I decided to give him a second chance after he was dishonest about his situation with his ex girlfriend. LONG STORY but I still cant stop thinking thoughts that he will fall for her again and leave me. Or that they sleep together when he visits his son at her house in another state. He calls me when he goes there and on the way home to try to make me feel better but I still get worried cuz he mislead both of us at the same time. Telling me he wants to marry me, telling her he wants to work it out for the baby. This was back in August but what if he is still telling her that? he says she has a boyfriend but how do I know? He lives 2 hrs away from me and she lives 2 hours from him. What do I do??!!
2006-11-06 03:36:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok so I was thinking, this might sound crazy, But would it be wrong of me to ask him if I can talk to her? Such as call her or email her and just ask her questions? I am not sure exactly what yet. Something along the lines of is there anything going on between you two? Does he still say the same things to you? I don't think she would lie cuz she was decieved also. Its only her that I am worried about him cheating with because he has a long history with both of us. One of the reasons I ask this is because according to Good 'ol DR. Phil a person who cheated and wants to be trusted should let the person decieved do things like that for a while ie: check the phone to see who they've been calling, even following them.
2006-11-06 04:23:11 · update #1
Sounds like you are having second thoughts about giving him a second chance. Not only did he break the trust in your relationship, but he did a little shattering of your confidence too. You can't let anyone shatter your confidence, so if this is torturing you and making you think thoughts that are killing you, then it may be something you need to let go of. When you forgive someone that means letting go of all the hurt and moving on to the next step and it seems like something that you are not able to do. If you love him and you think that he is heartily sorry for what he did, then let it go and move on with your relationship. If not, then you need to let him go and do whatever he has to do and you go do what you have to do. It sounds like you still think he is misleading the both of you and you can't live like that! It will kill you! Make that decision on your own, don't wait for it to backfire. Usually your first mind is your right mind. You are more important than anything. I was in a situation like that once and it didn't work out for the good, not saying that is the case with your situation, but you should always go with your first mind. I know it will be hard, but it will work out better in the long run.
2006-11-06 03:50:47 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only word to use is TRUST and since it has already been broken you will have serious problems until you both get to a place where there is complete honesty. There is no amount of time for your head and heart to trust again. Its all in the actions. GOO DLUCK BELIEVE ME I KNOW ITS A HARD THINGS TO DO>
2006-11-06 03:39:39 · answer #2 · answered by crazzzy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is a hard call..because if you gave hiim a second chance that means that you love him..but yet he lied to both of you..so like you said who knows what he is telling her..I wouldnt trust him again...its hard to regain trust....and I know that you are probably driving yourself crazy thinking whether he is cheating when he goes there to see his son..if your guts tell you that he is..or if you are unhappy then end it on a positive note...to save your heart from hurtng..
2006-11-06 03:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your asking a question like this ... then you already know the answer ... your not going to trust him again .... you don't need a person in your life thats going to play with your mind.
2006-11-06 03:42:10 · answer #4 · answered by common sense 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
forget him...... honestly you are always going to worry and he might always be lying. Is he worth chancing the rest of your life for? I can answer that NO he is a liar
2006-11-06 03:38:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok this is hard. i now how do you fel. my boyfrien lives 10h from me. And it is hard to trust.but you now there are alot of men in this world girl. Think about it and bbe happy
2006-11-06 03:42:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yo, you need to move on. without trust in the relationship, it's over.
2006-11-06 03:40:14 · answer #7 · answered by WreckinShop 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he betrayed you once, why do you want to stay for a second time?
2006-11-06 03:38:40 · answer #8 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without trust there is no relationship....dump him!
2006-11-06 03:38:25 · answer #9 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he did it once, he will do it again. Leave him.
2006-11-06 03:39:29 · answer #10 · answered by divalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋