How do I tell my mother & father I love them?

Question

My parent we always great to me we were like a normal affectinate family. But around the age of 12 i stopped hugging my mother & father and didnt tell them how much I adore both of them.

Now im in my early 30's and my parents aren't getting any younger if you know what i mean.

I don't know why but its too hard for me to tell them how much i appreciate my upbrining and that I love them. Its like feel very uncomfortable and awkward about it.

Just so you all know, I have never been:
. beaten
. molested
or uncared for.

Please help me, seriously need good advise before its too late.

This Is going to be tough choosing the best answer . I thought you were all honest and gave great encouragment.

I think i will leave it to a vote.

Thanks everyone, i will keep you posted on how things go at home.

Answer 1

Just start telling them! Like before you hang up the phone. When they do something that makes you smile.
Once you start saying it, they will too and it is sure nice to hear! Both ways.

Answer 2

My brother apparently wrote them a very moving letter saying those things, since it was easier to type it down and edit it to sound just right. He was also able to list every item to which he was thankful for in his childhood. It was also beneficial because he was off in college out of state, and we rarely see each other as a family. My father was never one good with emotions either and my mother never really talked about serious issues other than that we were killing her for not getting good grades in high school.

As a mother now, though, I can tell you that I'd probably never turn away a hug from my children, and it always warms my heart when they say "I love you"

Unless there's something else here that you're not saying here, you shouldn't feel bad about expressing your feelings to your parents. The easiest way is just to give them a hug and say "I love you, and thanks for raising me" And you're right, you should do it as soon as possible. Life is uncertain and there's no telling if someone is going to get hit by a bus tomorrow.

Like you, everyone kind of got standoffish during the teen years and in high school. For us, my brother just started hugging everyone unexpectedly when he visited home from college. But once the trend was broken, there have been hugs and kisses all around, just like when we were 12. It feels good

Answer 3

Why not just go up to each one and put your arms around them one at a time and say to each that you miss giving them the hugs and kisses that you had shared when you were younger and now you wish to make up for them starting now.
Your parents might be missing those hugs and kisses, so any hug and or kiss that you would give each of them will truly make their day.
They will know that their daughter is still the sweetest daughter that anyone could ever have and they know that you do love them both too.
One big hug and a kiss on the cheek will be the best gift you could ever give your parents and do it before as you say it's to late.
Best to you and your parents who have raised a good daughter for having a wonderful heart. And remember to tell them both just how much you love them too. Parents love to know that their children do love them and hearing it from you after such a long time will mean more then you could ever know.
Go to your parents the first chance you get and tell them of your love for them and show them with a hug and kiss on the cheek too.

Answer 4

it happen's just be normal when with parents try to filll ur thoughts with some other good and creative ideas
watch some cartoons
try to crack some joke ofently
share some funny thoughts and talks
do some comedy become a child and
try to give a hug sometimes
appreciate them with a smile and normally
it's all u have to do
well it's all about emotions and love
the more u suppress the more it will be volcanic

Answer 5

You know what Mom & Dad? I've always had a hard time saying how I really feel about things, and the love I feel for the two of you, is probably one of the biggest ones. I love you guys, and just in case you didn't know because I don't verbalize it, I love you "a lot!" You're always in my thoughts, forever in my prayers.

Answer 6

Please do not harm yourself. You might be surprised at the number of people who love you. A number of factors could be involved. For one thing, we live in “critical times hard to deal with,” and many adolescents feel the pressures of life with great intensity. In fact, youths can be profoundly affected by negative thoughts and events. If you yourself have had thoughts of ending it all? DON'T KEEP YOUR FEELINGS TO YOURSELF. TALK TO SOMEONE—a parent, a friend, or anyone else who cares and who will listen to your concerns and take you seriously. You have nothing to lose—and everything to gain—by talking out your problems.* This is very important! Granted, your problems won’t disappear just because you’re talking them out. But the support of a trusted confidant may be just what you need to put your situation in perspective. It may even help you to work out some practical solutions. Things Change: When undergoing distress, remember this: No matter how dire a situation may seem, in time things will change.Please be patient. Things change, often for the better. In some cases, problems might be alleviated in ways that you couldn’t have predicted. In other cases, you may discover a way of coping that you hadn’t considered. The Value of Prayer: The most important form of communication you can have is prayer. Prayer is not a mere crutch. It is real communication with your heavenly Father, who wants you to “pour out your heart” to him. (Psalm 62:8) Consider the following basic truths about God: ● He is aware of the circumstances that contribute to your distress.—Psalm 103:14. ● He knows you better than you know yourself.—1 John 3:20. ● “He cares for you.”—1 Peter 5:7. ● In his new world, God will “wipe out every tear” from your eyes.—Revelation 21:4. Your parents want to know everything about your life—even some things you’d like to keep to yourself. It is important to note, however, that most youths do not commit suicide. When you feel down, take a brisk walk. Getting outside and engaging in exercise can produce a sense of calm and well-being. “At times, my depression was so intense that I just wanted to die, but now I have my life together again, thanks to persevering in prayer and receiving treatment.”—Heidi In many cases, the situation eventually changed for the better—and in a way that the sufferer could not have foreseen. Be assured that the same can be true for you!

Answer 7

sometimes it's hard to show love to our families - we just take it forgranted that they know we love (and, truthfully, they do). but, i understand your feelings - instead of justing thinking of what YOU should do why not think of how you would want your child (if you have one or just imagine how you would want your child to treat you) in your life. we all want love, and i'm sure your family would welcome the long lost words, even though they know you care so much for them. don't make it a problem in your mind, listen to your heart and just open your heart and mouth to them. the hugs will then come so easy. it will be the best present you'll ever give them. good luck.

Answer 8

they are your mum and dad, You stopped cuddling them, not the other way around. if you went up and cuddled them i can assure you they wont push you away or anything, they are just waiting for You to cuddle them. they probably dont know how you would have reacted if they cuddled you so they just didnt!

dont not cuddle and say how much you love them just coz you feel awkward,..you never know what can happen!
just say can i give you a cuddle? they WILL say yes as you are still their baby and always will be then say i love you when you are cuddling if you cant say it to their faces at first.

Good Luck

Answer 9

Send a Card of appreciation for all they have done for you threw out your life and tell them you love them and it was important to let them know that before you forgot. Its easy in a card or letter because once you send it its out of your hands do it before you can't. Regret is worse than anything.
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Answer 10

Just go up to them and give them a big hug and the rest will come naturally