So, His parents dont like me. and its pretty ridiculous why, the rest of his family does and im pretty sure the mother only dislikes me because of some jealousy reasons. But we've moved in together and are so happy and in love, and want to get married, but.. becuase of the parents feelings is that possible? ethical?
should we wait till things are resolved, or hopw that when the time comes that they will respecttheir sons wishes?
2006-11-06 02:58:11 · 9 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I attempted to talk to her over the phone, cause it had been a week of back in forth messages with her son about why they didnt like me.
When i called her to try to explain my self all she did was attack me.
his parents are "those people" that make you hate religion, are judgemental, and hypocritical.
She even attacked the way i was raised [by my loving, amazing grandparents rather then my mom].
2006-11-06 03:16:52 · update #1
his parents arent the ones who are getting married you are so screw them and lead a happy life together....
2006-11-06 04:30:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do they have a minister that they respect? Could this person serve as a third party to resolve the issues without vitriol? Of course the risk is that the minister might consider your living arrangements to be a fundamental problem (pardon the pun).
There is nothing "ethical" about it - if you marry this guy, he must be prepared and agree to live without his side of the family. He must literally divorce them to marry you.
Otherwise you will spend holidays separated and he will feel torn the rest of his life. Your children, if they visit the grandparents, will hear hateful things.
2006-11-06 03:58:05 · answer #2 · answered by kramerdnewf 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would put off on getting married until this issue is resolved. By resolved, I mean you and your fiance need to sit down and talk to her. Assure her that you love her son, and that you want to have a great relationship with her. She will respect you more for coming to her. If you get married while this is going on, then it will only hurt you, and possibly tear the family apart. Good luck!
2006-11-06 03:04:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, when you marry someone you take on their family as well. You need to work on resolving whatever conflicts there are between you and his parents - and he needs to step up to the plate for you in this. That being said, if you or his parents make him choose, no one wins. In the end, you both have to live your lives, and if his parents can't come to terms with it, then they will miss out and be less involved with their son. Good luck.
2006-11-06 03:02:42 · answer #4 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay look i saw this in the movie monster-in law its about a women who wants to marry this man but his mother didnt like her so her mother tried the best she could to find bad things thats shes done in the past but the mother couldnt find anything bad about her so they always played tricks on each other and things and always faught .but towards the end the women who's about to marry her son gives up and said i dont want my life to be like this (she didnt want to fight his mother every second of the day)so she enters the room that her groom to be was in and took his hands and held them and soon as she was about tell him she wasnt going to marry him the mother in law aplogizes and the bride and the groom ended up getting married after all.
2006-11-06 03:11:41 · answer #5 · answered by badgurl101 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You nw what you and your boyfriend should set down and talk about it. And you do whaterver you want. You are not gething marriend to his parents just to him. Sow do your life because his parents allready did it. Have a family and be happy.
2006-11-06 03:32:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm betting they don't like you because you are living in sin. Get married and then move in together. They are not going to get mad at him for your living together. They will take their anger out on you.
2006-11-06 03:01:04 · answer #7 · answered by sheeny 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may as well go for it because things will not change, your in for a long road ahead
2006-11-06 03:01:05 · answer #8 · answered by osu_fanz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him...you'll never be happy with him because of his parents
2006-11-06 03:00:08 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋