here's the deal,he's been after me to like him for quite a while initially i said no because i knew exactly what he wanted and i was right i did end up sort of giving in- kissing etc-this week i showed up and he made a pretext to get me into a back room then told me he had told the rest of the guys not to come in- apparently they knew what was going on a were ok with it- because - according to him he is closely related to a gang of some sort...? so we made out and I think it was awful- I dont like him that much and he was really brutal - I am totally new to this whole thing- so i probably sucked too.the expereince was enlightening but - i dont want it to happen again- but I have to work thurs I work night shifts and there is no proper supervisor.I would just quit but I cant that short notice and need a job first. cant tell my parents they would be so upset I am just afraid that if it happens again I wont be able to stop him from going all the way bec he is strong and doesnt listen.
2006-11-06 04:03:50 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to clarify- he is a supervisor - and i am not a minor- i am 18 and he is 21....
2006-11-06 04:24:49 · update #1
Give them 1 weeks notice and quit. If you don't get out of there, you will probably end up being raped and brutalized. It will be a lot better to tell your parents why your quitting than to have them suffer the pain of their daughter being attacked and raped. To hell with your employers. They can find someone else to do your job. They won't care if you get raped. For the week that you are there, spend a lot of time in the bathroom. If creepy makes his move, tell him that you are on your period, and feel sick to your stomach and have the runs. That should keep him away for a week. Don't tell anyone that youre quitting.
At least you learned your lesson.
2006-11-06 04:16:10 · answer #1 · answered by kitty-mama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is sexual harrassment. Of a minor, no less. You must report this to someone. Call your company's personnel office right away. Otherwise he will keep on doing it.
You can also ask them to change the nights that you work to times when he is not there.
But my preference would be to tell your parents that you no longer want to work at this job and tell them why. You don't have to go into all the details - just tell them that there is a scary guy who has tried to entice you into the back room and you are afraid.
I hope that this guy doesn't know where you live. However I suspect that his "gang" deal is just bragging. He is a real bully and needs to be stopped now.
2006-11-06 04:10:39 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this guy is way out of control. Believe me, if you quit, you won't be ruining your employment history. I've quit jobs before and managed to find another one. You sound young, so there is much more work out there for you to pick from.
I would tell somebody older in your family, like a sibling or uncle.
Be sure it's somebody who won't be judgemental. Tell him you made a mistake and now want to get out of this situation.
If the kisser harrases you further, then you'll have to consider telling your parents.
In the end, all will be well. Focus on school and doing well. Forget about guys for awhile, no matter how charming. You have to think about you first in life and pursuing your dreams, whether it's being the next female CEO or astronaut.
2006-11-06 04:12:29 · answer #3 · answered by StantheMan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might not want to quit this job but you have giving yourself no choice. If the all are ok with you being in a back room with this guy, then young lady you just been tag for a gang bang. They are just wanting there turn, If your old enough to thinking about having sex. Then you old enough to have heard the saying out of the frying pan & into the fire. You experience the frying pan last night what you need to experience the fire
2006-11-06 04:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait it out and it'll die down. He won't pursue you for long if he sees you're not interested. Then make it clear you'd prefer to just be friends. A word of advice though, what you're describing is hormones getting you worked up. Straight men have the same thing but it's harder to fool around with women so it's kept in check a bit more, but gay men both have it without many real barriers to keep it in check. Make sure to keep this in mind though because it's like your hormones mess with your judgement, so you want to make sure you're not in situations where you know it's not 100% what you want when you're not horny, otherwise you'll feel this way again.
2016-05-22 04:19:34 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
two words-sexual harassment!!!! Even though you mentioned "there is no proper supervisor", trust me, there is a supervisor somewhere in your company. The Federal law states very clearly that you report sexual harassment, and it is not dealt with, the supervisor, his/her supervisor (all the way to the owner)will be punished severely.
As a male supervisor, you do not have to take unwanted physical/mental advances or remarks. It's degrading and why should you put up with it? How would you feel if the jerk was doing this to your sister, etc?
2006-11-06 04:11:16 · answer #6 · answered by buddha bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a bad situation. Let your boss know that you have fears about working with this guy. You don't neccesarily have to tell them the whole situation just let them know there is fear there. If they don't do anything put your 2 weeks notice in and find another job. Try to stay away from him while at work and don't go anywhere alone try to stay where there are people that are not approving of his behavior.
2006-11-06 04:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, don't panic. Buy some pepper spray or mace and keep it with you; make sure a supervisor is within earshot, don't go anywhere alone with him and if he forces matters, scream your head off and use the spray if you have to.
Your supervisor can't afford to ignore you--he's responsible for his employees' well-being and if he tries to ignore sexual harassment he'll find himself in a world of trouble. If you have to remind him gently of the harassment from this other guy, do so.
2006-11-06 04:22:21 · answer #8 · answered by AnOrdinaryGuy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I was younger I thought I couldn't tell my parents anything because they would be mad at me. I look back now and wish I would have just told them. If your open and honest they should be fine and would totally protect you. NO ONE should feel scared of being strong armed by a man. Tell your parents. let this know this will never happen again, but right now your scared and need their help. I am pretty sure (as a parent myself now) that they will help you out and not be mad
2006-11-06 04:10:20 · answer #9 · answered by deegeesqueegy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made it worse I would have screamed my bloody head off if you were so afraid of his gang ties you should have told your supervisor before it got that serious, if you can report him to the supervisor Police anybody somebody in a postiion of authority should know Good luck
2006-11-06 04:07:55 · answer #10 · answered by jkfranklin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋