I ended a relation with an ex-lover of almost 2 years a few months ago. We were never in a relationship and kept it strickly physical. Now I'm in a new relationship going on 6 months and he's still trying to get back to where we were. It's not like he can't get women, his status alone causes women to chase him and he could have a different woman for everyday of the week. I liked him for him and even develope feelings for him but he said he didn't want anything serious and I said fine. I'm still young and I was playing the field so it was nothing to me. But then things changed when my current boyfriend started coming around. He would say things like I don't want to see him around you, I don't like it. I told him that if he didn't like what he saw, then not to look. Now he's constantly trying to see if I would do anything with him by trying to make me reminisce about the past but it's not working. My question is, is he just misreble with his own life that he doesn't want me to be happy?
2006-11-06 01:28:58 · 14 answers · asked by Mimy ImFurst 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason I still see him is because his office is in my building and my boss still does business dealings with him. I'm not going to lie, he was my booty call and in the beginning it was hard to pay attention to him but it just got easier as time went on. I'm guessing maybe he did or still does have feelings because when I wouldn't email, call, text, he would question me and ask me if I didn't miss him. I did but I wasn't going to stroke his ego like other girls. Mind you, there's a 14 year age gap, I was 22 and he was 36...
2006-11-06 01:42:31 · update #1
He is jealous. He may have SAID that he didn't want to get involved but he did and now he wants you back. If YOU are allowing this situation to make you unhappy that isn't his fault though. He is not responsible for your unhappiness or your happiness, that comes from within you.
2006-11-06 01:31:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey girl !!! The 36y/o needs to be out of your thoughts. I know he played a big role in your life but it's out with the old and in the new. He just, as the girl above said, wants what he can't have. He seems really needy and insecure and doesn't like things over until he says it's over (due to his "status" as you say, he must love power), but guess what, you said it first and that's a blow to his ego. Guys that do the yoyo thing are so annoying, I'm seeing someone now that's in and out of my life (booty call) and it's fine for now but when I start a real relationship I'm saying "later". It's only natural for him to be jealous, I mean you were seeing each other for 2 yrs and even though there's no sincere emotion, a bond forms and guys will consider you their "territory". He sees that you are happy and is jealous that he isn't as happy as you are. If he had met someone first he would have been the one to do it to you, it was just a matter of time. Just be proud that he is swooning over you and you have the control. He should be with someone his own age, he's going through a mid- life crisis and this insecurity is making him rely on you to make him feel better. His feeling are not your responisibility. You have so much to look forward to in your life and he is just bagage. Be polite if you see him but really he's just useless to you!!
TTYL :)
2006-11-06 12:25:52 · answer #2 · answered by lea 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is the fact that you have a boyfriend in your life that is upsetting. You see while you were playing the field so was he. Now you have something that could be a little more serious he isnt going to like that. You are no longer waiting around on his a$$ and he knows he may lose you permanently, before he could think, oh well when I am done playing the field and so is she maybe I could decide to be serious.
2006-11-06 01:34:59 · answer #3 · answered by lisapj 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me get this straight: You were dating/sleeping with/whatever a guy that you broke up with over two years ago, correct? Now you are in a relationship with another guy going on 6 months. Why is the first guy even still in the picture? Why are you still talking to him? You are in a relationship with someone else. Tell the first guy to piss off. It doesn't matter if he's miserable with his own life or doesn't want you to be happy. It doesn't matter if he wants blue monkeys to fly out of his butt. He's a jerk, you're seeing someone else, stay away from him.
2006-11-06 01:34:01 · answer #4 · answered by badkitty1969 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thrilling question !! you're head over heels in love with bf yet you choose somebody else into your mattress so which you've some exciting !! sounds like something is unquestionably incorrect with this photograph, yet basically according to info i will make it easier to realize that your relationship will exchange dramatically after this 3-some and quite in all probability you would be unfastened and finding for bf #2 presently thereafter. there's a dynamic that basically basically variations the complexion of a relationship while a third celebration will become in touch. sturdy success
2016-10-15 10:44:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a low self-esteem problem on his behalf. Try stroking his ego a little bit and reassuring him of your feelings. You are going about your answers in a wrong way and one in which is still giving him reason to doubt you. May sound like you need to do more than you want to, but unless you want him / you to break up, unfortunately you are going to have to be the one to do so. Sounds sad, but it's true.
2006-11-06 01:33:09 · answer #6 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pple always want what they can't have or is already taken. Maybe he wants 2 fell like he can still have U even if Ur w/ some1 else, don't let him b right. If Ur new guys wants what the other1 didn't, then go 4 it b/c U'll have some1 who cares and actually wants a relationship. If that's what U want ofcourse.
2006-11-06 01:35:33 · answer #7 · answered by ♥less 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The challenge is in the chase. Maybe he thinks he's all that and a bag of chips...If you are happy in this new relationship, don't let him interfere. He is playing games with you, and if you fall for it, he'll probably drop you, cuz it's a game to see if you'll come back.
2006-11-06 01:33:35 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow...That's interesting. It sounds like he cared more for you than he was letting on. Some guys just have a fear of committment and will be happiest as long as they don't have to make one.....Now, he sounds jealous...I think the guy really cared for you.
2006-11-06 01:33:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get on with your life and forget this loser. He is a manipulative person that will only make you miserable. Good Luck.
2006-11-06 01:31:03 · answer #10 · answered by Lt 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋