We have been dating for a little over a year & have been really good friends for maybe a year before that. I have always been head over heels for him & Im crazy about him. But whenever we get into an argument, its always about the same thing & I just dont know if I should continue trying to fix things b/c it doesnt seem like its getting fixed. He never really tells me how he feels unless I ask him (if Im having a bad day or something, its just nice to hear, ya know?). He doesnt have a job right now, & I have been working full time for 3 years (Im 21, hes 24), he still lives at home, which Im 95% okay with, but I feel terrible for his mom b/c she is always doing the cooking, cleaning, mowing the lawn, etc! I just feel like if he is that way not, what if we end up getting serious or getting married? Is he going to grow out of the habit of letting the woman take care of everything? He had a job for a couple months out of the year & a half hes been out of school. (Graduated)
2006-11-06 02:13:51 · 3 answers · asked by hisbebe821 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But it's not like he doesn't have money, he was very good about saving and everything. I just don't know if it's me thinking too into everything and I do know that I have a little bit of a commitment phobia because of what I have seen and grown up with. He said that since we have been dating for this long he doesn't think we need to see each other everyday and we never really did in the first place. So my automatic reaction is that we're growing apart because as you continue dating you grow closer and spend more time with each other, right? And I mean, he is willing to try and to tell you the truth I was getting bored so we made the agreement to have a date night every week and do something different. I don't know what to do, I really really care and love this guy. I want to be with him, but I don't know if I should.
2006-11-06 02:17:10 · update #1
If you have doubts then you probably shouldn't be with him. Just the fact that he has worked only 2 months out of the 1 1/2 years since graduation tells me he isn't very serious about his own life and expects mom or you to take care of him and his every need.
To me he sounds like what is known as a "mama's boy". A "mama's boy" never grows up and will always expect the woman to do everything for him, hence the way he treats his mom. Most likely he will treat you the same way.
Your guy living at home with mom isn't a bad thing but his not helping her is. I'm grown and still live at home with dad and sister. In my case I work full time, do my own cleaning & laundry, pay my own bills, and help with household expenses. I also help dad with car repairs, house repairs, and yardwork (although he usually doesn't want my help).
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2016-12-28 14:22:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is lazy with his mother ....he will be lazier with you......
Judge a man on how he treats his mom
2006-11-06 02:16:13 · answer #3 · answered by Dave S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋