my bf is fantastic, he's loyal, fun, exciting, very handsome, but sometimes he doesn't listen to what i say..i know what sounds demanding but hear me out...he bought a gun a 9mm for protection, i read on the net that that type he bought was defective and injured a few people....he didn't get rid of it or sell it, he just stopped taking about it....now he's got a DUI and getting a motorbike, he's selling his car in PA we live in FL, and driving a motorcycle 1500 miles back here! he's never driven anything but a vespa scooter on holiday. he's latino he's so stubborn sometimes...i don't know what to do it hurts me feelings, if he drives home from PA on abike there is a good chance he could get hurt! it upsets me alot and he just thinks he can roll over me....there isn't alot of things i put my foot down on... i let him do what he wants like carousing with his mates and drinking too much or watching too much football. these matters are important and honestly should be commen sense! help!!
2006-11-06 02:56:37 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
okay, you seem more worried about the motorbike than the defective gun. a defective gun would be more dangerous than a motorbike.
I never understood the football thing, and football is for gays anyway, and that is not derogatory, I am saying that men who like football are homosexual. Why? because in case you hadn't noticed, football players slap each other on the ***.
I would advise you to be a bit stronger in your feelings, remember, emotions are meant to strengthen and protect us, let them do so.
2006-11-06 03:16:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you mean it. You have to be completely straight up with him, look him in the face and say, "You know what, I care about you and you obviously don't seem to give a damn about that. If your fun is more important then your safety and what I say, then I'm leaving."
Do NOT let him roll you over like this, he's going to end up using you. If he honestly seems like he wants to change, then set a few ground rules and allow NO exceptions to these. After a while, if he listens, then you can relax your ground rules a bit, but still be strict.
Honestly, hon, you should probably leave him for another man if he doesn't listen to you like that. You're probably a wonderful woman and you can get any man you want that will treat you right. Let him know this and tell him to shove away a little of his stupid male pride so you can get through his head a bit more.
Good luck =)
2006-11-06 03:08:19 · answer #2 · answered by Mimblewimble 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, hun... im' almost the same way with my man... i do have bounderies though and he know when i'm serious.... as for the bike, well what made him want to travel that far on a motor bike... why couldn't he catch the train or bus or something... as for the gun... i hope he knows what he's doing.... as for the drinking... i pray he doesn't drink and drive.... all of these things are dangerous.... you need to start and think about you and what you are worth.... love makes you say and do crazy things but your happiness and life is more important if he doesn't respect your feelings and wishes.... good luck
2006-11-06 03:03:54 · answer #3 · answered by slimchuckie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs reassurances from different women to spice up his ego because of the fact he's immature. Getting him to quit will basically advise he the two loses interest in you because of the fact HE thinks you're controlling or "insecure" OR He gets sneaky approximately it so which you do no longer locate out.
2016-10-15 10:47:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why try to tame someone. Would you want him to do it to you? If he is your BF only and you dont support him and he doesnt support you and each of you make your own money, There isnt much you can do to stop him form doing what he wants, but if he doesnt listen to your ideas and thoughts, your in for along hard relationship later and may want to consider if you want that life
2006-11-06 03:01:28 · answer #5 · answered by scottb03gt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE CHOICES:
1. Stay with fantastic bf, he's loyal, fun, exciting, very handsome
or
2. Find someone who respects your opinions
2006-11-06 03:05:00 · answer #6 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can NEVER change people,If you cannot live with him like this leave him
2006-11-06 03:02:27 · answer #7 · answered by hotnsassy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, you can't change his ways. So it's up to you if you want to keep putting up with this guy. But my advice would be to move on.
2006-11-06 03:01:29 · answer #8 · answered by divalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs some freedom but if he doesn't take you into considerstion you should leave, not good long term.
2006-11-06 03:01:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember, you can never change a man.
2006-11-06 03:01:15 · answer #10 · answered by Egoli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋