I have a brother that is 17 years old, he is living with my mother now and she seems to have no control over him, if he dosnt want to go to school he dosnt go to school, if he dosnt want to do his homework he dosnt do his homework. He dosnt do any house work to help my mom out and pritty much bosses her around. So i feel like he isnt going anywhere in life. And he is setting a bad exsample for the two younger siblings in our family. Also he is showing intrest in this girl he use to work with, the only problem is that she is 26. I am worried about him for the futer, I guess i want more for him, and want to beable to help in some way what do i do?
2006-11-06 03:37:50 · 12 answers · asked by girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
talk with him and tell him whats going on... and how you see it from your point of view...
then talk to your mom about it.. and tell her not to like him boss her around and that she is the boss in control.. not him!
and remind him of his age.. maybe he forgot...!
2006-11-06 03:40:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom may feel overwhelmed. She's alone, has three children to manage, and a household. Sometimes it is more trouble to try to make a teenager do right than it seems to be worth. Especially when it's a boy who is physically bigger and a lot louder than you.
Is there another adult you can talk to - a school counselor? A minister? If you can afford it, family counseling sessions seem in order here. You can tell her how worried you are, but it won't help her figure out what to do.
I think your mom needs help in setting boundaries. She is setting your brother up for failure. 10 years from now she still won't be able to figure out what she did wrong as she visits your brother in jail.
She needs to act now. Next year he will be 18 and she will have no legal right to do anything.
2006-11-06 03:48:22 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he should be delt with strength rather than then talks now.. i mean if u have someone in family who has a big built n is strong.. guys really listen to such people... may be give him a beating sometime as he is just 17 . change the school
even u can put him in boarding school. or a army school with tuff rules n regulations... do it immediately or he will get out of control
2006-11-06 03:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by meg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mom needs to grow a backbone....it's just that simple. You should talk to her and tell her that you are not only worried for her, but for your younger siblings and the example he is setting for them. I would have kicked him out already...her house, her rules. He sounds independant, but at the same time, very immature. Sounds to me like he needs a dose of tough love. Good luck! :)
2006-11-06 03:45:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR MOTHER dropped the reins here. I have 4 sons and I wish they would even "THINK" they can decide if they want to go to school, do chores, or tell me what to do. The most you can do is talk to him but he thinks he is grown so I doubt it will go anywhere...so expect the younger kids to follow in his footsteps. Your mother needs to learn tough love; and be prepared to even have him leave the house if he can't / won't follow HER rules.
2006-11-06 03:48:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your mom has no control over him there's probably not much that can be done. Your mom's best bet would be to get him out of there before he corrupts the siblings.
2006-11-06 03:42:20 · answer #6 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happen with my 17 your old bro it cam eto a point where my mom told him to move with my dad and so now he does but hes even worse theres nothing you can really do now its too late thats something you cant really correct now the only thing i can think of is ways to keep him busy that keeps him out of everyones face and less trouble good luck
2006-11-06 03:42:28 · answer #7 · answered by lost_in_love_still 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to convince your mother to not only be harder on him, but call the police if his father won't step in and help. The police will scare the sh*t out of him or get him counselling and hopefully teach him to respect his parent(s). Because he needs to remember that if it wasn't for his parents, he'd just be a stain on a sheet, or car seat, or carpet...etc. etc.
2006-11-06 03:42:54 · answer #8 · answered by flashpro 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother all this and maybe she will wake up . I know 17 yr old boys are a pain ( i have one) but someone has to control this kid .
2006-11-06 03:48:34 · answer #9 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly your mother needs a reality check, try talking to her. Anybody else your close to or your mother that you can have help talking to her.
2006-11-06 03:41:13 · answer #10 · answered by shorte716 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋