What is the best approach to dealing with a woman who says one thing but means another?

Question

I was brought up to respect a persons choices. Yes means yes and no means no, but recently I missed out on an opportunity to be with a wonderful woman because I didnt read in between the lines.

Answer 1

Obviously she wasn't so wonderful if she couldn't be upfront and to the point. There are so many people out there who say one thing and mean another. These people are hard to understand so I tend to avoid them all together. It's diffucult enough to get to know someone, but when games come into the picture it's down right impossible. I'm sorry you feel that you missed out on a great thing, but in the long run you saved yourself a lot of headaches and frustration. It's hard enough to make sure that people are telling you the truth, let alone trying to figure out what they mean. People need to be forthcoming with information, if not then leave those people alone. Good luck.

Answer 2

unfortunately years ago i did work in a similar situation, it was a dr's office and it was horrible. 8 girls total and a male dr. i sat near the office manager and i would hear her talk nice to each girl and then she would rant insults about them as soon as they left. the dr was no help i think he actually liked the friction like it was amusing to him or something. i would leave work emotionally drained from all of the animosity and eventually i quit - of course after i secured another job. the only solid advice i can give is what i tried while working there, for each insult or nasty thing someone had to say about another employee i remained quiet, i began conversations about subjects that had nothing to do with work- or the people i worked with, as long as the conversation was about something else i remained cheerful and engaged and if it turned ugly i kept myself out of it. after a while most of the people there wouldn't get me too involved with there pettiness and did make a few lasting friendships however it stayed in my head that i would wonder how much they trashed me for ignoring all of their crap.

Answer 3

Ask her to be a little more blunt with you. It's time for women to learn that men basically cannot read between the lines and its up to us to be open and honest. Or rather, that's how I am and I don't miss out on too many opportunities. If it weren't for me being open, then I wouldn't be engaged to the wonderful man I am currently engaged to because he'd never have gotten the fact that I liked him.

Answer 4

Same here. My hubby is the same too. He's not the first guy I was ever with but in due time, you will come across someone else like yourself and will hit it off. My hubby and I will have to explain our words sometimes because I can usually figure others out but not him. He says the same about me. I guess we are opposite and the same too. Respect is rare and I cherish what respect I am given and resent people who abuse what is given to them. You will hook up with the right lady someday and she'll be one of the few lucky ones out there to have someone like you. Good luck and keep your style.

Answer 5

misunderstanding ==> Divorce

Answer 6

Get used to it. They expect us to read their minds.

Answer 7

If you catch them lieing once, tell them so and goodbye.

Answer 8

u have to slap some sence into them somtimes

Answer 9

Take that beeatch and rape that arrse!

Answer 10

Ask to make sure...