what do you do to get over someone? how long does it usually take you to get over someone?

Question

i just need some advice for my recent breakup. i was the one that broke it off and im devastated. even if i know that i deserve better, i miss him so much. he treated me like crap but i still miss him :S
gosh..help me!!

well thats the problem, everything i do i think of him! when im doing my work or when im sleeping, showering etc...i think of him. its annyoing!

Answer 1

keep yourself busy, get an extra job or keep busy with friends or family. Keeping busy just helps keep him off your mind. You can do it!!!

Answer 2

Wow, I'm sorry you're going through that. But just know that you're not alone. I've been there and done that myself. My ex treated me like crap, too. I ended our relationship. He kept bothering me to come back to him and I tried not to give in, but it was hard because he cried a couple of times and said how much he loves me and misses the good times we've had. But from what I remember, my memories of my ex is still with me and I miss the good times we've had still and it's been 6yrs since I've broken it off with him. This is what I did to try to get over him:
* Avoid him as much as possible, make it clear to him that you don't want anything to do with him (and believe that you deserve better by remembering how badly he treated you)
* Keep telling yourself you deserve better everytime you think of him
* Try your best not to call him and don't answer any of his calls, don't ask about him to his friends/family, tell yourself you don't want to know how he's doing
* No matter what happens, don't give in to him
* Keep your mind as busy as possible, so you will think less of him (think of a hobby or sport, write poems/songs, read books, watch TV, sing/dance to your favorite music, focus on your studies and your future, spend lots of time with ur friends/family, go shopping, etc.)
* Don't jump into a relationship with anyone until you know for sure you're over him and take it slow
* It takes time and patience to get over someone but you can do it, life goes on, just be patient and understanding with yourself
I know sometimes you don't want to remember the bad things he's done to you/your relationship, but that's the only way you can remind yourself that he's not worth going back to...so you do have to remember it for that purpose
There are guys/men who can treat you better, you just need to be in the right time and place to find the right person. Good luck. I wish you well.

Answer 3

I broke up with a guy that I had been with 4 years. What I did was use all of that energy I had put in the relationship and put it on me. I went out and just pampered myself. I got my hair done, my nails done, and went out with the girls. And it was so hilarious because he saw me and hated that he cheated because all the guys were trying to holla at me! Also, I worked and saved money and focused on school.

Answer 4

Sorry ... it just takes time to get over heart break but, you can get over it just allow your self some time go out with your family ~ friends something to take your mind off of it.Good Luck!

Answer 5

girlfriend you are preaching to chior. i broke it off with an alcoholic that used me as a convienience and i still missed him. i think that your just a nice person that really didn't want to hurt anyone at your own expense. everytime you think of him think about the lesson you just taught him and be proud you got out and that you respected yourself enough to stand up.

Answer 6

continue your self respect. how long? only time can tell, in the meantime get busy and try new things that you never tried before or activity, meet new people or keep close to your friends. be strong.

Answer 7

time , find other things to occupy it,,

i still miss my ex dream if him often and cry in my sleep its been 3 yrs, he died in august of this yr,,,