well it is more than just me and him.i have a girlfrind too.im bi.he knows we are goin out and stuff so it is like a triangle.we are all going out with eachother.she has had sex with him already and im woried if i dont have sex with hiim soon he will leve me for her.she is 15.i like him alot and im still a virgine.what should i do????
2006-11-06 02:25:39 · 15 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think there are many obvious risks to having sex that you need to consider- like unplanned pregnancy and the potential to become infected with a curable- or permanent STD.
AT 14, howveer, there are other risks to having sex that are a lot more subtle.
You may become isolated from your friends, you may be having sex for the wrong reasons (because of peer pressure- not because you are in a loving, trusting relationship), you may grow apart from your parents, you may get distracted from school and your grades may suffer, you may develop a low self-esteem.
If you are in a loving, honest relationship with a partner- or partners- who is concerned about your health and well-being- then you may decide it is time to have sex. But if you are unsure, or if you have doubts- then you may want to wait until you feel ready. Sex is something you can enjoy your entire life- dont rush into it for the wrong reasons.
Anyone who pressures you doesn't really care about you.
2006-11-06 02:30:09 · answer #1 · answered by Jemima 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First you need to learn how to spell.
Then you can think about it. If I were you I would just tell him how you feel about the subject. Usually asking other peoples advice on serious issues like sex and the like, doesnt give you the right answers for YOU.
But if you really want my advice, I cant believe that youre actually having a triangle with him! I mean seriously... thats just a buttered-up version of cheating! Youre basically giving him permission to cheat on you with her, and how many other girls out there that you dont even know about...
If I were you, Id tell him to go screw off and get into a better relationship. WIth ONE person.
xx
2006-11-06 02:37:14 · answer #2 · answered by Emerence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not do it! You are not 100% sure you want to! When you have sex for the first time, you're emotions will get all messed up and you will become attached. It's natural with women. And if you are bi, then you aren't even sure if you should with a man or a woman, so wait a while, and if your bf "leaves" you for your girlfriend, give them both up and let them be low lives together. If you don't want to have sex and they want to leave you because of that, it's their loss. And you won't lose anything, including your valuable virginity.
2006-11-06 02:31:42 · answer #3 · answered by hisbebe821 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom you are having all these feelings for guys and girls. That is A LOT for a young person to handle. Hormones are flying all over the place with you and you need some help in controling this issue. One thing I will say though, is until you feel 110% comfortable with having sex with ANYONE, don't do it. You will regret it for the rest of your life, and believe me it isn't worth losing this boy over.
2006-11-06 02:36:54 · answer #4 · answered by Corona 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No don't, please dont, sweety you need to have sex with a person that its in a commited realationship with you, what happends if you end up gething pregnet ? your just goin to go and have an abortion...? you know how much that affects your life ? it completly changes you. Either way, if you sleep with him or don't believe me he is not taking neither one of you or that other girl seriosly. He's just messing with you both, and its not goin to last and he probobly thinks you both are good jump offz at the moment him being in H.S., remeber, it only has to happend once and it something that you can't get back ( virginity ) don't do it, its not worth you doin it with him, he doesnt deserve to be your first at all.
2006-11-06 02:31:31 · answer #5 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're 14 years old!!! The answer simple..."NO!!!" Don't have sex with anybody yet. Guys are always going to want sex from you. That's a fact of life but they have to wait to till you you grow up first atleast. Even porn stars don't have sex till 17 years old. Just wait and when you're ready you'll have a line of men waiting to show you the ropes.
2006-11-06 02:34:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-03 08:24:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't have sex before you are ready, you will regret it. Don't have sex because you are afraid a guy will leave you. If he leaves you because of that he is definitely not worth the trouble. A real friend will love you no matter what...you have plenty of time and many relationships ahead of you, don't compromise yourself because of fear.
2006-11-06 02:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by noambition 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no offense to you but....if you dont know how to spell yet then you are really not ready for sex!! besides are you ready for a baby? just because you use a condom doesnt mean that condom cant bust....your young and if you have sex just because the other girl has then your stupid just like she is!....stick with being a virgin! and make sure that when you do have sex its with someone you love and cant see yourself being without them!
2006-11-06 02:30:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At 14 years old you'll be sorry that you lost your virginity over a scare tactic and I'd be willing to bet that you would regret it later on.
2006-11-06 02:31:36 · answer #10 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋