How old is too old?

Question

Read the Bible and women were giving birth to children through out their lives...

Years ago it was told the best ages to bare children were... oh what was it... between 20 something an 35.

I want children, but I'm 41 and still haven't meet mister right. I know plenty of women do have children over 40 but I wonder how it differs from having children when you are younger.

What are your experiences, your advise?

- someone please tell me it's not to late.

Answer 1

It is not too late, you just may have different challenges than other moms if you have a child in your 40's.

Advantages of having a child at 40 instead of 20:

You will have more life experience and wisdom which will help when you feel tired. You will also have seen more of the world and you'll realize that the world at home can be just as fascinating and more precious.

You will be more humble and realize you make mistakes---which will make you a better parent.

Being in your 40s can be as much of an asset as a liability if you use what you've learned to be a better parent.

I know a handful of women who had their first child in their 40s and they are great moms. They are patient and kind and make their kids feel like special people with unique gifts.

Right now you should look at your retirement and how you'll pay for it because affording college is one of the trickier things when you have a child in your 40s.

Answer 2

It`s not too late, I have a friend who had all of her children after the age of 45. You just have to take good care of yourself and excersise and all that good stuff. If you ask a docter they will tell you what you need to do. but it is deffinitly not too late. Also you could always addopt if you have ny problems or you find that it may not be the right thing for your body. There are soo many little kids out there with no family. Adoption is a really good thing. But I do understand that a lot of people want there own kids so go to a docter, if that`s what you want, and talk to them about it. But you don`t need mister right to adopt!!!

Answer 3

Well consider that you will be in your 60's when your child turns 18. My sister in law had a child at 42 and I thought she was crazy. It is so much work even when you are young but having a screaming baby around when you want to relax isn't any fun. Loss of sleep and having to haul around all the baby things everywhere you go is a nightmare. Why don't you consider adoption and give a homeless child a good place to grow up. You won't have to change dirty diapers.
We have been empty nesters since we were 45 and I'm really happy we have our freedom. Next year Europe. Ahhhh!

Answer 4

It's not to old! Just when you are ready make sure you are taking your vitamins and you have been to your ob doctor and talk to them about everything. They will be your best bet in knowing anything because they can look over you medical history. I am 22 and a proud mommy of 2. My mother on the other hand had my brother and me just fine. She had 13 misscarriages over time. She really wanted more kids and so they did invitro, and now I am blessed with 2 beautiful twin sisters who are 20 years younger than me. My mom was 40. She carried full term and the girls were healthy. So it is possible. Good luck to you and I wish you the best.

Answer 5

No, it's not too late! Women are having babies later due to careers and other things going on in their lives. While risks do increase with age, under proper medical supervision, you can still have a healthy baby. Best of luck!

Answer 6

as long as you are ovelating, you can still get pregnat. but yes between 20 and 35 is your best option. but once you are over 35 you have to be careful that the baby won't be a special needs child like with Down's Syndrome. i also wondered if my kids would be like that but nope. and also the baby can be deformed if you are over 35 or on birth control. i on the other hand was born premature and my toes aren't made right.
and if you can't have kids, there is always adoption

Answer 7

you have higher chances of difficulties but you also have a 1 in 15 chance of having twins over 40 and over 50 its a 1 in 9 chance.. some women can have very happy healthy babies later in life but some are not so lucky.. get yourself checked out by a doctor .. ask her if you are in the stages of pre menopause they can usually tell they happen 10 to 15 years before menopause comes on.. I wish you luck .. maybe you should think of freezing eggs depending on what doctor says check out this site..http://www.mothersover40.com/ good luck

Answer 8

It's not too late! I had my girls at the ages of 32 and 35, and I have never regretted waiting. I think I am more patient,more knowledgeable and more financially secure than I would of been at the age of 21 or so.

Answer 9

It isn't to late! Because you are a teensy bit older, you are a higher risk for certain things though. If you want babies, and can raise them right, go for it. Babies need good, loving parents and if you can provide that, then more power to ya.

PS- My aunt just had twins and she is 50 (poor woman) but they tried and tried and she is an incredible mom. They are healthy babies too!

Answer 10

Whether you find Mr. Right or not, adoption is always an option.