i've been dating this guy for 7 months now. he takes me to his families house, buys me things, treats me like a princess, has my picture on his fridge with his granddaughter and he even give me money to take my mom out for her birthday because he knew i didn't have the money right then. he has told me he cares about me but he still calls me his friend. is he scared to admit that we are more than friends? is he in denial?
2006-11-06 03:12:03 · 19 answers · asked by p-lane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds like he likes you... but why do you want to label yourselves?
Do you want the relationship to by anything more? In that case it's your turn to make the move, not his. Ask him if he wants a romantic relationship or wants to be called a "boyfriend" or whatever. (Remember, terms can be constricting and limiting to a relationship too.)
One of the best relationships I ever had with a guy was when we never called each other boyfriend/girlfriend, never said the cliche three-little-words and therefore, never failed to meet the other's expectations of what a lover should be.
2006-11-06 03:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by meilin h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I Only have one thing to say about that: Boyfriends and girlfriends come and go, but real friends last a lifetime. I learned that hardcore about a year and a half ago. I always thought it was important to have that "defined" relationship or to make my relationship have a name. But I learned that the most important part was that I was this guys friend. And to me, that sounds like the most important part of your relationship also. You guys sound like you're building a foundation which is the most important part of a relationship. It's what keeps everything standing when it seems like it's ready to fall. That friendship that you guys are building is what is going to prevent him from even wanting to be with another woman. To me your relationship is deeper than you think. Once you say boyfriend/girlfriend you're liable to break-up. You don't ususally hear about friends "breaking up". I'm sure that his family and friends know differently than the fact that you are his friend. If he shows you off like you say, they probably know that you mean a heck of alot to him. I would say just be patient and don't bombard him with questions about being more than friends because actions speak louder than words. People say boyfriend/girlfriend all the time, but they cheat of each other and don't spend any time together, but the label is still there. Which do you want? I don't think he's in denial, maybe he just doesn't want to rush things. To me it takes a long time to get to know someone and even longer if you plan on being together long term. It seems like things are going very well for you guys. Hope I helped a little.
2006-11-06 11:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My opinion? That can be arranged.
From the information provided, it sounds like you are in a fine position and needn't rock the boat any....
A romantic relationship with a strong element of friendship is about as good as it gets. Being friends with someone is about mutual respect and concern. Any real relationship should be built on a foundation of friendship. When that sense of friendship is lost, is the point where folks begin to take advantage of one another - isn't it funny that we find ourselves expecting things from a lover that we would never ask of a friend? If the two of you can be intimate while still regarding each other in a friendly light, then perhaps you will be less inclined to make the common mistakes that occur when people "cross that line"...
Isn't that what we are all looking for? Someone to love who is still our best friend?
Enjoy it. Don't push it.
2006-11-06 11:34:31 · answer #3 · answered by nowyermessingwithasonofabitch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon, if you've been dating him for 7 months and he STILL calls you a friend, that is a bigger denial then the river (haha, bad pun)
Next time he calls you a friend, you'll have to ask him seriously if he really does consider you just a friend. He might be scared to admit to that kind of commitment but if he's really such a great guy, then it'll be worth working it out.
Good luck ^^
2006-11-06 11:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mimblewimble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk To Him About It. There Is No Other Way Around It. You Have To Be Blunt About It. Or You Can Continue To Be Happy And Then Wait For Him To Say You Are A Couple Because Doing It To Soon Could Scare Him.
2006-11-06 11:15:15 · answer #5 · answered by AHaskizzle 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well first I have to ask if you have had this discussion with him and have you told him how you feel. You need to remember that guys are not into labeling things. In due time he might change and he might start calling you his girlfriend. But the best advice that I can give you and just ask him how he feels.
2006-11-06 11:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Melissa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your dating a grandpa - 'friends' might be all he's capable of! Just enjoy being friends and all the nice gifts. It Is possible to care about someone with out being physical. Are you attacted to him that way??
2006-11-06 11:15:39 · answer #7 · answered by Scorpio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most older guys call the women in their life their lady friends. Try talking to him about your relationship and you may be surprised.
2006-11-06 11:16:00 · answer #8 · answered by divalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may just be scared to Commit out loud, he sounds like a great guy just give him some time.
2006-11-06 11:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by 2sweet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its kinda hard to know. based on your description of him, i would say that he likes you. he is probably scared like you sad. so talk to him about that sometime. the only draw back is that if he likes you as a friend, your relationship will never be the same again.
2006-11-06 11:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by Finally Forrest 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋