tubes tied?

Question

I am due with my second child in March. We have decided this is the last child that we want. I am considering getting my tubes tied. I was just wanting some positive and negative feedback on this. A friend of mine said that all women that get this done have to have a hysterectomy within a few years. Since I am only 24 I really don't want to go thru all of that at such a young age. Also I was wondering if they can do this when you have the baby and if so will you be able to get up and move around as quickly as you would after having a baby anyway or would you have to stay in the bed longer? Please only serious answers! Thanks

Answer 1

I am 32 years old and had my tubes tied after the birth of my second child. I only ever wanted two children and I have one girl and one boy, what more could I ask for. I never thought that I would want another child.
My doctor made me wait after having my son to make sure it is what I wanted. I believe he told me that you could have it done during birth if you have a c section. Ask your dr. that.
Now I am divorced and I am dating a wonderful man who has no children and would like to. I also would love to have a child with him. Now the problem of trying to have a child. I have only spoken with my dr. a little regarding this but I was told that it can be reversed but the chances of getting pregnant are slim and if I did the chances of having a live child is only around 10%. They did say I could get pregnant just not the normal way.
It has been almost two years since I had my tubes tied and I have not had any problems.
My advice to you is not to do it. I really wish I did not do it. You never know what the future holds for you and you do not want to limit your options. You are still young and you may want more kids down the road, and if that happens you will be in the same boat I am in.

Hope this helps.

Answer 2

I too was considering having my tubes ties after This baby. ( It is my 4th baby) I spoke with my doctor about it and she told me that because I was so young (25) she would advise my hubby getting snipped. I asked why and she told me, in her experience, that when a women is younger than 28 the chances of still getting pregnant are pretty high due to the high fertility of a young women. She also said she wont do it in the hospital. You have to get it done at your 6 week check up. That means you heal from having your baby then have to heal all over again. My mom had her tubes tied and still hasn't had a hysterectomy. And that was 25 years ago. I would advise that you look into all types of sterilization if that is what you are sure you want to do. It is much easier for the man to get snipped. It is an outpatient thing. For a women it is a major surgery. Besides, like I tell my hubby, I went through all of these pregnancies for you, this is the least you can do. Good luck and I hope you find what will work best for you!

Answer 3

Getting your tubes tied is more expensive and attempts to reverse it are normally not successful and they're not covered by insurance. Plus it's not 1000% accurate. A ectopic pregnancy is possible, tho not common. I always thought of it this way; today you may feel as if you don't want any more children, but what about 3 years from now? What if, you lose a child? Or your child needs a donor? Or your marriage breaks up and your new SO desperately wants a child. All those are unthinkable, I know, but they do happen. Why do something so permanent. BTW, vasectomy's are done on an outpatient basis. 1-2-3. lol But, they do take up to 6 weeks to work. After having only one child and wanting more...and after watching my neice go thru the horrors of infertility and now adoption, I guess I'm against anything so permanent. But, it's not up to us; it's up to each couple to decide what is best for them. Edit: getting your tubes tied is NOT easily reveresed and if it is reversed, it only works a small percentage of the time. Plus it's $$ and NOT covered by insurance.

Answer 4

I had a hysterecctomy years ago because of pcod disease. It was wonderful for me because pcod is so painful I would throw up and be totally out of it with my monthly.Don't be afraid of the pain of it the laser surgery is so painless I didn't feel enough pain to let my insides heal. So please take it easy the time the Dr. says.As to your age the Dr. should help you make that choice. My tubal was done in the hospital after my 2nd child but I was 29 and I had a boy and a girl so my Dr. decided it was the right choice for me.However taking a hormone pill every day for the rest of your life is not my choice. Good luck with your choice. The pain free time monthly was great but I do understand their are risk. It was the right choice for me. I think the Dr. wants to wait until you are a certain age and you have both a boy and a girl. I hope I helped. It has been wonderderful without the monthly visitor however the risk are a trade off. The choice should be between you and your Dr.As for staying in the bed longer, I didn't and the Dr. said right after having a child the surgery was easier because your insides are in a bettter spot to get to, but it.s certainly not the only thing to consider. Let your Dr. decide about the risk.They had me up walking before leaving the hospital but no heavy lifting for a few weeks. The baby is not to heavy so I was able to take care of my newborn.I hope I have helped answer your question even though you are 5 years younger than I was. Good luck this is a tough decision. aunt reesy

Answer 5

There are so many women that get this done and then regret it. Remember your baby grows up fast and then down the road you can't take back what you have done. You are only 24. So think about this. What happens it you husband would pass away in 5 yrs and you then meet a really awesome guy and he wants children of his own too. OR 5-10 yrs down the road you and your husband want to experience having another baby. Lots of women say well I am done, I don't ever want to do this again, I don't want more than 2 children, and guess what they all wanted more later. This is the same for my mom. She got hers done after two children and remarried, then he wanted a child because he never had one. Lucky the reversal worked, that's not always the case. She then went through a hysterectomy because of early menopause. Another thing to think about is what if something would happen to one of your children. Then you couldn't have another to help with grieving. I hope I am helping by telling you somethings that could happen and do happen to people. It is all apart of are lives. Well good luck on the birth of your second child. Hope you make a decision that you are happy with for the rest of your life.

Answer 6

ive got my tubes tied with 22 after my second child. I cant tell you about the procedures in the USA, but that you have to go trough an hysterectomy is a tale. I am 34 now and had never any trouble with it. You still have your normal cycles and of course pms and all that crapp ;-(
it is however easier for the man to get cut and in case you decide to have a baby again in 10 years or so (its a long time sweetheart and you are very young) it is also easier to reverse the guy and almost impossible to reverse the woman.
Hope this helps

Answer 7

I've never heard of anyone needing a hyterectomy after getting their tubes tied. I just had a baby in October and got my tubes tied at the same time but I had a c-section so I didn't have to have any additional procedures. You are still young and you only have two children, and because this is an irreversable decision I would wait awhile and use other ways of protection. Many doctors won't even do it unless you are at a certain age or have had many children. Good Luck!

Answer 8

I had my tubes tied at age 23 after my 3rd child, I was asked all the ?'s about why I wanted it done, and was given the well you are really young lecture, you may change your mind....My dr even posed the what happens if you lose your current children in an accident, would you want more--I have to tell you that ? threw me--but honestly I wouldn't want to have a child to "replace" another child. I am 31 now, have not had to have a hysterectomy. I did have to wait until my 6 week check up to have the procedure done (my last child was delivered in a Catholic hospital and they are against sterilizations unless your life hangs in the balance)--I had a lot of pain, and am grateful to whoever made Vicodin recovering from my tubal was worse than anything I ever went through. I had all three of my kids natural, sp healing after their deliveries was easy compared to what I hear in regards to c-section deliveries. I will tell you about 2yrs ago, I started to have thoughts on having a 4th child but, all it took was me babysitting my new nephew (a newborn) to cure me of that notion--because at the time my youngest was 6 and I was done with midnight feedings, diapers, formula, sore breasts, no sleep and taking my 2month old nephew for the night reminded me of one of the bigger reasons that I didn't want anymore kids.--Hope this helps

Answer 9

well I can say that I have had my tubes tied. After our fourth we decided it was best for our family. The only strain is that I have severe cramping and longer periods....I haven't heard of the hysterectomy part....sounds goofy to me...your 24? I think the doctor that delivers your next child may ask you if your 100% sure you want to do this......good luck:) my surgery was done the very next day and it was painful and I was sore for a few days after...I had all of my children naturally so I don't know what a c section feels like, but if you have a c section, I think they perform the tubal ligation at the moment after they take the baby out....

Answer 10

I asked the same thing because of my age. I am due in Jan. with my first child but I am 35. I am still not sure if I should do it or not. I am thinking I probably won't because you just never know how you will feel in a couple of years.