What is your general oppinion of a secret admirer?
2006-11-06 03:55:55 · 27 answers · asked by need help now? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
by the way, I am a guy, and there is a girl I really like, but she has a boyfreind, bat also she does not seem happy with him. Its very complicated.
2006-11-06 04:13:18 · update #1
As requested, my age is 18
2006-11-06 04:30:53 · update #2
I think it is very sweet to have a secret admirer
AS FAR AS YOUR GIRL PROBLEM
THIS IS WHAT I WOULD DO:
well I normally would say take her from her man if you like her enough to know that you can make it in the long run however you are 18 so I'm not sure if your ready to marry your crush. If she is not happy then just stay close find a friend that is a girl act as if you are together (make sure if she or anyone else asks if you are an item you say no we are just good friends.) Pick your friend up and make a double date with your crush and her man and show her what a great man you can be over her boyfriend. Let her ***** to you about all her man is doing wrong and in a not so excited way tell her that there are plenty of fish in the sea and make your move then. trust me this has happened to me and I have used it myself.
However make sure that her feelings for you are returned before going out of your way. This guy I used to work w/ had a major crush on me and no matter what I would say to him he would not back down on my last day at that job he had a dozen roses sent to me w/a card that asked me to go out w/ him. I cant be a ***** to such a sweet guy so I said yes but now I'm just blowing him off because I really don't want to go out w/ him. I just dont want this to happen to you where she is blowing you off.
GOOD LUCK!!!!
2006-11-09 07:17:32 · answer #1 · answered by smbrennan24 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So are you asking what to do? A secret admirer is someone that fancies someone from afar. It's like looking at a person encased in glass. You are just admiring, not interfering.
Don't get in the middle of her relationship. It will just cause anger and resentment. If she's unhappy, in time she will find her way out. Until then, just admire.
2006-11-06 12:16:52 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well let me give you a bit of advise. I found the man of my dreams & we we're planning on getting married & were trying to have a family of our own. But he cheated on me with another girl & got her preg. I thought that when he told me he loved me he ment it. But it's been about 2 months since we've seperated & the last time I spoke with him I told him I told hime that he should tell her how he felt. Well 2 make a long story short they're now getting married & are very happy. My advise to you is if BOTH of you are happy then be together if not then just go your seperate ways b/c there's no since in wastin' each others time. Or even messing up a good freindship....What if she decides not to be with you....Then she will more than likely never talk to you again. Where do you stand?!?!?!?!?!
2006-11-09 16:06:12 · answer #3 · answered by Candice D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love a mystery, but I get bored if the answer isn't revealed to me pretty quickly. Give her some clues so she can figure out who you are, and send a note to have her meet you somewhere. You'll see by the look on her face right away if she guessed who you were AND if she's happy with the outcome.
Good luck - I think it's very sweet, as long as you don't draw it out to the point where it turns creepy.
2006-11-06 12:17:58 · answer #4 · answered by 40yomama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A secret admirer is cute, unless the person starts resorting to stalking thats just creepy. But otherwise its nice, and makes girls feel good
2006-11-06 12:01:19 · answer #5 · answered by saraikyon 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be very careful. There is a VERY fine line between a secret admirer and a stalker.
2006-11-12 15:32:36 · answer #6 · answered by slichick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's sweet, but if you let it go on for too long, then it's just annoying and I want to know who it is and for them to stop beating around the bush and ask me out already! Phew! :) By the way, I wouldn't make the move on the girl. I would wait ad see what happens with her boyfriend. If you do, it could mean trouble...careful!
2006-11-09 14:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's What I Need. A Bad Boy! Are You A Satanist Aslo? That Would Sweeten The Deal Baby!
2006-11-06 13:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by TheGayDave 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
makes u want to find out more. its actually a lil joy in life, knowing that someone out there is actually interested in you. it makes life a little more interesting, instead of the old routines. and then, when you find out who it was who was sending you those messages, voila u got urself a boyfriend, because, well, ur too far in to get out again :p hey go on write ur message as long as ur sure its ur only chance, coz otherwise when u tell her shell be all umm, no back away. and that will hurt ALOT. good luck!
2006-11-06 11:59:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
usually girls wont tell thier boyfriend if they have a secret admirer. id wait till she didnt have a boyfriend to do anything tho, u dont wanna get beat up. but i would like a secret admirer. (only if he wasnt ugly)
2006-11-09 15:16:32 · answer #10 · answered by manatee_love 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋