Over a year ago i had cheated on my husband. I was not saved at the time and had not trusted in the lord. About 4mts ago i confessed my sins to the lord and asked to be saved and prayed that i may live my life in a way that would glorify god. Since i confessed to god i feel he will punish me for what i've done. I don't know if i should confess to my husband. It will ruin our marriage and we have 2 babies. is confessing to god good enough?
2006-11-06 03:55:19 · 19 answers · asked by new_look_on_life06 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Part of repentance is reconciling with those you have tresspassed against - Heavenly Father is one, the others are the actual people that you interact with.
It is up to you, but I would tel him.
2006-11-06 03:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by topher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good gravy! The answers on this section are horrendous. Let's examine what's going on here. You're not afraid to confess your sin to an almighty being (who would have been disappointed by them), but you are afraid to tell your husband? If you really trust in God, wouldn't you trust that God would provide the best outcome from this? Also, how can you expect to make amends with God when you have even tried to reconcile the issue with the injured party?
2006-11-06 12:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You didn't have to confess to God.He already knew.He knows everything and sees everything.You should repent and ask God for forgiveness. As for your husband I think you should tell him because it could come back and bite you in the butt. I also dont think you should tell him because let a sleeping dog sleep. Its really up to you and what you think is going to be the best choice.Only you have some kinda idea on how your husband would react or hope to react.I hope everything works out. Best wishes.
2006-11-06 12:05:00 · answer #3 · answered by IamMuslimah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him hypothetically first. It may not actually ruin your marriage, but keeping this kind of thing from each other most likely will. Question for you: would you want to know if he cheated on you? These are things you need to consider on your own - no random person on the internet is going to be able to answer the question for you
2006-11-06 12:01:11 · answer #4 · answered by The One 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your confession to God should be enough. If it has not hurt your husband, then he has not reason to know. It is don, over with and you can move on if you think what you did was wrong and needs to be forgiven.
2006-11-06 12:00:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on how much forgiveness you want. Confessing to God means that He has forgiven you. If that's good enough for you (and it doesn't appear that it is), then that's as far as you need to go. If you want your husband's forgiveness, you must let him know. The real issue is when will you forgive yourself?
2006-11-06 11:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by jinenglish68 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think it is going to ruin your marriage then I would say don't tell him. Just don't cheat on him again. God has forgiven you and while yes honesty is the best policy it is not always wise to tell the truth when dealing with human beings.
2006-11-06 11:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly beleive in God, than you know that you need to consult Him for the answer. If you feel this confused and tormented about it, tell your husband. Pray for his understanding and forgiveness. Pray all the time. God is there and He does answer, sometimes not the way we like and not in our time frame, but He is the only one that knows what is truly best for us. I pray for God's guidance to you.
2006-11-06 11:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes what people don't know won't hurt them. Sounds like you have much to lose. If you asked God's forgiveness and truly meant it then He forgave you already. The thing now to do is learn to forgive yourself and to make sure you never let it happen again.
2006-11-06 12:00:54 · answer #9 · answered by rose v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling your husband won't ruin your marriage, cheating on him will. And since you've already been there and done that, you owe it to your husband and your children to come clean.
2006-11-06 11:58:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋