I am a 38 yr old educated professional. My boyfriend has a little college, but is CFO of a company. After 1.5 years of dating I have discovered that he is dumb!
No knowledge of Disney Movies, gardening (He grew up on a farm)., gym excercise machines, cars, cooking, little knowledge of PCs and programs, .. No knowlege of simple things like painting a wall, ...trust me he didn't grow up in a wealthy family. lol
#1 He is a CFO
#2 He is 42 years old
I find that he has no knowledge of things that exist in his everyday life for the past 10 years. He keeps saying, "I didn't know. "
It has started to scare me. Could there be a learning/mental disablitiy in play here?
Are there any quizes or websites that might give some insight.
He is a great guy, but so stupid,....he has become dangerous.
Thank you. Kathy
2006-11-06 01:01:05 · 11 answers · asked by Kathy E 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Many people score high on test...but have no common sense...it is something you are either born with or not .....sorry to say you will have to show him how to do these things. My ex husband had IQ of 156 and he put a plactic lid in place of oil cap he lost for his truck...even though i told him it would melt...and needless to say his truck motor blew up....lol
2006-11-06 01:03:42 · answer #1 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is very smart to say "I didn't know" to escape for all the things that 1. not interest him 2. doesn't bother to know 3. doesn't want to get involved in....as long as he knows math and hold an important position as a CFO. $ is not a problem to re-educate him 2. hire someone to do everything for him. In love, there is no fear. Just love him out of the fear that he is a little mental. Ha. good luck.
2006-11-06 02:31:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he gotten this way over the last 1.5 years or did you notice this from the beginning. If he has gotten this way, it could be signs of Alzheimer's, because he may have known these things at one time, but have forgotten them recently.
Consider asking him if he thinks he has memory problems. Play memory retention games, like "Concentration" and see if he does not do well.
If it seems physical, not learning, then get him to a doctor. In addition to the routine tests, get him checked out for high insulin (hyperinsulinemia) which is linked to other conditions that can result in memory loss.
2006-11-06 01:19:04 · answer #3 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex-husband was this way - extremely book smart, but couldn't change a light bulb (honestly). I've known him for almost 20 years, and I know that he just has zero common sense or knowledge of basic culture. I could never ever get over it or understand it.
Think about this though - I lost respect for him over the types of things we're talking about here, just basic stuff. I'm not an intellectual giant, but he was just soooo ignorant. I lost enough respect and had to do so much for myself as far as learning more about car and home repairs, child-rearing, etc. that it was one of the reasons that I divorced him. I could never trust that he would do the right thing because he didn't know what the right thing was!!!
He was both a doctor and a lawyer (scary right?!)
My advice to you would be to find your intellectual equal (or closer to it), because that loss of respect will kill your relationship eventually.
2006-11-06 01:18:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not married to a rocket scientist but I love him. I am relatively intelligent and went to college and he only graduated high school, but I found different people are smart in different ways. He can do almost any kind of electrical, car, landscaping, plumbing work etc. But isn't "book" smart. He grew up in an "old school" type of family. I doubt that it is a mental dsability. But if it is will you love him less?Help him with what he doesn't understand, teach him. Me and my husband teach each other what we don't know.
2006-11-06 01:14:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to worry. I have a friend who is also a bean counter and he doesn't know how to read a tape measure. The thought of having to use a hammer or screw driver gives him a panic attack.
As long as your BF makes enough to pay someone to do all the little tasks around the house all is well. He'll have more time to spend with you.
2006-11-06 01:05:21 · answer #6 · answered by superspiker69 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love conquers all. Love is blind. Help me to get over it. There are remedies to these things. Teach him the value of reading and self learning ...
2006-11-06 01:03:50 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm..... Let's see, it took you 1 and a half years to figure all this out? Now I'm wondering who is dumb and who is dumber.
2006-11-06 01:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by Mr. Peachy® 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got an amazing bf. do not miss him.
however this is a matter of personal choice
2006-11-06 01:38:02 · answer #9 · answered by Ormoz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Or maybe he just wants you to meanial labor for him and acts stupid to get out of it.
2006-11-06 01:03:24 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋