I am a 35 year old woman and I have been in some very bad realtionships in the past, right now I feel like my biological clock is ticking, I have never been married and I have no children. I just lost my boyfriend who I was with for 6 years he passed away April 11, 2004. It took a while for me to get over his death and I am still not really over it. I tried dating and the person I tried to date turned out to be a real jackass. Years ago when I was a young girl I met a guy and he was my first boyfriend, and my first kiss he was really a sweet boy. We met later in life as adults and became friends and we lost eachother, I run into his sister once a blue blue moon, but his sister said he was in jail for child support, his sister said his x wife was a gold digger she always wanted money he never had any for his self he has never been in trouble but he kept getting behind on his support. I always remembered him to be so sweet. I want to hear from him without soundiing desperate.
2006-11-06 02:39:25 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think that's a very good idea. His sister is not gonna tell you how big of a loser he is. I believe you just want to find somebody to be with or love but I don't think you have to go that route. Love yourself more. Not all of us find love as soon in our lifes but we will all eventually will. Don't sweat it, love will come to you. Don't make a mistake you can later regret. Good Luck!
2006-11-06 02:44:27 · answer #1 · answered by Guagui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just look him up and keep quit about everything you just mentioned here. Tell him that you've been thinking about him. Words of caution please don't do this just because you feel your biological clock is ticking. It sounds as though he has been through enough with the former woman and you have certainly not had a good time either. You really need to give yourself time to heal don't push it. We must not forget that he was sweet once upon a time but sometimes things do change.
Good Luck!
2006-11-06 10:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by spirit filled 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sound like you are chasing a fantasy. Both you and he are different people compared to your younger years.
He may be a sweet guy, but you are only hearing one side of the story. He may be a pushover and have a weak personality.
Plus he has children and issues with his ex.
Although you may want to get ahold of him and be supportive, do so as a friend first. He may need the moral support. And you can evaluate his personality and situation without be involved emotionally. Don't try to contact him with blinder's on.
If you are looking at this situation as "he was such a nice guy - I have to save him" mentallity, you are setting yourself up for a letdown. What if he asks you to help catch him up in his child-support obligations? What if he is bitter from all of the issues with his ex and is emotionally distant from you? What if he is still in love with his ex, no matter how she treated him? Just be prepared that it isn't going to be as you think. Life isn't like the movies!
Aren't there any single men in the your area to date? As you stated you dated a real jackass, but that is only one person. Is it the type of personality you are attracted to? I have a friend who only likes guys that like to party. What does that get her? Men who party all of the time and don't take care of their responsibilities. You may have to evaluate your criteria.
Good Luck.
2006-11-06 11:03:04 · answer #3 · answered by Joe S 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight? You've dated lots of losers and now you want to search out another loser to hang your star on???? Do you have any idea how ridiculous that is???
1. Groom immaculately
2. Help someone every day
3. Visit the library 1 hour each day
4. Visit the gym 1 hour every day
5. Sign up for group dance lessons
Good Luck
2006-11-06 10:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by snvffy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the faith. There's someboby out there for you. The old boyfriend sounds like he developed into a loser, so I'd forget him. Try something like church socials, mixer parties, etc. You'll do OK
2006-11-06 10:47:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just call him if you can and ask if we can meet downtown over a cup of coffee. No desperation here
2006-11-06 10:43:13 · answer #6 · answered by R C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are so many men out there...just keep looking! Maybe go to one of those dating sites...
2006-11-06 10:41:41 · answer #7 · answered by LeeLynn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a keeper. I think they have those websites setup so you can write to convicts.
2006-11-06 10:43:20 · answer #8 · answered by Abu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go...meet him,talk to him,,maybe he would also have same feelings for you.Good luck.
2006-11-06 10:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by bhupesh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋