my parents still havent allowed me to have a boyfriend and i have been talking to this guy for 5 months already, he is really nice and hes smart, and we like eachother alot, we messed around a couple of times too. my family knows his family very welll, but my dad is judging him from his family, since he dont liek his grandmother cause he thinks they do wichcraft or voodoo. but my grandmother wants me to be with him and she would help me get together with him if my dad accepts it. should i tell my dad the truth about how i really feel, i mean its like we love eachother and we cant stay away from eachother, i want to be him so bad but he wants my dad to accept him, so should i ask my dad for permission and pray that he understands how i feel about this guy?
2006-11-06 00:54:29 · 14 answers · asked by emaria 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
if you really feel that it is time to speak to your dad about it, then why not ask your grandmother to do it? if she is his mother, she probably already knows how to manipulate him to get the answer you want. if that's not possible, and you have to talk to your father by yourself, start out non-commitally, saying only that you know the boy casually and you don't think the family is all that bad. ease into it, i don't think you should blurt everything out at once, that will only get a negative reaction from dad.
2006-11-06 01:00:03 · answer #1 · answered by domangelo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should always tell the truth. Even if it hurts your dad at first. In the long run your relationships will be healthier. Just imagine if you didn't share this with your dad and you marry this guy and your dad is totally upset. It could screw up your future relationship with your family. Its best to share your heart and talk with your dad, and mom too for that matter. I think your dad will appreciate your honesty. If you feel like your dad is a little overbearing, maybe talk to your mom and dad together. Sometimes parents can get out of touch with the early romance years, BUT they do have a lot of experience with long term relationships. (even if they have made mistakes.. the experience is still there)
2006-11-06 01:04:08 · answer #2 · answered by samw3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a brunch get-together with the families and hang out, let everyone get to know each other and mention it in front of the whole group. The way I look at it, you'll have support from both sides and your dad may not realize how much everyone else accepts you untill he sees it with his own eyes. Take the chance, tell him or it will eat you up. You will still see your bf anyway. You will find a way, since you have been already! Just know your limits and be safe around your bf. Good luck.
2006-11-06 01:00:13 · answer #3 · answered by onecharliecat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell him.
If you keep sneaking around like this then he is going to find out the wrong way and all hell is going to break loose.
There are certain parts of the story you should leave out, like the sneaking behind his back and fooling around.
Get your grandmother to help you all and just sit him down and tell him, politely, tell him how it is and that you really want to be with him and how MUCH his blessing would mean to you.
But if you all can make him understand that the guy isn't his grandmother and get his blessing then it will make it 10 time better in the end.
2006-11-06 00:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would your dad think that? Depending on how old you are...just the fact that your dad doesn't want you with this guy is only going to make you want to do it more. Just tell your dad that you are friends with the boy, but sneaking around, you will get caught, then grounded. Ask your dad what the real reason is that he doesn't care for the guy. Tell him that you are trying to understand his feelings about this.
2006-11-06 01:00:48 · answer #5 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your dad how you feel, if he says no keep on telling him and maybe he will come to understand how much you like this boy. You might even have your grandmother talk to him.
2006-11-06 00:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by Arual 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I take it that you are still very young.. Yes, tell your dad how you feel & try to be civil about it. Remember that you still need to respect your fathers decision if he doesnt want you to continue with the relationship. Although, to some level he should also respect you & give you a valid reason for his decision.
2006-11-06 00:59:59 · answer #7 · answered by Claude 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you say you love him as much as you do then i think you should sit your dad down with this guy and tell him how you guys feel about each other. if your feelings are really strong for each other then give your dad a option either in front of him or behind his back im sure hell come around sooner or later.........been there done that.
2006-11-06 00:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by smiley 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont lie to your parents yaar. love is no gunah.
be fair to everybody and if u want ur father to accept the guy, ull have to tell him and if u make it too late, itll hurt him a lot and then may be he refuses. so go for it, if u dint worry before loving, dont worry abt telling it. parents understand you yaar.
2006-11-06 01:00:29 · answer #9 · answered by AMIT G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sneaking around is never the answer,,it is like you and he are not really together,,would it be at all possible for your boyfriend to step up to the plate and go see your dad,,to show respect for him and for you,,,your boyfriend has to be known for himself and not the character of his family.it has to be worth a try and if your boyfriend really cares,he will do it.
2006-11-06 00:58:11 · answer #10 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋