My mother in law is always trying to control me and my husband relationship . I know she will only do what her son lets her do but I am so tired of all the drama she even trys to control our kids for example getting them when she feels she wants. I have no problem with it her getting them I just don't like how she is so controlling and if I say one thing about my husband mom he defends her when she talks about him like a dog to me! He is to much of a mama boy I am tired of him and her what should I do we all got into a big argument about the kids recently and I am not allowed back to there home but they be wanting my kids over there. What should I do?? I love him but his mom gots to go he turns on me all the time saying I only have 1 mom blah blah blah but I am his wife what about me and my feelings? I want to move on but I do truely love him help!!!!!!
2006-11-06 03:39:23 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i even suggested that since we got into a big confrontation that we should all talk and resolve problems so there is no grudges held
2006-11-06 03:40:31 · update #1
no there is no drugs etc going on she is just running HIS life and trying to control my kids . I am so stressed I am thinking of leaving him since I come last it's a terrible feeling I do love him but I love my health as well I dont want to be depressed about this the rest of my life.
2006-11-06 03:54:40 · update #2
got a 44.
2006-11-06 03:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by twopipes1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No easy solution here. Best thing you can both do is to move a distance away from the relatives and let the kids go visit with their dad.
Your poor husband is caught in the middle. I am sure he loves his mom and he loves you too. The bad thing is the kids are stretched in the middle too.
You and your MIL need to quite arguing in front of the kids. Your husband needs to tell his mom to back off or your family will not come see her.
Now, here is the question, are there real concerns that your MIL may have about the way life is being conducted at your home? Does she feel protective because she thinks you and your husband do not properly take care of the children?
Are there issues with drugs and alcohol in your home? Do you and your husband support your family with a clean home, clothing, food, etc. You have to think is there anything in your home that could give your MIL concerns about the welfare of the children and or her son?
Do you honestly think you MIL is just a troublemaker and trying to undermine your position as a mom to your family and wife to your husband? If you can honestly say yes to this question; then you need to ask your husband to help you move away from his mother.
2006-11-06 03:50:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are gambling a 0 sum recreation through looking to "out imply" her. Take an fully specific method. Kill her with kindness. Always be best, by no means name her out on whatever, praise her generally, and if she insults you, smile and say "I'm sorry you think that means". For this to paintings, you need to be, or no less than look to be honest. If you're excessive with it, or snarky, it would possibly not paintings. The notion is that in the event you supply her no room to transport, she are not able to. It's tough to mention "My daughter in legislation complimented my get dressed in these days. What a beeyotch" and feature someone pay any concentration to it. Over time, she will have to simply give up looking to get your again up. The notion is not to supply her any ammo, or whatever to whinge approximately.
2016-09-01 08:05:02 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself a divorce from this insensitive clod of a mama's boy he is a totall jerk and your kids are going to grow up like him if you dont do something soon you know? Get with the program girl he is a mama's boy he aint going to change get away and get to a lawyer and explain what is going on . wont get any better. good luck and god bless and happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-06 03:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
tell ur hubby u need to come to terms on how things should be done , u r all a family now ,u ,ur hubby and the kids r imediate family now, his mother should not be telling u and ur hubby how to run ur lives u and him should be runnig your lives tell him that. let him know he needs to be the man of the house and u and he make the descisions , not mama,and if mama has anything to say about that, tell her this is our lives , we will raise our kids the way we see fit,and she should repsect that , and if she can't then , it's her problem ,not yours, she raised hers now it's your turn to raise your own
2006-11-06 03:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by cc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in the same situation and when it came down to it, i chose to be with my wife and child. my mom was the same exact way, controlling and rude. it took my wife giving me an ultimatum for me to see how wrong my mom was. after seeing that i could lose my child, i stood my ground on my mom and told her that if she wanted any part in my life or her granddaughter's life, she needed to stop her ways. only bad part was that i didn't speak to my mom for a couple years but after that it was all good. good luck!
2006-11-06 03:47:03 · answer #6 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋