i weigh 180 lbs.. my bf and i had been on for a year and a half,, but the last time we met was a year ago,,i was quite slimmer that time.. now we're going to meet this year,, do u think he will still luv me like it was before?
2006-11-06 03:30:15 · 23 answers · asked by dh3ng12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
what do you mean fat? i'm the wrong side of 250. you ain't fat. what does it matter? if he likes you for you it don't matter. all that matters is that you love yourself just the way you are. if he can't accept that then you need to find yourself a MAN not a little boy.
2006-11-06 03:36:02 · answer #1 · answered by pink_wolf2006 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
this is a complex issue. first of all just because he doesn't like that you are bigger doesn't mean he doesn't love you. Its not even fair to him to make that assumption. You havent seen him in a year. Give him a break. Did you tell him beforehand about the change? Also it depends on the circumstances of the weight gain. Gaining weight due to illness is different from gaining weight due to lack of exercise and bad food.
Though it may not be a nice thing to say but appearance does matter. Only ugly people say it doesn't.
there are so many variables that have to be considered in this issue. You cant make such a blanket statement such as that. What if he wants to help you get back to the size you originally were. I'm not saying anything is wrong with the size you are now (personally I don't think 180 is fat but that does depend on the person. 180 lbs isn't the same on everyone) but its just not fair to say he doesn't love you cause he doesn't perfer the change.
2006-11-06 04:07:38 · answer #2 · answered by Random Nimrod 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm going to give you the honest truth. If he truly loves you he will continue to love (if doesn't he didn't really love you and is also a jerk) with that said if you really have gotten a lot heavier than the last time you saw him he will look at you differently (catch that I didn't say love you differently I said look at you differently) Especially if you haven't told him that you put some weight on. If you "surprise" a guy with something like that he may say something stupid without thinking about it before and neither of you want that. Before you meet again make sure you let him know of the changes. It is one thing to be with the woman you love and see her slowly get bigger but its another thing if there is a major "surprise" change from the last time he saw you. Like I said I'm just being real with you. If he loves you he will period, but that won't change what in his mind is the way he prefers you, hopefully if likes you better smaller he'll be able to tell you that in a gentlemanly way. Who knows he may even like the bigger you better.
2006-11-06 03:50:01 · answer #3 · answered by Almack 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How well do you know this guy? Because if you knew him at all .You would know. Whether he would still luv you if you gained a few pounds or not.What does being slim or being fat have to do with love?He should love you. For who you are? What is inside of your heart? If gaining a few pounds would stop him from loving you .Then he probably never loved you at all.If that is the case .Then the only thing you should be worried about losing is him. Good luck.
2006-11-06 04:24:04 · answer #4 · answered by noga 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are with a man that loves you for you of course he'll love you. My hubby and I didn't see each other again for 12 years after high school and we were both looking quite different but it was still us. We have both starting working out and dieting for the last few years for health and because we love to live our lives together for as long as we can.
It's not just about weight. It's you and your spirit that is loved, not your love handles and butt size.
I weigh that much still and Iove the way I look. I've already lost 40 pounds in the last few years from starting diet and exercise plan. In my case, I am a very active woman and I would someday like to lose more weight from having all my kids. But if my man didn't like my body, he would let me know that we should increase the time we workout, but a man that loves me would never tell me to lose weight unless my health was at risk. In any case that you are with someone that loves you, they are not looking at the weight, they have to be looking at you. Don't forget though, you should want to lose the weight for yourself, not to impress him. Don't worry, if he's shallow then throw him back in the pool. If he loves you, he'll see you.
2006-11-06 03:41:40 · answer #5 · answered by Bard's Babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he love you for your personality and who you are, not for your looks, then I am positive he'll still love you.
However, you shouldn't allow yourself to become overweight. Being overweight can end up leading to serious health conditions as well as if the weight continues you could end up being morbidly obese. Right now, you're not near morbidly obese— however, I'd just like to say you should get on the right start to dieting and eating healthy. And, no, not for your boyfriend, but for yourself. It's best to be healthy so you can feel healthy and confident.
2006-11-06 03:32:13 · answer #6 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he loves you, he loves you no matter what your size is now as long as your inner self hasn't changed. If he's just after the outward appearance then he isn't much of a man, in my opinion.
My husband loves me and still calls me beautiful even thought I've packed on 20 pounds since we got married.
2006-11-06 03:33:28 · answer #7 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well this is somewhat a test of his love for you. k? If he loved you before and really truley loved you... Then when he sees you again he will still love you! But if he was just saying he loved you then he may change his mind this time around. Be perpared for anything! Maybe try worrking out just a litle before you see him to get yourself more excited!!! Best wishes to you and your boyfriend, goodluck dear! =)
2006-11-06 03:35:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people who answers this question r just pure a**holes. Baby big is beautiful and if he loves you then your look shouldn't matter. If he acts different cuz u've gained weight the honey he doesn't deserve someone as beautiful as u r!! Keep ur head up!
2006-11-06 03:35:01 · answer #9 · answered by Kandy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if he really loves you than your weight will not be a problem, but if he is worried about your weight or doesnt like you because you gain some pounds then he doesnt love you like he saids you do, but all you have to do is wait and see how he reacts. He probably not even going to notice.
2006-11-06 03:32:56 · answer #10 · answered by Pumpkin Nickel Bread 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋