Judging from the many questions teens ask about sex /dating, is this proof that there is a lack of parenting?

Question

In the Singles and dating section, I notice that many teenagers and preteens, some as young as 12 or 13 years old, ask many questions about sex and relationships and drugs. Many of them are questions that they should be asking their parents or a guardian, or even a teacher.
Is this proof that parents dont spend enough time teaching their kids about these things? I for one would be concerned if i had a teen daughter who was asking questions about sex and dating. But that would never happen to her, because she would be able to tell me all of these things instead of going to Yahoo.
I dont have kids yet though.

Answer 1

Like I said, if I found my kids asking questions like that here, I'm pulling the ethernet cord out of the f*cking wall.

I think yahoo is trying to censor the answers section, but they really need to seperate sites, one for kids, and one for adults 18 and up.

Answer 2

Why do we insist on giving Mexico a break on not having the proper paperwork. Just like everyone else that comes here for a better life they should be held to the same standards. When we travel to other countries we have to have our passport with us to enter that country. If we are going to have laws then we should abide by them and stop letting illegals enter our country without the correct paperwork. I am not against anyone from coming the the United States but our laws should be enforced. Part of the problem is, that we don't have secure borders and we hear it in the news all the time. I am sure everyone watches those shows about how many illegals they catch crossing the border everyday and the problems we are having with drugs getting across our border. Why not use the military more to guard our borders, isn't that one of the reason why we have a military to protect our nation? It seems we talk about this topic all the time but nothing is being done to prevent it. What are you candidants going to do different that every other president hasn't done? Who ever is elected we will still continue to have the same problems. So what is the point discussing it.

Answer 3

It's easy to make those comments when you don't have kids. Were you ever afraid/ nervous to discuss sex..or even anything else with your parents? what is the first thing they would do? Freak because they assume/think/now know, your having sex? mine would have. But they grew up in the '50's I hope my girls will be able to talk to me about those things when they are old enough, but unless you are the ONLY adult.....in her life she is going to ask a woman. It's nothing against you...they just feel more comfortable asking a female about female things...and from their point of view sex is a female thing for them. They feel they are giving something of themselves/their soul up once they start doing this. It's understandable being they must let someone not only enter into their body, but lose something they can never get back. It's difficult to talk about these things. There are going to be times between you and your kids, that will cause strife, and make them angry with you..they may not even know why, but it's times like that, that you need to establish what they will talk to you about, by how you react to things. More than likely, you will have to bring up sex to them. That's what you mean, you say?...NOBODY...or VERY few even connect or can even admit their children have sex..especially at that young of an age. I hope you have the kind of relationship with your kids you hope for...The rest of us wanted that too. All I'm saying is don't be too upset, or disappointed if it's not. because that is a very rare thing...no matter what TV or politicians or the media tell you. It doesn't make you a bad parent if they don't come to you with everything. What makes you a bad parent is if you don't try your best. Their hormones are crazy, they are trying to show independance, etc. It's a crazy time for them. I wish you the best of luck my friend.

Answer 4

lack of sex advice from parents might be more accurate. i had great parents growing up, both hard working providers, with a lot of love and quality time together. but they didnt teach me much about sex and relationships. that doesnt mean theyre bad parents and it doesnt mean that parents arent around. theres a lot of reasons why "good parents" never teach their kids about these things

i'd say the number 1 reason is fear. theyre afraid that telling their kids about sex is giving them a license to be promiscuous. the fact is that promiscuous kids are usually the ones that learn about sex from their friend's porn stash. another reason is that parents are over-protective and never see their child as grown-up enough to tell them about these things. some of them assume their children are virgins because they think their child would come to them about it, rather than they making the first move. also, sometime the parents just dont know, and has no advice to give. they might be in a relationship that they dont like, or may have been a single mother in no relationship at all, so how can they give advice that they dont know and dont live by?

this yahoo answers forum is pretty ingenious, and i give yahoo kudos for letting teens come here where they can get lots of answers about the topics they cant ask anywhere else, and judge the best ones themselves.

Answer 5

Teens having sex is so rampant today. Yes, there is a lack of child rearing today. Many parents are either to caught up in this worlds hustle and bustle, or both the parents work. Children are not being taken care of the right way. They look to the media and the world for answers. The parents need to really spend time with their kids. Set boundaries, and lesson the freedom they give. It really is better to protect the kids, then let them fend for themselves. This world has alot of predators out there. 12 and 13 years old is way to young to be having sex. I was still playing with Barbies at that age. What a difference today. Parents, please be a good example for these young ones, guard them. Teens are going through a tough time transitioning. The emotions are raging. They think it is love, but usually it is only lust. Many teens commit suicide or want to, because of the problems they are going through. Lets not lose any more, help our kids. Be there for them and love them. Parents it is our God given privilege to care for our children. Talking to them is a great thing. Get to know their friends, and teach them right from wrong. Our kids need to be kids, not miniature adults.

Answer 6

Well what a breath of fresh air, you are so right, if i were where you are I'd shake your hand, yes it does go to show a real lack of parenting, and it does seem like they are left to their own devices, i always believe any question my child comes to me with i will answer it the best i can and not skirt around, because the more proper knowledge a child has the better informed, and equipped they are, i always believe that knowledge is power anyway, and then there will be no need for these children to ask questions about sex, and dating, because they would have been informed....you sound like you will make a great daddy.

Answer 7

Most definately parental abligations and neglect. I know some parents can't muster the courage to openly discuss the issues being addressed. My 1st. wife suffered from the same concern. She was only taught from her mother that it was a dirty subject. If they don't get the right answers from their parents, the curiosity of natural feelings gets them into trouble. They're only going to do what nature intended unless the become educated about sexual matters. There's an awful lot of loose talk out there by their peirs. Consequently, to many early teen pregnancie and other related problems. Sound like you'll have a good handle on that when you have children to deal with. Open frankness is the best course for both trust, and safety! If you address the issues, instead of play dodge ball with them. They'll have much greater respect for you and your opinions!

Answer 8

you are so right. I know that when i was growing up, my mom told me every single thing there was to know. She was very blunt about everything too, and she wasnt afraid of informing me about her experiences with relationships, sex, dating, life period. She never had a problem letting me know anything. So, when i had a question, i just went to her and she would give me her best advice, sometimes it didnt work, but she always tried to help me.

These kids these days, dont know anything at all. I saw a question on here saying...i danced with this boy and kissed him, will i get pregnant? What the hell is that?

So, to answer you question, yes this is proof that parents do sit there kids down and let them know about life.

Answer 9

No, I think because now we are so open about sex and other adult issues that were tabu to talk about way back in the days doesn't mean there is a lack of parenting, i think it come's down to teenages feeling comfortable about asking and talking about these questions with their parents, which of course we all know we don't want to hear or know what our own parents get up to, i also think it is important for teenages to feel comfortable with whom they talk to about these question as it will help determine the choices they make later on in life!

Answer 10

It is true parents don't pay enough attention to their children, although to me this isn't something new. I am in my 30's and I never had "the talk" with my mom about sex. I found out about that from friends, movies and health class. I love my mom and she has been there for me whenever I needed her but my family was never a talking family. We didn't talk about things that were on our minds except for everyday happenings. I have a son that is five and I started early with letting him know he could come to me with anything he needed to, I don't want him to feel like he can't. My mom didn't work full-time until I was in high school, so she cannot blame the "I'm too busy" on lack of communication. I work 50 hrs a week and make time to sit and talk with my son. The house isn't always picked up, but my son is more important. People don't spend enough time in general with their children, when something bad happens, they only have themselves to blame...

Answer 11

I would say parents or guardians are more scared to talk to there kids about it. My parents where I would ask them questions about it at the age of 17 and 18 and rhey would say I to young or ignore me all together.

I was 20 and I knew nothing about anything even about monthly period I knew I was having one but I did not know why I finally had to ask a trusted friend and they told me everything I needed to know and gave my references to books that I could read.

I would diffentely tell my kids (when I have some) anything and everything they will want to know and probely some stuff they will not want to know.