someone told me to put my child in a dark room for time out?

Question

is it the rite thing to do? does that seem safe to put my child in a dark room for time out?

Answer 1

No, not a dark room.

Try this:

First warn the child that the behavior is unacceptable. Then if the behavior continues, remind the child that the behavior is unacceptable and let them know that if it continues they go to time out. For a younger child place on a stool, chair, or step for a few minutes to calm down. Not too long as a few minutes is a long time for a young child. Calmly explain that the behavior was unacceptable and be sure to let the child know what behavior. Be sure that the child stays for the required amount of time. After the time is up, have the child apologize. After the apology, praise the child for for apologizing. You want to reinforce good behavior. After that let the child continue playing. It's over. (Example: "We don't hit people. You could hurt someone if you hit them. You're going to sit here for 3 minutes. Then I'll come get you and I want you to apologize. Now stay here.)

Answer 2

If you were a small child, and someone put you in a dark room, would you be scared? If your answer is "yes", then this is NOT a solution for "time out". The purpose of time out is to give your child a spot to think about what it is that they have done. It is not to scare or punish them. This is horribly mean! All your child will learn from this is to fear the dark. Can you imagine how horrid night time will be?!?! Choose a safe, open area for your child to sit at during their time out. Using fear to control your child will backfire.

Answer 3

There are many other affective ways to disapline children for bad behavior than that , that does seem cruel. Look at it this way what would you have felt if that had happened to you when you were a child. that can cause the child to be terrified of the dark over time. Put him or her in a time out chair with the tv off. You don't want to scare the hell out of them, they need to be taught that what they are doing is wrong that wont teach them that and at least you reconize that its wrong good for you.

Answer 4

I wouldn't necessarily put them in a 'dark' room. I think that what was meant was that you should put your child in a dimly lit room. This will take away distractions and help the child to settle down and maybe even allow them think about why they got a time out to begin with.

Answer 5

If you are seriously asking that question, I would advise you to think of the most terrifying situation you could be in. If that doesn't help. Think of your child being taken away from you and you not having any say, to what,where ,who, and how or when you could see he or she again if ever. Take your child in your arms, until the anxiety subsides. This world has enough darkness waiting, shed some loving light!

Answer 6

Time out rooms can be effective. "Go to your room!" has been used for ever for rowdy misbehaving. But I don't think tossing a kid in a dark room is so good - not brightly lighted in the sense of soothing illumination is a good idea, but dark - I don't think so, and is too much like punishment, which time out is not.

Answer 7

That's a big NO NO you don't dicipline your children that way is just not right a time out or take a toy away or something like that but no dark room ok

Answer 8

Don't put them in the dark. I think the point they were probably trying to get across was don't put them in their room with their toys, don't put them where they can see the TV - - make sure they are bored enough to think about why they're in timeout. The first thing I ask my toddler when I take him out of time out is "Why did mommy put you in time out" Putting them in seclusion gives them a chance to think and learn to dislike the idea of timeout and hopefully keep them from doing what they did to get there.

Answer 9

If you do, you'll have bigger problems than whatever you would be putting them in time out for. Doesn't that seem a bit mean to you? I wouldn't even like to be put in a dark room by myself, and I'm an adult! You've got to be kidding me...

Answer 10

If you want to scare the living crap out of them yes. HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF A CORNER OR A TIME-OUT CHAIR?????? I would never do that. Whoever told you that is a retard and needs to go to h*ll. Give them a few minutes of no talking with their nose in the corner. It works. Don't lock your kid in a dark room.