me and boyfriend have been going out for a year and a half. Last week he told me he didnt love me and never had. I cant understand it because he used to tell me all the time, now he says he just said it to keep me happy. He says he's never loved anyone before so he might love me but he just doesnt know what it is. He doesnt want out relationship to end and he says i mean everything to him and would be devestated if anything ever happened to me. To me none of this makes any sense and i just dont know what to do. I love him so much and it feels like my world would be over without him. I live with him and we spend all our time together but i just dont know if im being treated like a fool. He treats me well too which makes this even harder. please help and give me some outside advice
2006-11-06 00:56:59 · 16 answers · asked by taylor17689 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to me he does love you but hes just embarrassed about telling you.
2006-11-06 00:58:57 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It probably feels like the end of the world as far as you're concerned and I know it must be even harder because you say he treats you well. The trouble is to say he doesn't love you and never has is just plain mean. I suppose really it's up to you to stay or go and only you can make that decision. I hope whatever you do decide you don't let him play with your emotions, it's not fair to yourself. Know your limits and take time to make yourself happy, don't invest every aspect of your life in him because at the end of the day even if you do split, your life does carry on and you will be okay and at some point there will be someone else to enjoy life with. I hope you make the right decision for you, good luck.
2006-11-06 01:06:28 · answer #2 · answered by Flossie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think you should step back and ask your self what YOU want, then look at the situation, he can't make up his mind, if he leaves he is worried he will be alone, if he stays he is worried he will find someone else, i think you should take some time to ask your self, what u think love is, remember u r a beautiful person who has the right to ask for respect and honesty, i know u love this person but in the long run you need to do what is best for u, even if you loose this guy it won't be the end of the world, you will grieve and move on like everyone else who has loved and lost, so give it some thought, take your time.................. and hey im sure if he is a really nice guy the two of you could be friends in the end!
2006-11-06 01:06:09 · answer #3 · answered by missy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's just saying all this stuff now cause he doesn't want to ruin the cozy thing he has going on. You still live together so you're probably still doing you-know-what, plus he still gets all the perks of living together w/ the insane pleasure of being a huge jerk and getting away w/ it. You need to move on. It may seem hard now but it will be well worth it in the long run. Good luck.
2006-11-06 01:01:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't give ages so two answers
If your both under 21 I guess he has some growing up to do and is scared about the commitment so give him some time and reassurance
If your Both over 21 and the more then the stronger this should be taken, he is obviously trying to arrange this relationship as a backup location from which he will rove !
2006-11-06 01:00:43 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is confused right now. He doesn't know what love is and hes scared of it. I would give it a try and stay with him. Deep down inside of him he really loves you and just dont know it yet. Yeah maybe a year is a long time to find out but if you stayed with him this long dont give up now. You might lose the best thing in your life. Unless he treats you bad then i would leave. The descison is up to you so good luck!! hopefully he will realize what hes got and realize he loves you!!
2006-11-06 01:01:13 · answer #6 · answered by Jessick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ok if he doenst love you - leave
lifes too short, you have got to move on and find a guy who will love you and you will love him.
without mutual love, respect and admiration for each other, no couple can survive.
go before its too late.
discuss with him and tell him that you are confused about your relationship and that you want to be away from him for a while, as you see no point in staying together if he doesnt love you, move out with no intention of stepping back, see how it goes, see how your life without him goes, i am sure you will be fine
find a man who deserves you - and doesnt mess around with your heart and with your head !
2006-11-06 01:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by GorGeous_Girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on & find someone who can love you. He says he does not love you & never has. That is awful, especially after all the time you have invested in this relationship. You both want different things.
2006-11-06 01:03:49 · answer #8 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ouch, that's a tough one. I would give him a little time to sort out his feelings. And then sit down & have a heart to heart talk with him. He deserves to love and you deserve to be loved!
2006-11-06 00:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that sounds very bizarre. - saying you mean everything to him but he doesnt love you? he sounds very confused. has he had a difficult past, or has something happened recently to make him doubt himself? something must have changed or happened to make him act like this, find out what it is and there's your starting point
2006-11-06 01:02:42 · answer #10 · answered by monkeynuts 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just spend some time apart it may work out
2006-11-06 00:58:57 · answer #11 · answered by colin050659 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋