First of all I don't have any kids I am wondering if there are still some people who would disown their own flesh and blood.
So would you disown your child if....
they chose a religion you're against or they believe in God and you don't?
Your son/daughter raped or murdered someone or both?
Your son/daughter lies a lot or steals from you or stores or robs a bank?
Your son/daughter decides to be gay/lesbian/bisexual?
2006-11-06 02:42:13 · 20 answers · asked by Out of the Blue 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
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2. Yes
3. No
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2006-11-06 05:07:28 · answer #1 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
For the most part, it is NEVER ok to disown your child. When you make the decision to raise a child, you are their parent for LIFE. If you're religious, doesn't God teach you to love & forgive everyone?
I would say if they murder/rape someone, or robs a bank or is involved with violent crime, thenyou'd be severely disappointed. You'd hate the person they've become. You you would still love them. It's your child! But you have to think about something. Unless there's some kind of mental disorder, parenting plays a role here, and your child would only do these things if you brought them up in a way where they didn't get a good sense of wrong or right.
As far as your child growing up to be a different religion, why on earth would you disown your child for that? Give yourself a pat on the back. You've raised a child who is able to think for themselves.
And if your child was gay, if course it's hard, if it's not your thing. But you'd disown a child for that? You wouldn't still love your child? What they do in their sex life is none of your business.
2006-11-06 03:07:50 · answer #2 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I guess I'm the only one here who would seriously consider disowning my child in certain circumstances.
I would NEVER disown my child for choosing a religion I'm against. As long as the conversation is ongoing, I have a chance to turn them around. Even if he began following an extremist, violent religious sect, I would still try to stay in contact with him to talk him down.
I would NEVER disown my child for his sexuality. That's his choice. Besides, he's going to catch enough grief from his father anyway.
If my child murdered someone, I would have to look at the circumstances. Just murder alone or robbing a bank alone, even if it were bad enough to call for jail or the death sentence, wouldn't be enough. But, if I discovered my child had turned into John Wayne Gayce or Ted Bundy, I admit I might have hard time looking him in the face.
The same for violent rape. I don't think I could ever feel comfortable in his presence again if he violated a girl so callously.
If he or she started stealing from me because of a serious drug problem might make me cut the string also. I'd try like hell to to turn him around, but until he makes the decision to clean himself up, there's a limited amount you can do to help him. I've seen too many senior citizens lose houses and have their social security checks stolen to the point they couldn't afford to buy food because of drug addicted children. If he showed a sincere effort to clean up, I'd be there in an instant to help where I could.
If I sound awful and callous, please understand I love my child beyond words. His actions would cut me to pieces, and I'd never be more than a shell of a person after seeing what he did much less after cutting him out of my life. The guilt would be overwhelming, and I'd probably fight suicidal thoughts til the day I died.
Truth be told, even though I think cutting him off would be the "right" thing, I still probably couldn't do it.
2006-11-06 05:02:49 · answer #3 · answered by LilyRT 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would not disown my children for any of the following but I would question myself and ask what I may have not done as a parent. As for the religion part every one has a right to practice whatever religion they want
2006-11-06 02:50:57 · answer #4 · answered by kim12074 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. To those parents who choose to disown their child actually rejects a part of themselves - never being whole again.
Parents are to protect and equip their children into becoming productive and positive citizens. And if a child decides to do something out of the realm of the parents expectations or thoughts, that’s just individualism peaking at its best. Parenting is similar to flying. Once a parent invests time and training with their child, it’s only natural to release them to the element of flight. Otherwise, they hinder their child’s life lessons of experience for maturity.
Be blessed.
2006-11-06 04:07:00 · answer #5 · answered by Decent 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No I would not disown them for any of those. If they hurt people or robbed someone, then I would be disappointed, but I would still love them. And the rest, I don't care about at all, its their life and I will not be their dictator.
2006-11-06 05:16:40 · answer #6 · answered by Chelle's Belle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't care what my child had ever done there my flesh and blood and nothing that they could ever do could make me disown them. I'd be disappointed in certain cases but never disown. You give birth to that child I dont see how its possible.
2006-11-06 02:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by le_le_06 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt disown my children if they chose to believe in God. i wouldnt disown my children if they got murdered or raped and i wouldnt disown my children if they lies alot, steals, robs i just would be very disappointed in them and i wouldnt disown my children if they turned gay or lesbian or bisexual.
2006-11-06 10:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never be able to disown my children, however, having said that, I would support the law and punishment that would be handed to them. We each have to take responsibilities for our own actions and I would never help them take the easy way out. Love is unconditional, you give with your all, but you do not have to like what they have done. I am only referring to the illegal and criminal activities. Anything else is irrelevant as long as they are happy with their choices.
2006-11-06 03:59:52 · answer #9 · answered by ♀♥☼ alycat☼♥♀ 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My adult childs decision with regards to religion is their business not mine.
I would not disown my child but would think they deserve to go to prison.
I would likely to tell the child that I disapprove of thier behavior for what ever good that does and might ban them from my house but not disown them. Until they straighten up.
My adult childrens sex life is really really not my business.
2006-11-06 02:53:00 · answer #10 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
You gave them life, you dont "disown" them because they do something you don't agree with or that is against societies rules. Those are the times in their lives that they need their parent the most so you stand beside them even if you dont agree with their actions.
2006-11-06 02:50:58 · answer #11 · answered by kimmi_35 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋