Me and my girlfriend have been with each other for over a year and a half now and we have had the best sex life ever. We never had any problems in that area. I'd say we would have sex probably about twice a week on average. But for a about a month she has been pushing me away and saying she doesn't want to because she's not in the mood. We discussed it and she's telling me that she has bad dreams of being raped when she was little. So she went to the doctor to get sleeping medicenes and shes been using those for about a week. Still no sex. I got really frusterated with her one night and she got mad at me. Am I sexually frustrated or is it her fault. I don't think im a sex-aholic or anything its just making me really mad. All other areas of our relationship are nearly perfect. I love her and want to respact her with all my heart but i have needs too!
2006-11-06 03:37:24 · 25 answers · asked by ableach 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The way that you feel in understandable however, you are being selfish and inconsiderate of what your girlfriend is going through. If she is in a lot of pain do you really want to contribute to that pain. Try telling her how you feel and also tell her that you want to be understanding of what she is going through. Ask her if she has any suggestions for things that can be done to improve the situation. Ask yourself if you would break up with her if you had to wait on her for a while. For all you know, she may feel very hopeless like there is nothing that she can do about it and she may be terrified of losing you. If she is in so much turmoil that she can't give you what you need, you have to ask yourself what the relationship is worth it to you. Is it worth so much that you can take care of it on your own with a magazine for a while? If it isn't worth it, I would move on and let her move on, also.
2006-11-06 03:46:36 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Just give her some space. She is obviously having some emotional problems right now...maybe you should be more concerned with that than your sex life? The last thing a chick wants is to be nagged about sex when she's really not feeling up to it. Try to figure out what HER needs are right now. If the sex has always been good, then it can be good again. But not if whatever is going on with her is not resolved.
2006-11-06 03:44:01 · answer #2 · answered by smellyfoot ™ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude if she's having dreams about getting raped something is up. You need to give her some space on this one. Obviously if you had a good sex life before then she's into you. She just isn't in the mood and you can't force the issue or I GUARANTEE it's going to take even longer for her to want to sleep with you again. Just be understanding, patient and loving and you two will make it through.
2006-11-06 03:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to stop asking her for sex and TALK WITH HER without the pressure. Getting mad at her and thinking only about "your needs" is not going to fix whatever needs fixing.
Now, that said, I think her story about having bad dreams of being raped when she was little is a crock. You've been together for a year and a half having healthy, reglar sex and this comes up all of a sudden? And she can't sleep either? Whatever happened, it happened about a month ago when the problem started.
There are a number of things that could have happened, but rather than offer wild speculation, I suggest again, talk with her. Forget about sex and talk. btw, you don't say how old you are but from the sound of your question, I'm guessing you're both teenagers, correct?
2006-11-06 03:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by wineboy 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Be patient....she's probably dealing with some issues that occurred during her childhood...that she suppressed and now it arise. The medication as well can be a factor. But instead of being sexually frustrated and hold resentments.... talk to her, comfort her. The more understanding you are, the quicker she should get over this. Just give it time...in the meantime....just enjoy masturbation.
2006-11-06 03:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by teaspoon520 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she has some mental health issues. If she is having dreams of being raped as a little girl she might need some kind of counceling. It sounds like emotional issues which don't get better without help. Also, I would say don't take the sleeping pills.
2006-11-06 03:44:34 · answer #6 · answered by angie a 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she's going through alot of pain right now and she needs you to become more of a comforter. If you want your relationship to grow, it would help if you were willing to put your sexual desires aside and focus on her needs. If you build a good relationship that way and get married before having sex again, it will definately pay off.
2006-11-06 03:49:43 · answer #7 · answered by Bozzy3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should think about her needs too.Maybe she's testing you to see if yall relationship is based on sex or noy maybe you should try buying her some roses and candy maybe with a card.But dont think that just because you gave her these things you gon get some you got to wait a little while to show her how much you care about her.
2006-11-06 03:44:38 · answer #8 · answered by badgurl101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, you aren't married right? Then you have no lawful or biblical entitlement to her treasure to begin with. You haven't committed to a life long relationship. So I suggest if you truly LOVE her, you be there for her now especially. While she is having a bad time in her life. When you are in love with someone it's not just about sex, it's about being there and supporting your partner through good and bad WITHOUT making it about YOU and YOUR needs.
2006-11-06 03:45:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are going to have to be patient. The medicine will take longer than a week to take affect. There is a possibility that there is something more going on with her other than these dreams. Maybe you have not been satisfying her so she figures it is just a waste of her time to give it to you. You need to make sure that she thinks you have a good sexual relationship too and not just assume she is satisfied.
2006-11-06 03:41:43 · answer #10 · answered by cmsmith114 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋