Whats too much too fast?

Question

Ok serious question here. I was one of those guys brainwashed into being classy towards a woman. I know the mistakes in the past by bringing flowers to the girl on the first date anda ll and takeing her to very nice places right away, but let me ask what is doing too much or going overboard too soon?

Answer 1

That's how I started out. You're going to end up buying her expensive purses, then expensive jewelry from Tiffanys, then she'll want a Mercedes.

Answer 2

What is wrong with bringing flowers to her on the first date???? and/or taking her to nice places?? Unless you are trying to pretend to be someone you are not or unless you don't really have the money to be doing those things. Do not put yourself in a financial bind for a first date, do what you can afford. If by doing these things you are expecting more physical on the first date then I would say this is wrong. Maybe you should be more careful about the girls you pick to go out on dates with. What you have mentioned above is not overboard for me or any of my friends. If it seems overboard for you why don't you try doing a lunch or coffee date first, then if you "hit" it off and feel the emotional contact is there then do the flowers and dinner thing... I hope this helped.

Answer 3

I think men mistake woman's idea's of romance. You have have romance without racking up the credit card bill.

A date once a week at most is fine for about a month or so. Then you up it. If a guy was all up in my business, every three or four hours I would start to feel sufficated.

Answer 4

It is always best to start out slowly and more casually. If you show up for your first date with china patterns and a list of potential names for your offspring you are likely to send her running for the hills. Focus, certainly at the early stages, on having low pressure fun. Strive to make her feel comfortable and desired, but not in a "file a restraining order" way.

Answer 5

You have to understand that most women in this day and age assume and accept that chivalry is dead. It's not you, its them, and you should find a woman to appreciate the nice things you do. Don't change a thing. You're fine how you are, you may just be picking the wrong women.

Answer 6

Its always good to let the girl know you like her but showing eagerness too soon will kill things. If your ready to change your entire life for her the first week or two its too soon. Like I used to go out on dates with guys who never went to a gym. As soon as they would find out I worked out they were talking about joining a gym in the first week or two of meeting me. Its too soon.

Answer 7

well too much overboard what ever u call it, its just by u doing those things, just be urself, i mean u have to do chocolates, flowers, and stuff, just be there for her, tell her u love her, show her u care and take care of her vise versa, for me my husband too this day never got me chocolates, flowers, gifts, he does it when he needs to not cuz im expecting it from him hope this helps

Answer 8

I happen to think those are all nice things that you have done in the past and there is nothing wrong with it. Continue!

Answer 9

You shouldn't shower her with gifts all the time. Do simple things like walks in the park to see if she appreciates you. Then you can determine if she's a golddigger...

Answer 10

If i were single,i would love that! Sex is so ingrained in us now,that we've all became sl*ts,with no dating and romance skills. Believe me, there are still women that would love to have romance in their lives!