We were together for 6 months, I was starting to doubt whether we had anything in common and if we should stay together--only because I am afraid to get close to ppl. He said the best things in life included the most risk and, if I could let my guard down and commit, the benefits from it would be endless. He went to a party and girl came onto him and they ended up kissing, but then he pushed her off. He said he afraid of losing me and thought this was going to be our final fight. He said he loved me and knew he didn’t deserve me/ took me for granted, he regretted kissing her. I said I could forgive him because I loved him but I kept bringing it up and it hurt our relationship. We spent too much time with each other and, when we weren’t together, I always worried where he was and who he was with. He dumped me saying he didn't see it as long term anymore and he didnt think he loved me as much. A month went by,he says he has realized he still does love me.
2006-11-06 02:27:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he said me misses me and it was stupid for him to break up with me when we were having problems and he wasnt sure he wanted to wait to earn back my trust but now he says it is worth waiting for. He says he realizes our problems now--like we spent too much time together and didn't have our own lives. He said he still loves me so much and he is sorry it took him a month to realize what he had done. He said all the stuff about how he didn't see our relationship as long term anymore and that our personalities didn't mesh when we broke up wasn't true and this past month he kept trying to convince himself that that was the case but he knows now it wasnt and he still loves me and he regts hurting me. I really want to be with him but I am so afraid of getting hurt but I still love him even after a month and I don't know if I should go back to him now that I have a different outlook on everything and how we can fix what was wrong in our relationship.
2006-11-06 02:33:49 · update #1
We were at a party the other night and he said he didn't want to dance with anyone else and it was so weird and that he just wanted to be with me and that it felt so right and he hadn't been with anyone since we broke up.
2006-11-06 02:35:10 · update #2
I feel as if as long as this "break" of a month was and as much as I hate to say it that maybe this month apart was what it took for him to realize how much I meant to him and he even said that I can take time to think about it and if I choose not to be with him he said he would be upset but that he would understand completely since I didn't want to risk being hurt and because of how he regrettably hurt me before. We kissed and hooked up a bit since we talked about this all and he still feels the same way and doesn't think of what we did as just a "hook up between exes" because he said he didn't want that when we broke up and would never do it so maybe it does mean something to him and I mean something to him. He says he sees it as a long term relationship. When we talked today about when we would see each other and if he would sleep over again he said maybe I shouldn't sleep over every night like I used to because that caused a lot of problems when we always were with each other.
2006-11-06 02:40:04 · update #3
he suggested sleeping over every other night because he doesn't want to make the same mistakes and mess things up again.....
2006-11-06 02:40:36 · update #4
The month off has given both of us time to realize what went wrong and I almost think we honestly can work it out. I have forgiven it all and I think we can move past everything and start a new slate. Is that possible?
2006-11-06 02:41:59 · update #5
PS-this past month we had hung out a few times as friends since thats what he said he wanted to be when we broke up but he said this past wknd that every time we saw each other he realized how hard it was to just be friends but he kept trying to tell himself he could but he realizes now he was just scared and now he knows we need to communicate when we have problems, etc. and that he doesnt want to just be friends with me like he said he wanted to be but was just saying that to convince himself.
2006-11-06 02:46:40 · update #6
"if you love someone set them free, if they come back it was meant to be.”--do you think this could be applied in my case? we both know what we want in a relationship and what we can't do to cause problems from what we learned about our relationship.
2006-11-06 02:54:13 · update #7
Show him how much you love him by getting a tattoo! Have the word welcome put across your forehead. That way he won't forget that you are a doormat.
2006-11-06 03:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Bob 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you're not comfortable with him in this relationship, if he's not someone you can be yourself with, don't stay with him. If it's more fighting and arguing that anything else it's not worth it. Try to truly forgive him, if you can it will make you much happier, if you're not willing to forgive him then you're not willing to make commitments in the future.
Some time apart may help you both to realize what you mean to eachother. But be sure to talk about everything and be open with your feelings for him.
2006-11-06 10:34:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, it sounds that you deseperatly want him back but he broke your trust and regardless of what you write now....you will never be able to completely trust him again. You might think that you can but from my personal experience, it is not possible. He thinks that by being so understanding towards and giving you all this attention that he can get you back but I wouldn't fall fo it if I were you. He did it once and will do it again sooner or later. If you get back with him now he will think that he can get away with cheating because you took him back.
2006-11-06 11:37:50 · answer #3 · answered by Jennifer W 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't know what he wants. He's insecure .. don't let him drag you down. I'm pretty sure you deserve better than him. He already cheated on you once by kissing this girl. Don't let him hurt you again ... there are plenty of guys out there. Good Luck!
2006-11-06 10:32:10 · answer #4 · answered by Guagui 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want to live your life worrying about what he is going to do when he is out of your sight? If you can't get past what he did, and can't stop bringing it up your doomed anyway.
2006-11-06 10:37:23 · answer #5 · answered by herronjennifer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he did it once he'll do it again. Dump him and look for someone else. I know it's easier said than done but you deserve better than that.
2006-11-06 10:31:37 · answer #6 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he likes having the fact that you are wrapped around his finger
2006-11-06 10:32:03 · answer #7 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick him to the curb....you deserve better....you will get someone better....dont worry!!
2006-11-06 10:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by supergirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋