he's a mama's boy,,gimme a break,,why do u forcast that she wont like u and give u problem?? trying for a self fufillrd profecey...if u dont change ur attitude and think this from the start,,u automaticlly stting urself up..remeber karma?try not to forcast,,you both might just like each other
2006-11-06 12:17:29 · answer #3 · answered by native,pride 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Being a mama's boy isn't a good thing. It might not be as bad as you think. Just meet her and go from there.
2006-11-06 13:31:02 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Chll out! You havent even met her yet. wait until after you met her to have an opinion of her. G'luck!
2006-11-06 12:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah. Be prepared to have his mommy make all your decisions.
2006-11-06 12:14:14 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋