We don't hit in our home, so he has learned this on his own. I also think slapping him back like some have told me would just "at this age" encourage him to copy us by hitting back
2006-11-06 00:33:14 · 8 answers · asked by dpinscsher 5 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
He hits us (MOM and DAD) in anger and play
2006-11-06 12:33:08 · update #1
They learn from their parents. Think about it next time you don't want him to do something, where did he learn it.
2006-11-06 00:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Texan 6 · 1⤊ 4⤋
You're right about not hitting back. How can a child learn from a behavior if the result is also the action? I would hold his/her hands and say 'no' without smiling or laughing. If that doesn't work, take the child away from the area where it happened, so you have the child's full attention and tell him/her 'no' and say what you are saying 'no' to. Like 'no hitting. We do not hit. Hitting is not nice' or something along the lines. The baby will not associate what you are saying no to, unless you put it in a sentance of what not to do again. Don't tell the baby that they are being bad, say they are a good boy/girl, but the action itself is not nice. Don't put the baby down for something he/she is unaware of being a good or bad thing.
Good luck!
Also, notice what the baby is doing when they start the hitting. If they are getting over excited, make sure you notice that, and next time, maybe calm them down before they get to that point. Or, if it is when they are out of the house compared to in the house. Or who they have been around lately...
2006-11-06 00:43:10 · answer #2 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh boy, we went through this! For heaven's sake don't listen to people who say slap him back. Just be consistent and realize it might go on for a while before you see improvement. Try to keep your reaction calm (but firm) and neutral because a strong reaction from you either good or bad can be construed as a reward. I would take my son and remove him from the situation, tell him "no hitting" (no sense in explaining why at this age.. the message just gets tlost). Then go lavish attention on the child he hit (my son HATED this). If the hit was over a toy, he can't have it back. It's just a phase - one year olds love cause and effect good or bad! My son is now 3 and the most gentle child - has never hit or bit since that phase.
Good luck!
2006-11-06 00:51:23 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very common at this age for a baby to slap. They don't know what they are doing and just like to see a reaction. They aren't hitting to hurt you; they are hitting to see what happens because you probably react in a certain way.
ABSOLUTELY in no way should you slap him back. The baby won't understand that you're trying to teach him not to slap by showing him what it feels like. All the baby will know is that you hit and hurt him and this will break his bond of trust with you.
I would firmly but gently say no and then model how you want to treated. Take his hand and give your face a gentle stroke with his hand and say "gentle" -- or use your hand to give HIS face a gentle stroke. Try not to overreact to a slap even though it may startle you and/or hurt you.
2006-11-06 01:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would agree with most of the answers about not slapping back, saying "no, we don't hit", time out, etc, but add make a fuss over the victim. If your child slaps Johnny, take Johnny aside and make sure he is okay. Your child will see that he hurt Johnny and may even start to sympathize. Understanding that he caused pain is key.
2006-11-06 06:43:11 · answer #5 · answered by Candace 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to slap him back-and that doesn't work for everyone,just tell him no,very firmly,each time he does it.And I mean,you have to really get into it,making the faces to go with the voice.My seven month old likes to grab and squeeze really hard and he's now starting to get the "no-no" voice and face.He screams when I do it,but he's catching on.And they do a lot of things on their own.I mean,my first one bit us quite a lot for a while.It's not like he picked THAT up from us!
2006-11-06 00:43:56 · answer #6 · answered by kimberli 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know that the next time he does it, he will have to go to the "couch" or "in his room"
for a time out. And talking to him about it will help too.
A good book if you would like to read is "Power of a Praying Parent" By Stormie Omartian. Very good. It has helped me tremendously!
2006-11-06 01:03:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
slap him back each time he slaps. worked for me
2006-11-06 00:39:29 · answer #8 · answered by DASH 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋