2006-11-06 02:01:40 · 62 answers · asked by Artsy 1 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
This is what you need to always remember and think about... If you hav to ask than more than likely you doubt something. If you have to ask about whether you are in love or not than you are not. If you are in love than no-one or nothing else matters but you and your mate. LL.
2006-11-06 02:06:45 · answer #1 · answered by italliansweety67 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I knew I wanted to marry my fiance after six months but we had already been through a lot together. We waited until we were together a year and then he proposed. We are getting married Feb 08, which is approx. 15 months of being engaged. It's different for everyone. I am 25 years old (soon to be 26) and have dated a bunch of guys. He's 24 (soon to be 25) and he has date a bunch of girls. We know that we are the best thing that has happened to each other. I never thought life could be this sweet. I was the girl that loved to be single and then I met him and he rocked my world. If two people are ready for that step then 6 months isn't an issue. I would do the long engagement (a year or more) just to get more life experience under your belt. You two will grow alot together in that time. Just make sure you don't rush anything. Being together as boyfriend/girlfriend, then engaged and finally married has lots to offer so don't try to skip ahead to quickly. Best of luck to you and yours.
2006-11-06 04:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by sarahalyse 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think becoming engaged after 6 months is fine. I would suggest at lease one year of engagement. This will give you adequate time to plan and also more time to get to know eachother in what will at times be stressful. Yes, planning a wedding can get stressful. Remember one thing, until you have actually gone through the ceremony it's never too late to postpone or cancel. Make sure you are passionate about this man. And never forsake the passion.
2006-11-09 12:07:16 · answer #3 · answered by z_guitar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no "magic number" to tell you it's time to get married after you've started dating. Each relationship is different.
Are you in love (put the other first, complete's your life, makes you want to be a better person) or are you in lust (ohh, he's hot and makes my hormones jump)? Are you ready to stick with this person til you're old and gray or one of you dies? Are you on the same page as to children, working, finances, etc.?
Marriage is a big committment and shouldn't be entered into lightly and most definitely shouldn't be looked at - if it doesn't work we can get a divorce. You should go into marriage as an until death committment.
I agreed to marry my husband after 3 months and the engagement was a year and a bit.
I'd suggest you go through pre-marital counselling.
Good luck.
2006-11-06 02:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by parsonsel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Babe,
It is definitely toooo early.
My advise- live together first. (Depending on your age of course). I've known many people who after living together decided that they can't stand each other. It is totally different being with someone and living with someone. You will see that your partner don't look 'good' 24/7. He or she might have a habit which you can't stand and the list will go on.
But if living together before marriage is out of the question, then do try to give yourself and the relationship more time. It is not easy to tell if the person is really the one. I mean, if you guys are meant to be, whats waiting for 6 more months? You will have a whole lifetime ahead of you!
Don't rush. You will 'know' it when the time is right.
2006-11-07 14:20:22 · answer #5 · answered by Sofi 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got engaged after 4 months of dating my now husband. We planned our wedding and so we were actually together a little over a year before our wedding day. Things have been great and I have never been happier! Do what feels right for you. Your heart will let you know if it is wrong or not so listen to it.
2006-11-06 02:22:03 · answer #6 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 months of relationship and you are engaged. Now you plan to get marry. Hey! This is none other than an express marriage. A marriage prompted by romantical love!!!
How much do you know each other inside out? Six months, may be sufficient for you to know some of the superficial side of each other, but do you truly know all of your individual differences, like background, strength, weaknessess, habits, true personality and character, interest, expectation and etc? Are both of you mature enough or have the ability to manage your marriage and family life together?
I believe it takes time for two people to know each other well to mature in their relationship. There are many reasons why marriage fail, like adultery, money issue, violence, in-laws...etc. And usually these problems have its root causes that spring out from the failure to understand marriage, communication problem, unrealistic expectation or unable to accept one another differences...etc.
Unless, both of you are genius or are able to deal with all the differences after marriage, then no problem to get marry. But are both of you ready? It will be helpful if you seek counselor for your marriage. Wish you all the best!!
2006-11-09 18:32:51 · answer #7 · answered by AH HA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My dear, only you know when you are ready. Love and commitment is different for everyone. My boyfriend and i have been together for 6 months, and we believe we are ready to get married. I know a lot of people that got engaged after such a short period of time, and have been married for years and years and years, and i know people that we together for a really long time, and then got engaged, and had their marriage fail. Its really not about your age, or how long you've been together, its about how you feel about your partner, and whether or not you are committed to being with that person for the rest of your life. Although i definitely suggest some premarital counselling and discussing goals, values, etc. I hope I was of some help! Good luck!
2006-11-06 02:29:34 · answer #8 · answered by Summer S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is. You barely know him, no matter how much you feel you love him. Go through at least another six months before becoming engaged. It's always best to go through all the seasons, all the holidays, all the things that happen in a year to see how you mesh, how you both handle families, etc. Then don't get married for another year. Anything good is worth waiting for.....
2006-11-06 06:37:49 · answer #9 · answered by Lydia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hermi, it depends. What have you two done together, experience together? ... Remember, you don't want to marry a good PLAYmate, you need a good WORKmate too. (It's easier to get along with people at Six Flags than at work.)
Take on some long range task (at least 6 months) that requires a lot of unpleasant effort, that involves close cooperation, deadlines, and financial decisions. If, at the successful completion of the task, you still want to spend the rest of your life with this person, THEN it's time to start planning your future together.
HINT: a volunteer organization might be a good venue for your project
good luck!
2006-11-06 04:20:44 · answer #10 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think so. If your in love and you feel the person is mature enough to get married, then go for it. Life is short but love is sweet and marriage is a wonderful thing. Weddings also take time to plan so it might be up to a whole year before you actually get married.
2006-11-10 01:06:12 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋