I was dating this guy for about 5 months and he is an amazing guy and was wonderful to myself and my 4 yr old but he has a past with drugs and lately he's been drinking which makes him act like a totally different person and I hate it. Over the past few weeks we've been a bit more distant because he's been acting unlike himself. Sat. we were going to spend the day together and when I got there the first thing he did was look through my phone and called the last few #'s from the night before which were my parents # and brother in law. We'll after he did that it seemed like he did a 360 and so I asked him if he wanted us to leave and he said yes. I left and he kept trying to call but I wouldn't answer. Finally he texted me that he got the point and basically we texted each other back and forth all day with really hurtful things. He started it and I should have stopped it but he was hurting me and I reacted. In one of his texts he told me he's been cheating on me. He's still trying..
2006-11-06 00:37:50 · 14 answers · asked by Tricia P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it is all dependant on what you want to do. Lay down some ground rules about your relationship ie slow down/stop drinking, trusting you etc. If you get those things sorted out then i don't see why you can't be happy together esp if he is great to both you and your child. Good Luck
2006-11-06 00:43:21 · answer #1 · answered by celh26 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume..ugh that he knows where you live? Red flag here. Let him go. Protect yourself and child. This has the potential of a domestic violence situation. I would go to the courthouse and file an ex-parte. Even if you think this is not bad now it will only get worse. He doesnt respect himself which in turn means he respects noone. Recipe for disaster.Be strong and move on. That is not love! You already know you shouldnt talk to him.Just take a step above and stand on it! Ex parte! You are responsible for yourself as well as child. And figure out why you were attracted to begin with. You need to do that out of respect for yourself. We all make mistakes.What is important is to acknowledge that and work through any misconceptions you may have with yourself. You need to understand self respect. Good luck. You can do this. Know that you could lose your child if you continue this relationship.Is a dangerous game and could turn deadly for you and the 4 year old. I know you love your child more than that. I hope you respect yourself more than I think.Only can hope. Take care.
2006-11-06 01:19:24 · answer #2 · answered by bountyhunter101 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's looking through your phone & calling the last numbers you should get rid of him before someone gets hurt...Your 4 year old doesn't need to be around that kind of behavior,,He seems like a very jeolous person...Having a relationship with a jeolous man can be dangerous for you and your child...Do what ever you have to stay away from him....
2006-11-06 00:47:07 · answer #3 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that your relationship has definitely turned sour, and with a 4-year-old to take care of, you can't take the risk of being with someone who will hurt your child (or cause them to be hurt by Mommy's mood dealing with this guy). I'd stop answering his text messages. Give it a break, at least for now. See what happens, if he comes around, the old him, and if that's even what you want eventually. Who knows, your feelings for him might change after a break. But whatever you do, keep YOUR well-being and your child's at the front of your mind. Don't let someone else's bad habits run or ruin your lives.
2006-11-06 00:43:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mary C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on my dear
dont answer his calls and please dont txt back either
you have your 4 year old to think about and the fact that he drinks makes it even worse for both you and your child
you child comes first and bringing him/ her up with him is a bad decision
plus he not trusting you, it shows that he is one who likes to be in control
that's not good because the world is not built that way
move on
2006-11-06 00:50:40 · answer #5 · answered by annie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got as far as the drugs and the 4 year old son part and it's clear to me these two don't mix...ever. Let go. If for no other reason....let go. Good luck.
2006-11-06 00:41:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make your child your #1 priority. Love yourself more than you love this guy & walk away from the relationship. Your child doesn't need all of the drama of this jerk.
2006-11-06 00:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Daiquiri Dream 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is not good for you... just stop it now before it gets worse. i can't believe he went through your phone. that's a sign that he doesn't trust you... and and he's already admitted to cheating on you... why... because he's a looser.
2006-11-06 00:43:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is up to you me i stopped talking to my x because i have a man now
2006-11-06 00:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by a.d lovez trina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need to stop being immature and grow up. move on with your life.
2006-11-06 00:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋