How do you gain control over and get rid of forbidden desires. How is it effectively done? (More..)?

Question

some might say it's repression. So what do i do next?

Answer 1

If it is forbidden (as in illegal) you really need to see a therapist. If it isn't illegal, and it doesn't control your life, why repress them?

Answer 2

Fist, there is always repression of some sort going on. When you focus on your humanity, you must mortify your lower nature. And when you act out of your lower nature, you necessarily mortify your humanity.

There are lots of ways people have come up to do just that, historically speaking. There is asceticism, meditation, and shugyo.

All three have been independently developed by various cultures.

Asceticism requires removing yourself from all worldly desires and going off to live in a cave. In practice, this does not seem likely but there are more practical alternatives like volunteering for the Peace Corps or going on a 3-4 week retreat at a Buddhist temple.

Meditation, again appearing in many forms, has a powerful effect. Of course there is the "OHM" meditation of popular culture but saying a Rosary also creates the same metal states.

Shugyo, a Japanese word which translates roughly to "The Becoming" usually involves some extreme period of physical training. This is a concept re-discovered in the west in the form of Military Basic Training.

Answer 3

Forbidden desires? Can you elaborate? I find your question rather odd.

If you're talking about a desire to do bad things, if you are normal you should not even have that desire in the first place, and therefore no need to get rid of it. So your question has me a little baffled.

Can you expand your question a little so people can know exactly what you're talking about?

Answer 4

Anything that arises in you is a message from your unconscious mind. Start exploring what the message is.

How can a desire be forbidden? By whom. Wouldn't you end up resenting whoever forbade you from even having a desire?

By treating a desire as forbidden, you limit understanding yourself. You can choose not to act on anything that you like, but by repressing your desires, they are more likely to emerge in ways that you wouldn't choose had you dealt with them more directly.

I assume you are referring to Ted Haggard's statements about his "sexual immorality." Haggard's sense of morality was not helpful to him. It left him ill prepared to deal with the reality of his own thinking, and as such he was caught in a game that he couldn't win.

Answer 5

Hi, Prayer works. The best way is replacing bad habits or desires with good habits. Say you watch Soap operas or another bad show. Replace it with the Bible, Christian book or watch a History show, cooking show etc. Just like food, replace burger with salad or lean chicken etc. Bad desires, inappropriate thoughts, say "No that is wrong", pray about it and go on, see what happens.
I didn't say it was easy, why do you think I brought up food as an example. LOL
grace

Answer 6

Great question and as the Bible says 'give no place to the devil& he will flee from you). See the forbidden and all the negative it will bring and do some searching for wholesome things you can put your time to. When these urges try to slip back in 'shut the door in their face. God Bless

Answer 7

This is an excellent reason for the Catholic Sacrament of confession because when we fall to these temptations we go to confession and tell the priest who stands in for Jesus "Who's sins you shall forgive shall be forgiven".--But, then the grace is supplied by Jesus to win over these temptations. They usually are not just done away with but, they are conquered by the grace of our Lord. Sin is like exercise. The more you do it the stronger it gets but, likewise is virtue. The more you practice virtue the stronger it gets until the sin is destroyed.

Answer 8

Forbidden by what?
If it is a legal issue, get some counseling.

If it is a religious issue, repressing it will only needlessly torture yourself. Get over the stigma of a fictitious belief system and get it on.

Answer 9

Prayer, resist the devil and he will flee. We have control over our emotions, therefore we are to fight such things with the power of the Word of God. Pray for deliverence, many times when we are trying to rid ourselves of certain desires, Satan cranks up the pressure to try and make you give up. The more you fight in faith, the weaker Satan becomes. Eventually you win through the promise of Christ.

Answer 10

Depends on what those desires are... You need to find or think of things that will distract you..Desires can be controlled it takes time and effort...Be patient the fight will be worth it!