Last night my step-son who is 8 came into the kitchen with a big red welt on his forehead and asked his dad if he could see it. When his dad asked him what happened, he explained that he had punched himself in the head repeatidly. When we asked him why he would do that, he just said "I don't know".
My step-son has had what I would consider an unfortunate childhood at times. He and his sister switch from our house to their mothers house every 3 months. The lifestyles at each house are VERY different and I've always thought this to be hard on the kids. The mother got remarried about 2 years ago and her new husband was very abusive to my step-son, mostly mental but some physical abuse also. He and the mom are now divorced, although they have a child together so he's still around sometimes. My step-son also has a form of dwarfism that keeps him from getting to play sports and he knows he'll be shorter than everyone. I'm worried that there's more going on in his head than he can handle.
2006-11-06 00:55:14 · 7 answers · asked by jumbly 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I would get your step son into family counseling right away. I hate these split custody arrangements and the judges should be forced to live this way to see how it is.
Especially when your stepson has a problem like that. It is hard enough to fit in, but when you're different and have to keep entering and leaving social circles, that is really hard.
Is it about time to go home?
You should begin counseling for him right away. You should also keep a journal of any thing he says about abuse from the stepdad...the day he said it and any details he gives.....DON'T ASK HIM ANY QUESTIONS (his lawyer will say you led him) just let him tell you.
Also, if you notice marks on him, take a photo. I'm glad the stepdad is gone.
Perhaps you and your husband should consider going for full custody....but be careful.....courts side with moms....even if they suck.
Good Luck, get that counselor!
2006-11-06 01:04:34 · answer #1 · answered by jm1970 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know self abuse is a sign of some imbalance in his life. What you might want to try is taking him to see a child therapist. It does seem a lot for an 8 year old to handle. But gosh every 3 months he moves back and forth? that is so sad. If this custody arrangement was determined by a judge then that judge is nuts. If it is not then maybe your husband and the mom should get together and discuss something less hectic. Kids will handle stress differently than an adult and I think this is his way of handling it.
2006-11-06 01:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by Miss Vira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My auntie used to constantly do this as a child she would bite herself until she bled and hit herself bang head against walls all for attention she even told me about a story when she was about 8 my nan bathed her and after her bath she purposley went and played in the mud and when my pop came home and asked why she hadnt had a bath she replied cause mum said i wasnt allowed to. when i asked her why she did these things she said she felt as if she wasnt loved by her parents or her eight brothers and sisters (my dad included).. My aunty was a twin and her twin died. (more on topic) she said she just felt like an outcast as though she didnt belong.
2006-11-06 01:49:05 · answer #3 · answered by cheekykim17 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider help with a specialist before it gets worst.
Other then that take family trips like camping and a trip to MC Donald's.He needs more attention.
2006-11-06 01:01:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
definite its take place to me a pair of cases. I called the dr the two cases it befell. They advised me that as long as my daughter did no longer lose information, did no longer throw up, and is appearing popular and cried good away then she is wonderful. i might say while you're nevertheless particularly stressful call your ped. and refer to them. i might attempt to place some ice on his head to hold down the swelling. i replaced into advised to no longer provide my daughter any discomfort killers for the 1st night extraordinarily motrin. The bump on his head will take a while to bypass away so do no longer difficulty approximately that it will bypass away. I nevertheless difficulty while it happens and its complicated to no longer difficulty. i might nevertheless in all probability call his dr. and examine, that's what they're right here for. do no longer difficulty approximately paging them they have youngsters additionally and can do the comparable situation in the event that they have been on your place. sturdy success!
2016-10-15 10:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it sounds like he needs some counciling with his self-abuse problem.
2006-11-06 10:54:43 · answer #6 · answered by mamas_grandmasboy06 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would definately talk to hubby about taking him to a therapist or psychologist. he needt to talk, and he cant talk to you guys, obviously, i think thats why he is hittinh himself. get him the help he is crying for
2006-11-06 01:00:01 · answer #7 · answered by blondie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋