I have a friend who's always pushing her religion. She's ask me numerous times if I got to church and knows I don't. Then, yesterday after telling me her daughter was dedicated to the church asked what I do on Sundays...
I wish she would bugger off with this...I don't go to church. I am smart enough to think for myself on how to be a good person. It's so annoying feeling like you are judged because you don't follow the sheep...ba! ba!
2006-11-06 01:50:06 · 17 answers · asked by Miel 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I know how you feel. Since when does church=good person. Hello?!?!?! Just because one attends church doesn't make them a "saint". I mean look at the high church officals who are turning out to be child molesters! Are they still "good" people b/c they are in a church. C'mon. Give me a break!
2006-11-06 02:06:37 · answer #1 · answered by mkupgrl0015 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
,Some don't know the difference in an invitation.I too have been placed under this same uncomfortable force. and if the invitee would take a moment to realize they are forcing because they have not learned patience.I had an invitation given to me a few years prier to me actually going to the church. The time was right for me to receive the message. But when the invitation feels forced it just delayed the possible acceptance. My advice. keep doing what you are and after all the invitations have passed. You choose the time and the topic. Guilt is not a good motivation for anyone with free will.
2006-11-06 10:04:21 · answer #2 · answered by Conway 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to your friend that Sunday is your day to contemplate what happened during the week and how you can make your life better for the following week. Tell her that God speaks to you during this time of meditation and that no church was able to give you this kind of communication . Then ask her to stop talking to you about her faith as you feel you dont push your faith on her. These statements may or may not be true but it should tell her that you have a belief and you are satisfied with your life. I dont know how you feel about God but that is just a way to stop her from believing that you dont have a God in your life. I prefer the words "a higher power" but that often just keeps Christains rolling on the conversion thing so I use their word "god." This has worked for me.
2006-11-06 10:03:49 · answer #3 · answered by juncogirl3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! What is something that interests you that does not interest her? Ask her every time about that...
And if she asks what you do on Sundays could there be the remote chance she just can not fathom her life not revolving around church and honestly wonders what you do?
My sister-in-law used to always ask and I think she just tired of it. She even told me that my kids will suffer because they do not go to church. Sadly, she thinks they are better than us because they go and yet every one else in the family has told us they would much rather have our kids at their house than the other kids.
2006-11-06 10:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by Lily 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe (and I am not being condensending here) she considers you such a good friend that she is worried about you...Even though you have no interest in going, one of the lessons taught by the Bible is to try to bring those who are "not saved" to the Lord. While I agree that she may be pushing to hard, she may truly have good intentions. Perhaps next time when she brings it up, you could say in a friendly way, "Look, I am not really ready for that in my life. I appreciate your concern for me. If and when I become ready you will be the first person who knows." She probably will understand, and if she is a Christian, she will still continue to pray for you anyway....Good luck to you, and remember that friendship is give and take!!!
2006-11-06 10:02:55 · answer #5 · answered by help4you 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
When she asks you questions that you know she already has the answer to, or that she has continued to ask before: look her in the eye and say "what?", as if you didn't hear her. She will then repeat it. Repeat "what?". Then, when she repeats herself for the third time, say- in a dissinterested tone, "oh, that's what I thought you said", and then either walk away, or change the subject, without acknowledging her question further.
I have used this method in the past and it does work. Good luck to you.
2006-11-06 09:57:34 · answer #6 · answered by jmiller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a man ask me directions to the local Catholic Church. I told I didn't know where it was and he told me I should because it's the biggest Catholic Church in the area. I just shook my head and walked away. The funniest thing was I was wearing my large Goddess pendant at the time.
2006-11-06 09:54:17 · answer #7 · answered by arcanehex 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
in the first place .if she new what she was doing she would realize that when she keeps pushing you shes pushing you away.and also tell her that church is suppose to be on Saturday not Sunday .Sunday is a man made sabbath.
2006-11-06 09:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by bassetluv 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So spell it out for her like you did for us. Tell her that you would enjoy her friendship alot more if she wasn't trying to shove her church at you. It's not like you're trying to get her to join your Martini and sex orgy on Sunday morning (just kidding).
2006-11-06 09:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by workingclasshero 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her that you value her friendship but you take offence to her pushing her religious beliefs on you. She needs to know you will not change your beliefs and the more she pushes, the more you will retreat.
2006-11-06 10:48:10 · answer #10 · answered by corinne_29_ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋