I finished a 7 yr relationship and I regret it now, he was my first love and we grew apart, we moved in together then I found out he was cheating so I moved home we split up for 6 mths and then I took him back. I found it hard to trust him and I was going out more and I liked being single in them 6 mths, so I finished him over the phone. I know that is terrible and I really regret it now but at the time I knew if I did it face to face I would of chickened out! I needed to be single for a while and we agreed no contact but I want him back! How can I get him back????
2006-11-06 00:49:45 · 13 answers · asked by ? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you want to be cheated on again then call him and tell him you want him back.
2006-11-06 00:56:30 · answer #1 · answered by fajita 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
7 yrs is quite a long time to just call it quits like that. I know first hand how hard it is to forgive someone for cheating, but if you really loved that person you would give it your best shot. I did and still at times l think about it but try and put it out of my mind. It is easier to forgive than forget. Trust me. The fact that you enjoyed being single possibly means that you are not really ready to fully commit to a permanent relationship.And the fact that you finished your relationship with him over the phone instead of in person was a bit harsh. You say you now want him back. Are you really sure this time ? He may just think you are playing games with him. Please make real sure that this is what you want this time or you may not get another chance. Hopefully for your sake he is not in another relationship and perhaps you can both find the love you once had. For keeps this time. Good Luck
2006-11-06 09:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because he cheated does not make him a compulsive cheater. Everyone makes mistakes, and loving someone should allow the space for forgiveness. However, forgiving is not easy, and trust is difficult (but not impossible) to re-build. Only you know whether you think you can or whether he is worth the effort. What's the worst thing that can happen ? He cheats on you again - but you survived it last time you could survive it again, it doesn't kill. And the best thing ? Well perhaps he's your soul-mate - got to be worth taking a chance or two to find out. Go for it and good luck x
2006-11-06 09:10:08 · answer #3 · answered by misbehave4me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things will never be the same again. Would you be happy with a poor imitation of the relationship you once had? At first it won't seem so bad but time will make you regret the decision. Trust in fate, if you're meant to be together - stay apart and see if fate brings you together. What is meant to be, will be. Good luck.
2006-11-06 09:15:51 · answer #4 · answered by moe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all quit sweating him!. Because once you two get back together again it's going to be just like it was before-both of you wanting to live the single life. You have to live and learn cause if he wanted you back he would of called but you see he didn't then there's the fact that he would of never cheated on you at all.
2006-11-06 08:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by babygurl_vicki 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your relationship is ruined. You have grown apart and he's cheated. You obviously want to be single too. you just miss the security of having him and you miss him after 7 years together but you have to face up to facts here. the relationship is over beyond repair and its time to move on.
2006-11-06 08:55:01 · answer #6 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me that the guy will probably not want you back as although he cheated on you (a clear sign that he wasn't happy with the relationship or nto commited to you) you then forgave him and rejoined the relationship but then mucked him about
Forget this one and look to the future and make your mind up before doing this again !
2006-11-06 08:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by NTman_2000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are probably better off without him if he was cheating. take some time apart and see how you feel 6 months from now. it is very hard to gain trust back aftr someone has cheated.
2006-11-06 08:53:42 · answer #8 · answered by yensenm 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you did the right thing....he cheated on you...once it happens the trust will never completely come back......find someone else who will respect you and not cheat behind your back....
2006-11-06 09:10:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sure just tell him u want him back. Then he can cheat on u again.
2006-11-06 09:01:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋