we have been best friends for years he finished with his girlfirend 2 years ago same as i with boyfriend we go out in a crowd together we sleep together sometimes but no sex should i carry on or will it spoil our frienship????
2006-11-06 03:15:38 · 18 answers · asked by fanny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If I were you, I'd be frightened that if the sexual relationship turns out to be disappointing, or good but temporary, then I will have lost the friendship. It really is hard to return to a platonic relationship of such intensity after letting sex in the door. But that doesn't mean it is impossible.
Even if you two discuss this, things might change later, so it isn't a thing you can promise each other for the future (like "Yeah, we agree to test a sexual relationship but if it doesn't work out, we promise to stay best friends.")
Sometimes it works, sometimes it doesn't.
The best relationships are often those where your lover is also your best friend. Who knows, maybe you two are meant to be together in every way?
Only you can decide. I have past lovers who became really good friends after our sexual relationship ended, but it needed some distance at first. I also slept with my best friend years ago, and we ended that because when he was ready for a committment, I wasn't, and vice versa. But we remained good friends (however, not BEST friends).
You can't say what will happen, but if both of you feel the sexual attraction strongly, then you have to try it out and face the consequences. If it is just a way to stop feeling lonely, better treat him as a teddy bear for now!
2006-11-06 03:33:31 · answer #1 · answered by kiteeze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's interesting: you sleep together but no sex. That's some friendship.
According to Seinfeld, sex ruins friendship. But, if you want to take your relationship to a new level, you'll have to talk it out with him first and not just let sex happen. Your friendship should provide a good platform for the discussion. Tell him how you feel and see what his reaction is. He may need some time to mull it over. Be ready to back off if he is hesitant about it. And, by the way, after introducing the idea of moving to a more intimate relationship with him, be prepared for changing your mind about it all. Weird, but it happens. (I think it's a female thing.)
2006-11-06 03:22:33 · answer #2 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure if you will be crossing the line. because Good friends are worth a ton of gold. And I would hate to see, something so precious get messed up, for a roll in the hay. What you need to find out is, how he feels about you? Now if the feelings are mutual, then, that is a different subject. Just wait and see, time will tell!
2006-11-06 03:26:21 · answer #3 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you care for him in that way you should keep going, if not then you should back off a little. Good friends are hard to find so you need to decide which one he is and go from there.
2006-11-06 03:17:51 · answer #4 · answered by Smoke Eater 512 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You weren't very clear...do you want to pursue a relationship? If so, it could potentially spoil the friendship, but then again it could be one of the best relationships ever.
2006-11-06 03:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by not meant to be tamed 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Carry on your friendship until you have to ask no more you will just know you have to be together. Getting in a relationship will be complecated, wait..
2006-11-06 03:21:43 · answer #6 · answered by Sandy Shamina Hercules 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should it spoil anything?
Friendship is the perfect basis for a relationship.
2006-11-06 03:20:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
my best friend was a man we did everything together apart from have sex, then one crazy nite will did since then never the same, so if i was you i would think careful before you do anything
2006-11-06 03:19:50 · answer #8 · answered by LISA T 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dig deep down and find your dignity that somewhere you misplaced. what you described does not sound like a good plan.
2006-11-06 03:19:18 · answer #9 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what he wants, sex can change things and not always for the better!
2006-11-06 03:19:59 · answer #10 · answered by wingedgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋