i dated this guy off and on for a year. number 1 i realize that he is an alcoholic and a control freak, however all he does is tell me how much he really loves me and that he tells all his friends how much he loves me. when it comes time to doing anything other than going to church or walmart he makes excuses that he has prior commitments with his son to get drunk. Its the craziest thing my question is do you really think he loves me. he says that he wants to marry me but he bought me a 59.00 ring which i know doesn't sound so hot but i really liked it. what is wrong with me and why was i blindsided.
2006-11-06 03:00:45 · 13 answers · asked by elliepenelly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Walmart and Church....alright, stop seeing this douchebag.
how much he loves you? he makes me laugh.
you sound totally decent and from what I hear he's not so get away now before he starts to physically hurt you.
2006-11-06 03:05:18 · answer #1 · answered by B.B Top 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want to complicate your life? He is an alcoholic, a control freak, and doesn't spend good quality time with you. His money is spent on drinking - he can't even afford to buy you a decent ring. He tells you "I love you" - because he knows that's what you want to hear. You are a convenience for him, so wake up and smell the coffee. Get some self respect and go on with your life. You may want to suggest that he attent AA meetings.
2006-11-06 03:12:51 · answer #2 · answered by IRENE W H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay first of all this guy may love you. How ever he doesn't sound like he loves you that much if he is getting drunk with his son. This man doesn't sound to mature for his age and honestly he doesn't sound like he is ready for marriage. I would be really carfully and proceed all this with caution. You say you love some one but when it comes down to it is he going to be there for you when you need him the most or will be out getting drunk with his son? Sweetie don't sell youself short find some one that isn't going to be a control freak... find some one that is going to love you for all the right reasons trust me you be a lot happier.
Good luck!
2006-11-06 03:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your boyfriend has a dependent relationship...with Alcohol. I was in your position once & I made the mistake of marrying him. The true is that if he doesn't provide for you all the things you need, I mean...companionship, comprehension and puts U in the first place then U should really think if he is that good for U. Alchoolism is a terryble decise, it will draw U down along with your relationship. I would look for another guy who can really place me in the first place.....but that's just me.
Good look!!!
2006-11-06 03:12:00 · answer #4 · answered by Mesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are either crazy or desperate to keep up the drama with this guy. I can't believe you want to tie your star to an alcoholic control freak for a $59 ring......
2006-11-06 03:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What he says does not equate to what he does, therefore, he is all talk. He does not love you. Enjoy the ring, but ditch this loser. An alcoholic doesn't go get drunk with his son. You need to ask yourself why you don't have enough respect for yourself to know and identify this type of person in your life and dump them. Have faith in you first, know yourself, have pride in yourself and choose someone who is respectful to you and treats you kindly and with care. Good luck, honey...
2006-11-06 03:05:53 · answer #6 · answered by daj11551 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, you like the guy too.
I don't know if I'm the person who should give you an advice for your love life. But maybe you should introduce him to your friends and ask them what they think. Because, your friends may know better.
Good luck with your relationship
2006-11-06 03:05:50 · answer #7 · answered by Vampiredoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Walk away.You care about him and thats ok. But out of respect for you and him let him go. Is what you both need. He is playing a game with you. At your expense. And at his. Good luck.
2006-11-06 03:07:29 · answer #8 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for one, a alcoholic, will not get help until they hit rock bottom, l would tell him to get help, before you decide to marry him.
2006-11-06 03:06:01 · answer #9 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well dont be so harsh...........give him sumtime.....atleast he aint denying his love for u in front of others.....ths a big thing for a guy...........
why dnt u go to partys with him..........if alcohol is weakness thn use it for a while.....nd try making yuorself his weakness nd not alcohol..........wht say
2006-11-06 03:04:40 · answer #10 · answered by screwurattitude 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋