Me and my girlfriend were dating for 8 months. Things were great, and we both told each other that we had never felt this way or been best friends w/ a gf/bf before. I did some stupid things to push her feelings away - I didnt tell her the whole truth about some things, and sometimes I could be arrogant or annoying to others when she was around me, which I know she didnt like. I didnt cheat or do anything physical. It was nothing I did on purpose or to hurt her. I just made some mistakes that I know are not in my nature, and I want to show her the real me again, and that I have grown-up and changed for the best.
She broke up with me about 5 weeks ago. I sent her flowers, letters, etc. I know that I shouldnt have done this, but thats in the past. Her friend told me she just wants to be alone right now, so Ive decided to leave her alone for a month. I know I love her and it hurts me that I didnt tell her that before all of this happened. Anyone have any advice? Thanks...
2006-11-06 03:44:35 · 10 answers · asked by pjammer 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But what can I do right now to show her that I can be trusted?
2006-11-06 03:56:10 · update #1
Thank you prave,
I know I have to just give her time. I have decided to not talk to her for 1 full month (started beginning on this month), and just give her space. Then I will just ask her to get together, go out on a simple date (I am going to suggest going to where we went on our first date). Hopefully she will agree, and I will just be myself, like I was early on in the realtionship. But it just hurts that I cant talk to her or see her. Everyday I think about her, dream about her, and I have come to the conclusion that I do not want anyone else but her. I just want the opportunity to make up for my mistakes, and I know we can be even stronger than we were before.
2006-11-06 05:12:24 · update #2
actually give her d time she wants.....den approach her again.....be plain and simple and b truthfull....tell her really how u feel and dnt talk bout anything dat happened in d past....dnt brag....dnt say dat was not me-i dnt make mistakes lik dat and stuff...let her know da ur no more into d past and hav changed..be open....and if she still says no...dnt beg...tell her no probs...be cool...walk out cool....if not now later she will regret it...hey she may even think over it...
2006-11-06 04:59:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 17:39:29 · answer #2 · answered by Randall 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you should make sure that the reason she broke up with you was because of those things--just to make sure there is nothing else. Otherwise, if you two were best friends before it's definitely a scary thing moving into a relationship. Both of you were probably scared n tried not to let the other one see it. When you pushed her away she probably felt rejected and that's one of the worst feelings in the world for someone who just let her guard down. When you first start falling for someone, it feels like you want to spend every moment with that person and its hard when the other person makes you feel that they dont feel the same. My advice to you would be to actually keep sending her flowers, not with any notes begging to have her back but just trying to win her heart over again like when you guys first realized you had feelings for each other as friends. Start fresh. It might take a while but at least it might get her to open up more again. Girls appreciate the little things guys do, even if its just a text that says that you hope she has a nice day. Good luck :)
2006-11-06 04:02:08 · answer #3 · answered by lovingangel323 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
theres not to much you can do but give her what she wants! try to be just friends with her. i know its hard to do but it would be the best thing, that way you can show her the real you again and maybe she will fall for you all over again....but if you didnt cheat on her or anything like that then this secret you held from her ( or whatever it was ) must have been pretty big for someone to do this. And if it wasnt that big of a deal then i am sorry to tell you but, if she didnt really want to be with you and she just didnt want to hurt your feelings then she was just looking for something to leave without making herself look bad against you! Expecially if she wants to be alone right now, kinda showing you shes finished with the relationship. But I could be totally wrong and the best thing to do is leave her alone, the more you bother her the more you are going to annoy her and push her away..and i am sure thats the last thing you want to do right now.
Good luck. and i hope things work out for the best!
2006-11-06 03:51:23 · answer #4 · answered by Aeris_141 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay in contact with her be her friend. She won't come back till she thinks she can trust you. Basically u have to earn her trust,if she lets you.
Good Luck.
PS. Never front on a girl u are really feeling cause trust is the foundation to a relationship...like the floor to a home,Its what holds it together and without it it falls apart. You should be honest because you can always find a girl that will accept you for what you don't have/have and also for who you really are. You never have to front cause there is someone for everyone. When u realize that you can be honest life will be peaceful.
2006-11-06 03:54:30 · answer #5 · answered by Thebronx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she needs time... give it to her... if she loves you ... she will come back or she will change and never come back... the key here is to let her be... give it time... let her figure out what ever she needs to...
i went out with a girl for 10 months... we loved each other... i moved on to another girl... my X is now trying to get back with me... and she broke up with me.... so... let it be... time helps ... but nothing can change the past....
let it go... move on... dint forget
2006-11-06 03:51:56 · answer #6 · answered by little dazed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to do alot of begging but i would guess she has moved on by now .
2006-11-06 03:49:10 · answer #7 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
chalk it up to a lesson learned. If she loved you she will be back.
2006-11-06 03:47:28 · answer #8 · answered by elliepenelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should of never lied to her, you are getting what you deserve
2006-11-06 03:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have sex with her sister
2006-11-06 03:47:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋